JUST A MATTER OF TIME - AND NOT EVEN MARRIED YET!!

Wife Kitty

Good Lord; what a mess. I just got through reading this whole thing - every response - and I find it telling that

A. as other posters have pointed out, there seems to be convenient forgetfulness in regard to what supposedly "started" the failing relationship between this woman and her future daughter-in-law;

B. her comment about the bride having "won the battle but not the war" suggests that in spite of her claims that she really wants her son to be happy, she is in fact going out of her way to try ensure that he'll be miserable if he doesn't do exactly what she wants. She's looking to ruin her son's marriage by creating more drama in not showing up at the wedding (a classic way to try to "make him choose"); and finally...

C. notice, ladies, that she has not made one peep on this thread since her initial rant. Even among strangers on a wedding board, she's on what my father would call a seek-and-destroy mission. It's my theory that once it became clear to her that no one, not even a stranger, was going to take her bait and pity her (thus rewarding her bad behavior and aiding her mission), she turned tail and ran.

My hope is that the first place she ran was to the telephone, to try to apologize for real before it's too late.

And ma'am, if you do come back and read this, I can only advise you from my own experience... as someone who's been estranged from a parent before... until that real apology comes from you, your relationship will never improve, and the longer you hold out and insist on feeling sorry for yourself, the bigger your risk becomes of never seeing your family member again. Think about making your next mission one of soul-searching, rather than bridge-burning.

ninamyspace

What I don't understand is... why does the OP think that the girl doesn't love her son? Just because she "disrepected" her? 

walsh1704

As a soon to be bride, I think you should go to the wedding with that being said the FDIL should be the one making the effort to get to know and have positive relationships with his family.  As a mother the only thing you can do is be there for your son on his wedding day and if things dont work out be there for  your son when it falls apart. 

Unless the brides's parents are paying for 100% of the wedding and the groom's family contributed nothing for any aspect of the wedding then both parents or no parents should have been on the invitation.