I'm marrying a great man in less than five months, and I absolutely love his family. They are such nice people and have really accepted me as "one of their own". There is just one problem.
His mom's house is really dirty.
I will preface this by saying I am admittedly sensitive to dust/dirt/etc because when I was growing up, my mother was a total neat freak. I'm not a doctor (obviously) but I'd be willing to be she was OCD. Once she started going through menopause and started taking anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds, it got better. But for most of my childhood, my house was nearly spotless.
My house is not nearly as clean, but it's still pretty kept up.
My FI's family lives four hours away, so when we go visit, we stay with them. I would be content to get a hotel room, but that would be insulting to his mom (or so I'm told). Their house is very dusty and it bothers my allergies. I always bring some kind of allergy medicine with me since the first time we stayed, but it just doesn't seem to help. When we went over Christmas, I blew my nose all the time and often what came out was gray or black. To be frank, I'm pretty miserable when we go.
I can't tell his mom to clean her house when we come, but I don't want to offend her by staying in a hotel when we come either. And I REALLY don't want to tell my FI that his mom's house is dirty. That just seems so rude. But I DREAD going there, and it's only because of the allergy stuff. What do I do?!