Agree or Disagree?

MeaghanandMichael

SYTTD repeatedly tells brides they should get the dress they want and skimp elsewhere in the wedding budget. I get it, they are trying to sell wedding dresses. It makes me angry though but that may be just me. Any one?

kpwedkk

Let me tell you about it - when you walk into that skimped down venue, with your out of this world dress - really?  And for what? wearing it for a day max, and then what happens to your dress?

Pick a nice venue, get some lighting, spend some time and thought into what's going into your venue - capture the moment (via pictures), talk to your guests, make it special for them, let them see some sparks fly

MeaghanandMichael

I just fell in love with you KP.

Plus, how many people can reallllly tell a couture dress? I am clearly out of my league on that one. I can tell one with crappy fabric/glitter/glass beads, but truly couture? Yeah, no idea.

susieq87

I wouldnt even try on a dress that I knew I couldnt afford. I want to keep my dress under $1000 if I can, but I know I have enough money to spend a few hundred more. That being said, I would not try on a $7000 dress knowing I cant afford it. Thats just being dumb.

MeaghanandMichael

I never understand that about SYTTD Susie. Of course these girls are going to leave in tears when they can't afford the 9k Pnina they tried on. gah!

sketne25

I get really angry at the consultants that bring out dresses that are over the bride's budget. She told you what she can afford, and this one is $1000 over it BEFORE alterations. Grr!

I hope people will talk about how pretty my dress was, but I don't want them to remember how cheap the food tasted or how bad the DJ was because I skimped in other areas to pay for it.

future-mrs

I think I just clicked the wrong answer but I definitely don't think brides should cut elsewhere to pay for their dress.  Those are the type that end up with a cash bar, no food and bored/unhappy guests.  Wedding fail.

lharri12

Only a very selfish bride thinks her appearance is more important than food, drinks, music, favors, and generally treating her guests to a good time.

[Deleted User]

That show drives me nuts. The saleswomen always have them try on dresses over their budget then convince them to cut back on other areas.

No, it's not worth it. You wear the dress for one day, and most people at the wedding wouldn't be able to tell if it costs $1,000 or $10,000. My dress cost $125 and everyone loved it, it suited me and my personality/style, and I was able to instead focus more on giving our wedding guests awesome food.

In my opinion, way to much emphasis is put on the dress.

MeaghanandMichael

Ok, well I confess I know group think on the knot pretty much confirms not going all out on the dress with a cash bar or something - hence the clicky poll. I kind of want to know if people secretly think this or not.

sarahmk5

I love that show, but I don't understand why girls with a $2000 budget go there.  Go to your local boutique and you'll have way more selection than at Kleinfeld's and won't be tempted with the dress 5x your budget.

And no, I would never skimp somewhere else for the dress.

katiewhompus

For me the dress was the least expensive thing. I would rather put my budget into food, venue, decorations, etc than on a dress I will wear once.

Then again, I was never a big clothes girl

tidetravel

Wow.  I'm slow today.  For the life of me, I could not figure out what "So you think you can dance" had to do with wedding dresses

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]I love that show, <strong>but I don't understand why girls with a $2000 budget go there.  Go to your local boutique and you'll have way more selection than at Kleinfeld's and won't be tempted with the dress 5x your budget.</strong> And no, I would never skimp somewhere else for the dress.
Posted by sarahmk5[/QUOTE]

THIS! I kind of mentioned this the other day in frustration at my friends who think they can only find their dress at Kleinfelds. Really?? Come on, if you had a 12k budget maybe.

Simply Fated

A part of me gets really annoyed when the attendants bring out dresses way over budget. Another part of me feels bad for those attendants (and brides) because that is what the attendants are trained to do. They are trained to upsell.
It's the same with any retail store... all employees are taught and trained to push the consumer's budget as far as they can.
So I don't put the blame with them, they are just trying to keep their job and make a living from it. The bride should check the tag before trying a dress on and falling in love with it. This is a practice we should all get into the habit of. The employee will be tricky by practically throwing the dress over the bride's head, telling brides not to worry about budget, and pulling out all the stops to make the bride feel at ease.

The problem with Kleinfeld's is, it was a popular, lower costing bridal store before they moved to Manhattan. After they moved locations, their name and reputation stuck. So brides show up there not realizing how hefty their prices are. As for those who travel far distances without a high budget, they do it for the cameras. That's my theory, anyway.

