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Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!

Gather round y’all. It’s story time.

 

For the sake of length I’ll summarize the morning leading up to the reception.

 

For hair and make-up my Dad’s GF (we’ll call her T from now on) was supposed to ave hers done in her room while me, the bms an my mom were in my room. Due to a bunch of circumstances that no one could control, we all ended up in the same room. You’d think that everyone would behave like adults..right? no. From the minute, T came in the room my mom was throwing fits, basically about her breathing the same air. If I was out of “sight” and T was out of sight for 5 seconds my mom came looking. It was absolutely crazy. 

Once me and the BMs left the hotel room we decided that it would be best to shut down the bridal room to “decompress” from the morning.That worked...for a while. I had to have T come in to give her instructions on where to place certain items since there was a misunderstanding about where they were supposed to go. During that time, my mom shows up and starts knocking. We had T tell her that we needed 10 more minutes for pictures and then sent the McGowans out the side door. Well, Mom proceeds to yell (pretty much) “I AM THE MOTHER OF THE BRIDE..I DON’T NEED YOU TO TELL ME ANYTHING” When she’s told that we needed 10 minutes.

 

She keeps knocking and knocking and knocking until she finally snuck in when the videographer left. It was seriously the most awkward thing ever. She brought in her random BF and he just stood. Then she just sat there and stared at me. I hinted at her to leave...but she wouldn’t take the hint. While she was in there I looked at her corsage, and it looked like poor quality, IMO. So I asked her if they all looked like that, she said they did...and I said...Oh...nice...er. So obviously I wasn’t happy. So finally she left, and from the looks of the pics on FB she stood in the lobby griping about who knows what. There was more griping and dirty looks during family pics when Chelsea called Dad and T to do a picture. 

 

We finally got rid of them and I thought we were home free. Not quite.
When H and I sat down to eat, I could see/hear my mother griping about her corsage and her hair falling. Then the whole table comforted her “Oh No! It looks so cute!” I got word that Mom’s friends had gone to the planner about her chair at the ceremony (2nd row) and about how it was rude and the planner shouldn’t have let me seat her there. 

So, a few minutes later I was up talking to the planner (about the candy bar..unrelated). When I was snagged by a few other people, and then I turn around and my Mom is standing there “YOU CAN TELL YOUR FLORIST THIS IS CRAP....AND my hair is falling”.
So I called her on her crap and asked her if she thought I did it on purpose, since she just spent a good chunk of time bitching about it to her table...oh and to tell her friends to keep their mouths shut and don’t speak to my vendors because they didn’t pay anyone. She called T a fatass and I told her I was done with the convo. She followed me to my table. Once everyone (Mom, Dad, Planner, H) was over there. I just said I wanted to go outside ALONE. Apparently the planner got between me and my mom and held the door shut after me and told my mom to respect my wishes and she said “I’LL TALK TO MY DAUGHTER WHENEVER THE EFF I WANT.’’
So the planner really had no choice but to let her come outside. My Dad called the security guard over and my MOH,the planner and the security guard told her to give me a minute...again. She wouldn’t listen to reason. 

So, I ended up up the street in the alley behind the ballroom...crying with H shortly behind me.

Well, once the dust settled and I got my cry out. I got pissed. So I went up to the door where Mom was still yelling at the planner and got between her and the planner and said “You don’t talk to my planner like that. We’re going to go inside,I’ll have my make up redone, eat some cake, have some fun and I expect you all to put on your big girls panties and behave like adults” Then her and her sister tried to say something...and I said “NO. I’m going in. You’re behaving like adults. THE END.”

 

So I got my make up done and Mel brought me and my BMs tequila shots in the bathroom. That was awesome. :)

 

During the cake cutting she was over at her table being consoled because, you know, her life is tough. She spent about 90% of the rest of the reception bitching about one thing or another.
Then the exit..T was handing out bubbles and my mom goes “OF COURSE, IT WOULD HAVE TO BE YOU THAT BROUGHT THE BUBBLES OVER HERE”. 

She really had to be almost escorted out for our private last dance because she said “NO, I’m not going...” and Melody says “Ooops..yea...srry...everyone out!”


Then we went to the hotel. And it was over. THANK GOODNESS!

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Re: Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!

  • Holy Cow Kathleen! how did you not end up kicking her out? How horrible of her to be so selfish and childish and ruin your day. I'm really speechless. I'm so sorry that had to happen to you.
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  • WHOA.  How crazy.  =(  But hey, on the bright side -- you're still married AND you have a shining example of how NOT to treat your future daughters/DILs on their wedding day!
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_gather-round-yall-long-youve-been-warnedand-you-asked-for-it?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:0b7b8dd6-241c-4956-9cf2-5993a61cde84Post:f6564250-2fcc-4727-9cb4-c7bdfbc1e09b">Re: Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!</a>:
    [QUOTE]WHOA.  How crazy.  =(  But hey, on the bright side -- you're still married AND you have a shining example of how NOT to treat your future daughters/<strong>DILs on their wedding da</strong>y!
    Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]
    Surprisingly enough, the ILs were AMAZING. <div>They were cordial and just great. MIL even talked and hugged SMIL.</div>
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  • Oh Kathleen, I am so sorry.  I hate that you have so many bad memories of your wedding day.  If it's any consolation, your pictures are beautiful and it looked like you did end up having alot of fun.  And, also evident by the pictures, you're married to an obviously wonderful man.

