Ok, I know that the pregnant woman can't plan the baby shower, but I currently have a small dilemma and am trying to diffuse the situation before it begins.
Last week my mom brought up throwing me a baby shower, complete with a virtual portion since 90% of our families are across the country and have recently discovered the fun of video chatting. Her plan was to invite people over to my house (bigger than hers), we'd eat snacks, hang out, fire up the video chat and open up gifts. I don't think she even knows about games and I already informed her there would be no candy bar diaper or baby food game.
Last night mil brought up that she's so excited to plan my baby shower and just needs to get an invite list from me. The plan is to go to a local inn for brunch, open presents there, then everyone go home.
Here's the thing...I don'tthink more than 10 people would come to the shower because A) I don't know a lot of people and
most live 2 hours away. Mil does not think males belong at baby showers, but I like the showers I've gone too where they are included. H is going to be dealing with the Whomplette after all and most of my friends would want to make the drive with their H/Fi/Bf.
I'm grateful that mil feels so excited about the baby and wants to be involved so much, but I feel like my mom is getting the shaft. This is my parent's first and (likely) only grandchild so I know they are really excited to plan things for me/the baby and help out. The mean part of me is going "you already have a granddaughter, let my parents enjoy this one ok?"
CN: mil getting too enthusiastic about helping with shower and I feel like mom is getting the shaft. Just whining really and maybe looking at good compromises for baby showers.
ETA: to clarify "mom planning" statement.