moissanite ring question

Blueyed228

I guess I would be confused as to how you can love white stones and be that opposed to the diamond industry since I really cant think of a white stone other than a diamond.

Like I said, I dont care what people do, or what ring they buy.  I just personally dont like fake diamonds.

THis is a P&R- off to class

artbyallie

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[QUOTE]If you like white stones, but hate blood diamonds, then what do you do? Some people aren't trying to make a statement, but they're not into supporting a bad industry, either. I'm not out to tell the world that the diamond industry breaks my heart or that I want to be less depenedent on gas/oil. But I do have a clean diamond and I drive a car that gets 37-40 mpg. These aren't statements I'm trying to make. It's just the buying decision FI and I made. I don't like color stones for engagement rings. If DH had bought a moissanite vs. a clean diamond, I would have been fine with that.<strong> I don't know any other options for wanting a white stone wedding set, do you? </strong>OP, just be sure you love it when it arrives, and take advantage of the 30day return policy if you aren't happy with it.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

<div>White sapphire or white topaz?</div>

number55

I think you can like the 'look' of a white stone without liking the diamond industry. 

J&K10910

I think you can like the way something looks without liking the actual product or the means to obtain it. 

Like...I like the way Chevy Trailblazers look, but I won't purchase a GM product because of bad experiences with GM products.  So I like them, but don't want one for myself.  So I'll get another mid-size SUV, perhaps with a similar body style, made my a company that I feel is more reliable.

missy68

White sapphire is a good substitute for a clear stone. And I'd tell everyone it was a sapphire, not a diamond.

I get judged for my colored e-ring only looking like a teen's birthstone ring - judging goes both ways.

number55

Oh Missy that pisses me off so much, who the hell gives a crap what your e-ring is. I hate that people judge that kind of stuff. 

missy68

Wait - what I said pisses you off or that my ring gets judged?

I chose it because it's John's birthstone, the month we got married, something different, AND because it was what we could afford.

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]I guess I would be confused as to how you can love white stones and be that opposed to the diamond industry since I really cant think of a white stone other than a diamond. Like I said, I dont care what people do, or what ring they buy.  I just personally dont like fake diamonds. THis is a P&R- off to class
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

Easy. I love vintage diamonds and Canadian-mined diamonds. I could go around asking if real diamonds are vintage or mined outside of Africa and judge people for it, but what's on my finger has nothing to do with what's on yours, so I don't. I don't automatically assume that some kid lost his hand for your diamond any more than anyone should assume a stone over 2 carats is fake.

maratea

I think it's pretty shitty to judge someone's e-ring regardless of stone, style or size.

number55

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[QUOTE]Wait - what I said pisses you off or that my ring gets judged? I chose it because it's John's birthstone, the month we got married, something different, AND because it was what we could afford.
Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]

<div>No, not what you said...that it gets judged. That's BS. And I love that it was sentimental.</div><div>
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</div><div>Bec, I agree...I never presume that someone's ring is a dirty diamond, or that it is fake if it is huge. I don't really pay attention to rings, although I do get jealous when other people's are sparklier. But that just means mine needs to be cleaned. I can sparkle too.</div>

AudgiePodge

Not everyone that has moissanite is trying to pass it off as a diamond. I think it's tacky for those that do. That being said, moissanite is cheaper than a diamond, but it isn't dirt cheap. The reason why I chose moissanite is because I like how and where it was discovered. I am upfront with the stone of my ring. I am proud of my choice and I don't try to masquerade it as diamond.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I don't give a flying shiit about what people wear for e-rings, so if moissanite is something you want then go for it.  Whatever.

I'm someone who likes the real thing, though - for myself.  I'd rather have a tiny, good quality real diamond than a large moissanite or other colorless stone.

BecW2be

I've never been asked if my ring was fake. I'd judge someone asking that much more than I'd judge someone wearing a fake diamond. TACKY.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]I've never been asked if my ring was fake. I'd judge someone asking that much more than I'd judge someone wearing a fake diamond. TACKY.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

I've never been asked if my ring was fake, but I've been side-eyed for its size.  Which is lame.

I HAVE been asked if my boobs are real.  That is awkward.

maratea

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[QUOTE]I've never been asked if my ring was fake. I'd judge someone asking that much more than I'd judge someone wearing a fake diamond. TACKY.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]
YES. My SIL's ring is very large and it's so beautiful. Someone asked her at the wedding (wtf) how big her ring was and if it was real. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

beatlesgirl25

(Yay, Mara's kitty is back!)

