A tad peeved.

Dchacha413

Okay.  To make a very long story short.  We sent out our save the dates last month, right around the same time my fiancés cousin got engaged.  Well the other day he received an email from her letting him know she received the STD and that she was sorry because she cant make it because she decided to plan her wedding on June 8th, ours is June 9th.  I'm not mad at her I understand the whole concept of you get one day and I'm completely fine with that.  My issue is about our guests since we are sharing 50% of our guest lists.  I don't think its right that they should have to choose and on top of this she isnt planning on sending out her STD until next month so this is going to be a shock to our guests that we share.  Yikes.  Am I being an ass hole or is okay to be a tad peeved? 

AdeleDazeem

How close are your weddingsg geographically?  Is it possible that people can go to both?

Dchacha413

It's a few hours away, like 4 so it's a big inconvience.

catloverd

Did you discuss dates beforehand or was it just totally coincidental? I'd be peeved if she knew, but if she didn't and it was just an accident, then there's not much I could do. Although if I was her and found out you picked that date, I would have probably moved it to a different one unless the day was very important to me or the only day I could get married. 

I guess your guests are just going to have to choose which one to go to or make the drive. 

Stackeye210

She's having her wedding on a Friday?  4 hours away from where the majority of your guest list lives?  Or are they all spread out in between?  I understand being peeved but there isn't much you can do about it. 

Just focus on the positive.  It's possible for all guests to attend both weddings if they feel like they want to attend both weddings.  If they were the same day I'd be more than a bit peeved b/c of the predicament, but it's not, so be happy about that. 

While the situation is not ideal for guests at least it's possible.  I'm sure things will work out just fine.

Dchacha413

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_a-tad-peeved?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:4aa43794-f74d-43b9-96ea-76bbb3f535abPost:e0b26283-2e3e-4e47-b101-9c317463e9f2">Re: A tad peeved.</a>:
[QUOTE]Did you discuss dates beforehand or was it just totally coincidental? I'd be peeved if she knew, but if she didn't and it was just an accident, then there's not much I could do. Although if I was her and found out you picked that date, I would have probably moved it to a different one unless the day was very important to me or the only day I could get married.  I guess your guests are just going to have to choose which one to go to or make the drive. 
Posted by catloverd[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>She did know, before she was engaged we were talking and she asked what date I had planned and I told her.  I just think it's all a little rude.

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heatherk2489

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_a-tad-peeved?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:4aa43794-f74d-43b9-96ea-76bbb3f535abPost:89a2b6aa-2d46-4fc7-b62b-52fff8fac89c">Re: A tad peeved.</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>She's having her wedding on a Friday</strong>?  4 hours away from where the majority of your guest list lives?  Or are they all spread out in between?  I understand being peeved but there isn't much you can do about it.  Just focus on the positive.  It's possible for all guests to attend both weddings if they feel like they want to attend both weddings.  If they were the same day I'd be more than a bit peeved b/c of the predicament, but it's not, so be happy about that.  While the situation is not ideal for guests at least it's possible.  I'm sure things will work out just fine.
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

<div>Actually the 8th is a saturday, the 9th a sunday. </div><div>
</div><div>If It was me, and I was close to both couples getting married, I would just make a weekend out of it. </div><div>
</div><div>Now If I was the bride who just recieved and STD for a date a day before my wedding, knowing that we share 50% of the guest list,and it wasn't a big deal,  I would change my date. That's just how I am though. </div>

erinlin25

I'd be peeved, but honestly she looks dumb since you've already announced your date!!  I'd be more peeved if you had discussed the date with her, and then she announced her date before you announced yours.  Sucks people will be torn, but I bet majority will make the trip and just go to both-- 4 hrs isn't all that bad. Defnite right to be peeved, but I think she will get the short end of the stick anyway, when people put two and two together... she obviously knew your wedding date already, so why would she plan hers for the day before?

catloverd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_a-tad-peeved?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:4aa43794-f74d-43b9-96ea-76bbb3f535abPost:04da8f05-fd8f-451f-bbde-c855ba039696">Re: A tad peeved.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: A tad peeved. : She did know, before she was engaged we were talking and she asked what date I had planned and I told her.  I just think it's all a little rude.
Posted by Dchacha413[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I'd be peeved then. Do you not have a great relationship or something? It seems like a mean thing to do....</div><div>
</div><div>I just noticed hers is before yours, maybe she just wanted to get married before you did, still a mean move, she could have moved it to be the weekend before instead. </div>

heatherk2489

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_a-tad-peeved?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:4aa43794-f74d-43b9-96ea-76bbb3f535abPost:04da8f05-fd8f-451f-bbde-c855ba039696">Re: A tad peeved.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: A tad peeved. : She did know, before she was engaged we were talking and she asked what date I had planned and I told her.  I just think it's all a little rude.
Posted by Dchacha413[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Didn't see this before, That's just rude. I would definitely be peeved. In the end, there is nothing you can do. Just be a great host, and enjoy your day, don't give her a second thought. 

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Loopyseven

YOu can be peeved, but don't make a stink about it or you're hte one who looks bad, not her.  Your STD's are out already.  Does she have a venue and a caterer booked?  It may be that she can't even find one available for that day, or she'll fall in love with one that's not available that day and decide to move her date in order to get married there.  Otherwise, keep your chin high, plan your wedding, let her plan yours and enjoy your day with whatever family is able to make it.

Ajuliana

This girl just sounds ignorant of the fact that this might cause issues, and thought it wouldn't be a huge problem.  I'm sure she will make many more entertaining decisions before the big day comes along...

Haha.  My brother's best friend got engaged, and I told him to let me know when they choose a date so I can be certain not to do it so close that it inconveniences my brother who lives a few states away.  I have a feeling my brother might prefer his bff's wedding over mine, so it's not worth the hassle!