Sort of a funny predicament

pixiedust84

Thanks ladies! I'll leave up the CN - they're cryptic enough :-)

CN: Flaky friend sort of in passing asks me to be in her wedding. Haven't spoken since (9 months ago). Just found out through the grapevine that her wedding is while we'll be on our honeymoon. How should I approach the situation?

kd.joseph

Just wait and see what happens. No sense stirring the pot yet.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

This might just be me - but I wouldn't bring it up with her!  I'd wait it out and then tell her.

pixiedust84

Yeah I think that's probably the best course of action. Who knows - her wedding date may change too! Thanks guys!

pirategal03

I have a friend like that.  Just wait it out. 

marissa_claire

If she did ask you then she'll be asking you to check out dresses before too long.  As you've probably seen on the board, some people are fairly uncomfortable figuring out how to ask their BM's to be a part of the wedding.... maybe that's her case?  

betrothed123

I'd also wait ti out.  Honestly, at this point you don't even really know if you're going to be invited (she may have said all those things to you before in the heat of the moment and things may have changed), so if you were to bring it up you could be creating an awkward situation for both of you.

pixiedust84

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[QUOTE]I'd also wait ti out.  Honestly, at this point you don't even really know if you're going to be invited (she may have said all those things to you before in the heat of the moment and things may have changed), so if you were to bring it up you could be creating an awkward situation for both of you.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

Yeah that's a great point! I'm just so glad I didn't say something back like "Oh you'll have to be in mine too!" I didn't intend on asking her and I'm glad I didn't cave when she "asked" me! I'll just wait it out. Although knowing her she could totally come back in a few months and be like "Okay here's the dress and here's the date, yay!" Or she could never mention it again. Haha - yeah waiting it out is the best option. 

JennaV26

You're not exactly committed to her wedding since she hasn't officially asked you or even given you a date so I wouldn't bring it up. If and when she does start trying to include you, that will be the time for you to let her know.

She was probably so wrapped up in being engaged she didn't really think about what she was saying.

SarahPLiz

I'd wait. No need to say anything if she hasn't yet. 

BecW2be

I'd wait it out.

What's going on in your sig pic? It looks like wherever you were, it was amazing.

pixiedust84

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[QUOTE]I'd wait it out. What's going on in your sig pic? It looks like wherever you were, it was amazing. :)
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

Haha - that's me on the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro with my guide, Muhammed and Fi-on-a-stick! (This was in 2010 - he and I also did it in 2008 but he couldn't come this time!) It was amazing!

JennaV26

One time when we first got engaged I got a little tipsy and told pretty much the entire bar that they could be in my wedding, specifically BMs. None of those people called to tell me they couldn't make it.

pixiedust84

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[QUOTE]One time when we first got engaged I got a little tipsy and told pretty much the entire bar that they could be in my wedding, specifically BMs. None of those people called to tell me they couldn't make it.
Posted by JennaV26[/QUOTE]

HAHA that's sort of awesome. And I know I don't really know you but I can totally picture you doing that.

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sort of a funny predicament : Haha - that's me on the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro with my guide, Muhammed and Fi-on-a-stick! (This was in 2010 - he and I also did it in 2008 but he couldn't come this time!) It was amazing!
Posted by pixiedust84[/QUOTE]

*LOVE* I was almost afraid to ask, because of the FI-on-a-stick! I was afraid it was someone who'd passed away and you were honoring him with a monumentous hike. :) I'm glad he just couldn't make it that time.

pixiedust84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sort of a funny predicament : *LOVE* I was almost afraid to ask, because of the FI-on-a-stick! I was afraid it was someone who'd passed away and you were honoring him with a monumentous hike. :) I'm glad he just couldn't make it that time.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

Aww you're so nice. Fi is alive and well! Actually though it's interesting that you say that because I was climbing to raise money for the American Cancer Society. Both times - the first time we climbed in support of our good friend Jacquie who was battling Leukemia at the time, and this past February I sadly had to climb in her memory. She passed away in 2008. So I did have her picture too but on a big banner - Fi just got on a stick because he couldn't come. Plus the first time we went we didn't summit at the same time so I really wanted him and I to have a summit picture together! So this counts :-)

pixiedust84

Also there's more pics in my bio - feel free to check them out :-)

dazed2confused

I would wait it out, but here is what else i'd do.  I'd give her a call and chat and see if she mentions it herself or even talk abt ur HM but not the conflict of date just to see whats going on and so she does know ur plans.