    How long until the honeymoon??  :)
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_gather-round-yall-long-youve-been-warnedand-you-asked-for-it?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:0b7b8dd6-241c-4956-9cf2-5993a61cde84Post:b0fcb036-f146-4391-9064-48cfc1708c6c">Re: Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it! : Surprisingly enough, the ILs were AMAZING.  They were cordial and just great. MIL even talked and hugged SMIL.
    Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]
    Oh, yeah, I didn't assume your ILs were crappy, I just wanted to include any future wives of your future sons.  =)
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_gather-round-yall-long-youve-been-warnedand-you-asked-for-it?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:0b7b8dd6-241c-4956-9cf2-5993a61cde84Post:077af1ce-ad18-41ab-a5d6-272b2c8c4e32">Re: Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh Kathleen, I am so sorry.  I hate that you have so many bad memories of your wedding day.  If it's any consolation, your pictures are beautiful and it looked like you did end up having alot of fun.  And, also evident by the pictures, you're married to an obviously wonderful man. <strong>How long until the honeymoon?</strong>?  :)
    Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]
    3 weeks! YAY!<div>
    </div><div>Amanda-I get it now.lol</div>
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  • Kathleen, I am so sorry you went through all of that, but am so glad you had some great vendors to help save the day and your honeymoon is not far away!
  • NOOOOOOOO.

    Do NOT eat this post, TK!!!!
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  • Eff you, TK. EFFF YOU!!!!
    ~DFWs Resident Snark~
    I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
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  • juliebug1997juliebug1997 member
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    edited April 2012
    CN:  Kathleen's mom was mad that dad's GF was even at the wedding and was causing a scene. 

    edited for spelling/used the wrong word.
  • I'm slow... Where did the post go?
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_gather-round-yall-long-youve-been-warnedand-you-asked-for-it?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:0b7b8dd6-241c-4956-9cf2-5993a61cde84Post:5be783a4-b04d-4913-a415-d62137dd15e7">Re: Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm slow... Where did the post go?
    Posted by laur2511[/QUOTE]

    <div>TK ate it.  =(</div>
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  • And to think of all the stupid crap I have posted that TK thought was worthy of keeping around...
  • Gah, so annoying! Kathleen, if you go to your posts in your profile can you find your original one and repost? I think when it ate one of mine I was still able to see it that way. When I tried to look at yours though, it will only show me the first page of your posts which doesn't go back that far.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_gather-round-yall-long-youve-been-warnedand-you-asked-for-it?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:0b7b8dd6-241c-4956-9cf2-5993a61cde84Post:7166c320-c8a6-41e3-a00d-936a10f4f16e">Re: Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Gah, so annoying! Kathleen, <strong>if you go to your posts in your profile can you find your original one and repost? </strong>I think when it ate one of mine I was still able to see it that way. When I tried to look at yours though, it will only show me the first page of your posts which doesn't go back that far.
    Posted by ejheart[/QUOTE]

