My venue holds 200 MAX (its a small mansion built in the 1900's)
My guest list in currently 150 which is a very comfortable number for this venue
My mom is insisting I invite her aunts and cousins ((people who I dont know)) and its like 40 people! She and my father (divorced) are paying for the venue/food.
My FI cut back on his numbers to help with budget. If I invite all these people not only will seating be uncomfortable, the price will go up quite a bit for the extra dinner, cocktails, and apps.
I tried to explain this is not what we want, its not fair to my dad who will have almost none of his family there (he lives in texas, we live in indy)to spike up his total cost, yet she refuses to pay the extra for the people SHE wants there.
I know, money=strings. How do I defuse this situation?