I love MandK's ring, and her reasoning behind the ring choice is exactly how H feels about the issue and the diamond industry. I think many brides value wedding traditions such as a white ring and a white dress, but in this day and age people can be conscientious enough to not want to support the industry that supplies some of these things. I think they should be able to wear a white ring that makes them feel good about their purchase, if that's something that is important to them.

I guess I see it as being no different than being a vegetarian and eating a veggie burger. They don't agree with eating meat, but want the taste, look and feel of a burger like anyone else. It doesn't mean they shouldn't eat it or should have to stop passersby and make sure they know that it's not meat inside that bun.

dmiller9274

It doesn't really piss me off to have someone ask about the size of my ring, it's a little tacky but not something that would make me mad. I would be really mad if someone asked me if it were fake, or how much it cost. I'm pretty sure I would just walk away shaking my head. 

J&K10910

I'll put meat in your bun, Beatles.

Someone asked me how much my ring cost once.  I'm pretty sure the look on my face tipped the person off as to how I felt about her asking that.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]<strong>I'll put meat in your bun, Beatles.</strong> Someone asked me how much my ring cost once.  I'm pretty sure the look on my face tipped the person off as to how I felt about her asking that.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Awesome, only because I know your meat is 100% real.

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]I'll put meat in your bun, Beatles. Someone asked me how much my ring cost once.  I'm pretty sure the look on my face tipped the person off as to how I felt about her asking that.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

I'd have said "389 blow jobs and we've only been dating 8 months. I had to double up a lot of nights."

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]I don't think liking the look of fur/leather or a diamond but not wanting to contribute to killing animals or the violence of the diamond trade is hypocritical.  Buying fake fur keeps money out of the hands of the mink trade just as buying a conflict-free diamond or a fake diamond keeps money out of the hands of certain diamond mines.  What's wrong with that?  I don't understand how that's hypocritical. 
Posted by TheCranberry[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Because you are still promoting fur as a pretty thing to wear! You are still giving the impression that you think it is fashionable, which only feeds the industry. That's why. 

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jenjenaz

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: moissanite ring question : I'm with you Blue. I don't get the purpose of trying to pass something off as authentic when it is not whether it be jewelry, purses, sunglasses, clothing etc. There's nothing wrong with not having the "in" items, so why pretend like you do, if you actually don't? ETA: If you own up to having fakes, costume jewelry, etc I think it's fine. Well with the exception of total knock off handbags with the designer logo plastered all over them, I really just don't get the point.
Posted by kcullen37[/QUOTE]
i'm with you ladies on this.  i'd rather have a genuine sapphire or emerald or something other than a diamond than have, what i consider to be a 'fake diamond'.  i feel like it's better to say 'i can't afford x, y, z' than to buy something 'fake' and try to pass it off as the 'real' thing. 
i would really only apply this to an e-ring / wedding ring, though.  because a lot of people have costume jewelry that they wear for earrings, etc. and i usually don't automatically assume that someone's non-wedding related jewelry is real.  but i think the expectation is (or, IMHO should be) that a diamond looking engagement ring is a diamond.
i'm not going to say that i'm not a snob.  completely am.  get it.

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: moissanite ring question : Easy. I love vintage diamonds and Canadian-mined diamonds. I could go around asking if real diamonds are vintage or mined outside of Africa and judge people for it, but what's on my finger has nothing to do with what's on yours, so I don't. I don't automatically assume that some kid lost his hand for your diamond any more than anyone should assume a stone over 2 carats is fake.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]
But that's kind of my point. I have clean diamonds in my wedding band. Saying you want a fake diamond, though, because you don't like the diamond trade altogether, means you don't like clean diamonds either. I don't like diamonds at all, but that's what DH wanted to get me. He took care to get clean ones, though. That is also an option for people who aren't hindered by the budget aspect. I don't care about the money part. I just don't understand why you'd want a replica of something you don't support the industry of, at all, even clean diamonds. <div>So basically, which money is a perfectly good reason for picking another clear stone, I think that saying you are opposed to the entire industry is a cop-out if you really aren't. </div>

SarahPLiz

Beatles, i also don't understand the obsession with meat flavored soy. If meat is so yummy, eat meat. If eating meat is evil, then I would think you wouldn't want to have anything to do with something that resembles flesh in taste, look or texture.  It think the idealism gets skewed when you carve into a Tofurky at Thanksgiving, feeding into the idea that turkey tastes great, but you should never eat actually eat it. I just don't get that. 