    I tried this when it happened and I couldn't see it there either.
  • IT'S BACK!  Someone save it before it goes away again!
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_gather-round-yall-long-youve-been-warnedand-you-asked-for-it?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:0b7b8dd6-241c-4956-9cf2-5993a61cde84Post:f29356bb-33e3-4de6-abab-197ae86b1688">Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Gather round y’all. It’s story time.   For the sake of length I’ll summarize the morning leading up to the reception.   For hair and make-up my Dad’s GF (we’ll call her T from now on) was supposed to ave hers done in her room while me, the bms an my mom were in my room. Due to a bunch of circumstances that no one could control, we all ended up in the same room. You’d think that everyone would behave like adults..right? no. From the minute, T came in the room my mom was throwing fits, basically about her breathing the same air. If I was out of “sight” and T was out of sight for 5 seconds my mom came looking. It was absolutely crazy.  Once me and the BMs left the hotel room we decided that it would be best to shut down the bridal room to “decompress” from the morning.That worked...for a while. I had to have T come in to give her instructions on where to place certain items since there was a misunderstanding about where they were supposed to go. During that time, my mom shows up and starts knocking. We had T tell her that we needed 10 more minutes for pictures and then sent the McGowans out the side door. Well, Mom proceeds to yell (pretty much) “I AM THE MOTHER OF THE BRIDE..I DON’T NEED YOU TO TELL ME ANYTHING” When she’s told that we needed 10 minutes.   She keeps knocking and knocking and knocking until she finally snuck in when the videographer left. It was seriously the most awkward thing ever. She brought in her random BF and he just stood. Then she just sat there and stared at me. I hinted at her to leave...but she wouldn’t take the hint. While she was in there I looked at her corsage, and it looked like poor quality, IMO. So I asked her if they all looked like that, she said they did...and I said...Oh...nice...er. So obviously I wasn’t happy. So finally she left, and from the looks of the pics on FB she stood in the lobby griping about who knows what. There was more griping and dirty looks during family pics when Chelsea called Dad and T to do a picture.    We finally got rid of them and I thought we were home free. Not quite. When H and I sat down to eat, I could see/hear my mother griping about her corsage and her hair falling. Then the whole table comforted her “Oh No! It looks so cute!” I got word that Mom’s friends had gone to the planner about her chair at the ceremony (2nd row) and about how it was rude and the planner shouldn’t have let me seat her there.  So, a few minutes later I was up talking to the planner (about the candy bar..unrelated). When I was snagged by a few other people, and then I turn around and my Mom is standing there “YOU CAN TELL YOUR FLORIST THIS IS CRAP....AND my hair is falling”. So I called her on her crap and asked her if she thought I did it on purpose, since she just spent a good chunk of time bitching about it to her table...oh and to tell her friends to keep their mouths shut and don’t speak to my vendors because they didn’t pay anyone. She called T a fatass and I told her I was done with the convo. She followed me to my table. Once everyone (Mom, Dad, Planner, H) was over there. I just said I wanted to go outside ALONE. Apparently the planner got between me and my mom and held the door shut after me and told my mom to respect my wishes and she said “I’LL TALK TO MY DAUGHTER WHENEVER THE EFF I WANT.’’ So the planner really had no choice but to let her come outside. My Dad called the security guard over and my MOH,the planner and the security guard told her to give me a minute...again. She wouldn’t listen to reason.  So, I ended up up the street in the alley behind the ballroom...crying with H shortly behind me. Well, once the dust settled and I got my cry out. I got pissed. So I went up to the door where Mom was still yelling at the planner and got between her and the planner and said “You don’t talk to my planner like that. We’re going to go inside,I’ll have my make up redone, eat some cake, have some fun and I expect you all to put on your big girls panties and behave like adults” Then her and her sister tried to say something...and I said “NO. I’m going in. You’re behaving like adults. THE END.”   So I got my make up done and Mel brought me and my BMs tequila shots in the bathroom. That was awesome. :)   During the cake cutting she was over at her table being consoled because, you know, her life is tough. She spent about 90% of the rest of the reception bitching about one thing or another. Then the exit..T was handing out bubbles and my mom goes “OF COURSE, IT WOULD HAVE TO BE YOU THAT BROUGHT THE BUBBLES OVER HERE”.  She really had to be almost escorted out for our private last dance because she said “NO, I’m not going...” and Melody says “Ooops..yea...srry...everyone out!” Then we went to the hotel. And it was over. THANK GOODNESS!
    Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

    Oh and I saved the reviews too.
  • ejheartejheart member
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    Oh my gosh...I can't believe someone, anyone, much less your mom could be so immature on you and your H's day! Ugh. This story makes me really nervous about my wedding day and how good or not good my family's behavior will be. However, my mom hasn't even met my dad's GF and who knows if he'll even have the same one by then. I'm not really worried about my mom though, more the rest of the fam (some of whom dislike my dad).

    Anywho, sorry that you had to go through that! I agree with PPs though...it seems like everything ended up ok and it's good that you had a great time, regardless. Everything looked so beautiful.

    Have you talked to her since? I'm guessing there are going to be some awkward talks in the near future... :/
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  • My goodness Kathleen. I am so sorry that this happened! You would hope people could behave like adults, but alas, some people aren't that way and it is our job to babysit them. Again- your pictures are incredible and I hope that you can cherish those as the real example of how your night went. As you said, it is over and done with. Most important now- you are an OMH and you have an awesome honeymoon to go on. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_gather-round-yall-long-youve-been-warnedand-you-asked-for-it?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:0b7b8dd6-241c-4956-9cf2-5993a61cde84Post:e7a27b26-d8fc-4978-b734-9cd638842ccd">Re: Gather Round Y'all-Long-you've been warned...and you asked for it!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh my gosh...I can't believe someone, anyone, much less your mom could be so immature on you and your H's day! Ugh. This story makes me really nervous about my wedding day and how good or not good my family's behavior will be. However, my mom hasn't even met my dad's GF and who knows if he'll even have the same one by then. I'm not really worried about my mom though, more the rest of the fam (some of whom dislike my dad). Anywho, sorry that you had to go through that! I agree with PPs though...it seems like everything ended up ok and it's good that you had a great time, regardless. Everything looked so beautiful.<strong> Have you talked to her since? </strong>I'm guessing there are going to be some awkward talks in the near future... :/
    Posted by ejheart[/QUOTE]
    Yea...She claimed she didn't do anything wrong. But all you have to do is tell her 3 times that you saw her do something and she'll back off and apologize (mainly because she knows she's lying anyways)<div>I basically just told her how shitty it was that her and her friends couldn't sit down and shut up for 5 hours to respect my wishes...and that it's really too bad that all these people that I invited had no respect for me on my own freaking wedding day. </div><div>It's always all about her.</div>
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