Who's Up?

kaceymarie

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[QUOTE]I've been blasted for saying this before but I will say it again, I am so glad I do not have to deal with in law bs anymore. FI losing his parents has been terrible ands I feel so bad for him that they are gone now and won't be there for him at the wedding. But after hearing some of the horrible crap some of you have been through with your in laws I feel relieved that I don't have to go through that.
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

<div>in laws don't have to be horrible. mine have their opinions but they aren't that bad. we just do our own thing and they need to accept that and they do.</div>

ZombieNates

My FIL and SMIL are pretty chill. And honestly, my MIL can be very sweet. She just can't deal with the fact that H is an adult now with his own life, hence her trying to attend our HM. That's kind of the root of all of her issues with him, because she's not bad aside from that.

TBH, my mom can be pretty difficult due to all of her issues and H is amazing with her, so it evens out.

avsfan33

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[QUOTE]Az what did your mil do at your grad? What was her problem with your mom?
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

She's a crazy drunk lol. My mom stopped talking to her around Christmas because she's a massive liar and my mom got tired of her drama. H avoids her at all costs and rarely speaks to her because she only talks to him when she's drunk, when she wants something (especially money). At the grad, she basically pulled the same thing she always does. Attention wasn't on her so she threw massive fits infront of people, including our friends and their parents.

kaceymarie

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[QUOTE]My FIL and SMIL are pretty chill. And honestly, my MIL can be very sweet. <strong>She just can't deal with the fact that H is an adult now with his own life</strong>, hence her trying to attend our HM. That's kind of the root of all of her issues with him, because she's not bad aside from that. TBH, my mom can be pretty difficult due to all of her issues and H is amazing with her, so it evens out.
Posted by ZombieNates[/QUOTE]

<div>this. but except it's his dad. it's not a big deal but he says things like i wish you would of let me come with you when you got your new car. i tell my fi he is 26 now & his parents need to let him grow up.</div><div>
</div><div>but.. he does have a brother who lives at home and is 22 (i think) so i guess it just rubs off.</div>

avsfan33

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[QUOTE]Oh, for nails I just did a shellac mani in a French pink.  Just plain nails, nothing to take away from the new ring ;) The PHX airport has this jewelry store that has the most ridiculous, UNEEK spelling ever and it made me hate the entire airport on principle. Good for H standing up to MIL, Avs, and I'm glad she behaved at the wedding. My H struggles with his controlling mom so much--he hates things that she does/says to him, but he feels so guilty when he tells her off. I stay out of it for the most part (unless she drags me in), but it's hard to see him deal with.
Posted by ZombieNates[/QUOTE]

He has this problem too. He's gotten a lot better though at finally putting his foot down. His entire family makes him feel like shiiit though because she trashes him to his grandparents when she doesn't get her way. So then they start on him and won't listen to his side.

texasgurly13

I'm gonna be up for a few more minutes.  Just got home from the ER with FI. 

He strained his back lifting something at work and it's been bothering him for the past few days.  It's been slowly getting worse and he finally decided to get it checked out.  Everything is good; they just gave him muscle relaxants and some 800 mg ibuprofen to take to help it.  And he is on orders to rest for the next week or so (got a doctor's note).  

There is never a day in my FILs' lives where there isn't drama, whether its FFIL, FMIL, FBILs (either one of them) or FSIL or a combination of any of the above.  I've talked about it before.  

FI got a text from FMIL saying that FFIL wants to try and make things right and really get to know me.  I've been with FI for 3 1/2 years, and this is the first attempt he has made to try and get to know me.  And FSIL's ex (her daughter's father) is being an ass right now.  And FI's brother threatened not to be in the wedding if FFIL came (that all got straightened out, thankfully).  I love them (I tolerate FFIL...), but I'm glad that FI and I will be moving at the beginning of the year when I go to tech school.    

texasgurly13

Night Mrs.Jesse!

avsfan33

Night Mrs. J!

ZombieNates

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Who's Up? : He has this problem too. He's gotten a lot better though at finally putting his foot down. His entire family makes him feel like shiiit though because she trashes him to his grandparents when she doesn't get her way. So then they start on him and won't listen to his side.
Posted by avsfan33[/QUOTE]
Ugh, that's really hard.  N is getting better at communicating with her--he used to just shut down completely and either internalize it or lash out at her. The HM debacle was a big step in him really communicating why she upsets him and setting a boundary.

N's stepfather kind of plays interference sometimes, but he's so laid back that he doesn't always see an issue. Everyone else is just chill. I actually really love his big family. 

texasgurly13

I'm out too (just wanted to pop in to say hi).  Have a good night ladies!

avsfan33

Texas - that's insane.

I'm gonna go to bed too. Night ladies!

ZombieNates

Night, MrsJ!

Glad he's okay, Texas. And that does sound like a lot to deal with. Family is so much work sometimes.

texasgurly13

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[QUOTE]Wow Texas that's crazy. We have no relationship with FI brother. My bother and sisters are nuts too. So I guess FI is the one who got screwed on the in laws.
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yeah, it is.  There's been so much crap that has happened since FI and I started dating.  I could write a book about it.  </div><div>
</div><div>I'm really out this time.  Going to meet with the ceremony musician tomorrow.  Night everyone!</div>

ZombieNates

Night, everyone! It feels like 9pm, which is late enough for bed. Have a good one!