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: moissanite ring question : i'm with you ladies on this.  i'd rather have a genuine sapphire or emerald or something other than a diamond than have, what i consider to be a 'fake diamond'.  i feel like it's better to say 'i can't afford x, y, z' than to buy something 'fake' and try to pass it off as the 'real' thing.  i would really only apply this to an e-ring / wedding ring, though.  because a lot of people have costume jewelry that they wear for earrings, etc. and i usually don't automatically assume that someone's non-wedding related jewelry is real.  but i think the expectation is (or, IMHO should be) that a diamond looking engagement ring is a diamond. i'm not going to say that i'm not a snob.  completely am.  get it.
Posted by jenjenaz[/QUOTE]

So do you feel the same way about lab created sapphires? 

MandK9

I'm not all defensive or anything about this, because I'm used to seeing people's negative reactions when they find out my ring is moissanite.  Here's the thing: I think white stones are really pretty-- I wouldn't have wanted a colored one.  I also became painfully aware of the horrible things that take place in the diamond industry, and didn't want to send any money their way. 

I most definitely don't go around touting moissanite to everyone I see, or say I wear moissanite because the diamond industry is evil, and anyone who buys dirty diamonds deserves to rot in hell for their decisions. I tell people that it's moissanite if they ask anything about my ring, because I'm not ashamed of the fact that it's not more expensive, but I don't exactly go around to people saying, "Hey, I got engaged, here's my ring, it's not a real diamond!" right off the bat, because that's, well, weird.  I don't judge people for their diamonds, and I wish they would stop judging me (or FI) for my non-diamond.

So, that's all.  And thanks, Beatles!

ETA: OH! And I'm a veggie-burger-Tofurkey-chick'n-nugget-eating vegetarian, too. Hahaha.  Clearly I'm not being an activist correctly.   FAIL.

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: moissanite ring question : But that's kind of my point. I have clean diamonds in my wedding band. Saying you want a fake diamond, though, because you don't like the diamond trade altogether, means you don't like clean diamonds either. I don't like diamonds at all, but that's what DH wanted to get me. He took care to get clean ones, though. That is also an option for people who aren't hindered by the budget aspect. I don't care about the money part. I just don't understand why you'd want a replica of something you don't support the industry of, at all, even clean diamonds.  So basically, which money is a perfectly good reason for picking another clear stone, I think that saying you are opposed to the entire industry is a cop-out if you really aren't. 
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

Where did I say I opposed the entire industry? I specifically said I don't like blood diamonds. Canada-mined diamonds are quite a bit more expensive than other diamonds. What happens if FI can't afford a clean diamond? What's on my finger affects me and only me. I'm not trying to change the world with my diamond. It doens't affect anyone but me.

K&J64

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: moissanite ring question : i'm with you ladies on this.  i'd rather have a genuine sapphire or emerald or something other than a diamond than have, what i consider to be a 'fake diamond'.  i feel like it's better to say 'i can't afford x, y, z' than to buy something 'fake' and try to pass it off as the 'real' thing.  i would really only apply this to an e-ring / wedding ring, though.  because a lot of people have costume jewelry that they wear for earrings, etc. and i usually don't automatically assume that someone's non-wedding related jewelry is real.  but i think the expectation is (or, IMHO should be) that a diamond looking engagement ring is a diamond. i'm not going to say that i'm not a snob.  completely am.  get it.
Posted by jenjenaz[/QUOTE]


I don't care if people buy fakes, it's the whole trying to pass it off as real that bugs me. If someone asks about it and where you got your ring, earrings, bag whatever and you lie and pretend that it something other than what it's not, then I think you're kind of a sad person. I don't care if you engagement ring is made of glass, so long as you're honest about it if someone asks you something like "beautiful ring, what jeweler did you fiance go to?" or whatever. I don't try to pass my Mercury off as a Mercedes, it is what it is, and I have no shame in what is mine.

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: moissanite ring question : Where did I say I opposed the entire industry? I specifically said I don't like blood diamonds. Canada-mined diamonds are quite a bit more expensive than other diamonds. What happens if FI can't afford a clean diamond? What's on my finger affects me and only me. I'm not trying to change the world with my diamond. It doens't affect anyone but me.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]
I didn't say you said it. It was said earlier in the post that the OP or another posted wanted moissanite because they were opposed to the diamond industry. <div>
</div><div>I also said that money is a good reason, but that using your supposed opposition to the industry as an reason when you really aren't that opposed to the industry is a cop out. That's all I was saying. </div>

J&K10910

Moissanite isn't fake.  It's very much real.  It's just not a DIAMOND.

Now, if you have a moissanite ring or a CZ ring or a white sapphire ring or whatever and you go around saying "ZOMG LOOK AT MY HUUUUUUGE DIAMOND IT COSTED ELEVENTY HUNDRED BILLION DOLLARS!!!!!", yeah, you're lame.  But I don't think anyone in this thread is saying they'd do that.