Sorry for being a PW today... But I've got stuff on my mind!
How long is too long for a business trip? I make a 7-10 day trip once every 5-6 weeks and it's hard to be away for that long but it's manageable.
However, I have a trip from November 1st-12th. That's the original plan. But now they want me somewhere around the end of October. So I'd have to leave on the 25th. That's October 25th - November 12th: Three weeks away from home.
Would that be too long for you and your FI/DH?
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Re: Business Trip: How Long is Too Long?
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Come the end of the year, is when he travels the most. But 3 weeks is still a long time. But it's his job, so I deal.
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
Right now we're in Mexico, and I would take a break during the three weeks and come home for at least a long weekend. But we'll be living in the U.K. then and the flights are 12+ hours. So I can't exactly go home for the weekend.
I don't want to leave DH in London alone for that long, but I also don't want to let down my company. It's a family-run company and we're very good friends. And they do need me for this.
I totally understand what your are going through, we are in that situation where there are several timezones between DH and I, but yet things get done, and time spent together is like a whirlwind of love at each meeting.
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
I go on vacation at least once a year without T and typically for 5 days to a week. I always have a blast and don't get very homesick. However, on this trip I just got home from it was 1 week and for whatever reason I really, really missed him. I wouldn't want to do longer than 2 weeks.
I think part of my thing was spending my birthday without him. I had spent the past 4 birthdays with him and it just felt weird.
I find it easier when I leave. When he leaves me to go somewhere it sucks so much more because the house feels empty.
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[QUOTE]I find it easier when I leave. When he leaves me to go somewhere it sucks so much more because the house feels empty.
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This is the truth. And I just feel bad about leaving him alone for so long in an empty apartment in London. At least if we were here (Mexico) he'd have his friends and family around.
I think I'm going to fly home for a long weekend anyway.
I often have to go on long business trips, work 16 hour days on weekends, etc. If I spend 24 hours working on a weekend (think 2 12 hour days) then I get one day of comp time I can use within the next week or two. It isn't much, but it something.
[QUOTE]Does your company offer you compensation time? I often have to go on long business trips, work 16 hour days on weekends, etc. If I spend 24 hours working on a weekend (think 2 12 hour days) then I get one day of comp time I can use within the next week or two. It isn't much, but it something.
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No, we're not that structured. Which is a good thing because I work from home and they're understanding about my living situation ;)
FI was offered a job last month, he would have been traveling for three weeks and home for one week, repeat, repeat, repeat. He turned it down because he hates traveling and didn't want to spend that much time away from us. I didn't want him to take it, but I told him I would support whatever decision he made, and I would have.
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My boyfriend is in the Marines, so he's already done Officer Candidate School, which had him gone for 10 weeks without any form of communication except hand written letters. He's likely to be gone quite often throughout his career for varying lengths of time, though I'm lucky with his specialty (he's going to be a JAG - aka military lawyer) he will probably only deploy once and for 4-6 months.
We have had to get used to being apart, and it's a constant work in progress as we'd obviously prefer to be together. When it's for longer than 2-3 days, we miss each other like crazy, but we really enjoy the reinvigorating that occurs when we are back together. Missing each other helps us refresh our relationship each and every time one of us takes a trip, and we really value every day that we have together. Little things like waking up in his arms can just make my whole day better.
So there's no maximum length of business trip. I think in a normal (aka non-military) situation, a week business trip is long enough. Two weeks once or twice a year would be fine. It depends more on the frequency of the trip than the length.
EDIT: If there are kids at home, I think a week is long enough. BF knows that I want him to get his deployment (since he'll likely only have one) out of the way before we start a family.