MeaghanandMichael

I hear you simply.... how do you NOT check the price tag before putting it on your body? POB tried to do that to me. They threw 7-10k dresses in my room when I clearly said 5k. I was honestly so pissed we left.

stacy&tige

When I tried on dresses I told the sales people my budget and checked the dresses they gave me. A couple that were over went right back out the dressing room door. On sales lady said "you never know, it could be the one" to which I respond "no, if its over my budget it will never be the one." That was that.

I can't stand the idea that a wedding dress is more important than every other aspect of the wedding. Its ridiculous! And IMHO no wedding dress that I have ever seen (in person or on TV) is worth more than $5,000 (and that's if you have a huge wedding budget). But dresses for $10,000 or $15,000...ummmm no! Plus, the really expensive ones are some of the ugliest ones too.

missy68

I'm simply excited I have a dress that I CAN actually wear again. I will be wearing it at my dad's retirement party (now next year).
And the best part? Less than $300.

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]I'm simply excited I have a dress that I CAN actually wear again. I will be wearing it at my dad's retirement party (now next year). And the best part? Less than $300.
Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]

For this, I will eternally hate you :)

allisong23

After discounts and coupons, I got mine for $400 at DB and everyone that has seen it loves it. I can't comprehend the woman who spent $21000 for a vow renewal on the show last week.

Does anyone else think that the Pnini dresses are trashy and butt ugly?

susieq87

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[QUOTE]Wow.  I'm slow today.  For the life of me, I could not figure out what "So you think you can dance" had to do with wedding dresses
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

This is hilarious because that is exactly what I thought until I put the letters together.

quotequeen

I don't get this concept at all.  The dress was really one of the least important things to me.  I posted my tentative budget on another board for feedback a while ago and people were surprised that I was planning to spend more on the wedding rings than on the attire.  To me... why wouldn't I spend more on something I'm going to wear for the rest of my life than on something I'm going to wear for one day?

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]After discounts and coupons, I got mine for $400 at DB and everyone that has seen it loves it. I can't comprehend the woman who spent $21000 for a vow renewal on the show last week.<strong> Does anyone else think that the Pnini dresses are trashy and butt ugly?</strong>
Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

YES! Again, scream Jersey bride. Wrong or right, that is the impression I get because SO many Jersey princesses on that show are dying for some slutty Pnina dress.

pooh8402

nope. the dress was something I was definitely NOT spending my money on. I knew I would only wear it once. I found my dress at Jessica McClintock of all places, and it cost $215 including shipping. alterations were minimal, costing a total of $60. my goal was to spend less than $400 total including alterations on my dress, and I did it by far.

mocha beans

I agree that skimping on other stuff for a pretty dress is a bit nuts.  If you can afford a $$$$ dress AND a $$$$ venue, then by all means knock yourself out.  But if that $$$$ dress means you need to do everything else in the $$ range, I give that the side eye.

And yes, not a fan of the Pnina dresses, at all.  In 20 years, those are going to be viewed at the same way 80's dresses are now.

amylo84

that show drives me nuts!!  and really, the girls don't really get to pick out the dresses they try on!!  you give them your budget, the styles you like then they go to the back and pick them out for you to try on.  And seriously, when you walk down the aisle, nobody is gonna know how much it cost or the designer.  my $600 gown is just as pretty as any of those fancy designer gowns.
and the lady who spent 21000 on her renewal?  don't even get me started!

Knittibell

YES! I think the Pnina dresses are heinous... like, Stripper Bridal Couture. Ugh.

I also think it's insane- I spent less than 1K on the dress for my first wedding, and plan to do the same again. I think women would be surprised at how many gorgeous dresses can be had for under a grand, if they just kept their budget lower. If I won the lottery tomorrow, I would spend a FORTUNE on food, music, booze, location- but I still would not spend more than a grand on the dress. It's just crazy to me.

ehathewa

I love SYTTD - it is like a swarovski covered train wreck.  I just can't look away. 

I would never have tried on a dress that was out of my price range.  That's why we went to David's Bridal first...  I knew I could try on anything in the store and not be tempted.  I ended up choosing an Oleg Cassini preview dress (they only made about a dozen of them) - so I kind of feel like I got the couture/custom thing too.  Kind of neat. 

Oh, and I think Pnina dresses are about a half step away from being a costume in a Cher concert. 

antimony

I said "something in between" because it depends on what "splurging" and "skimping" mean.  If you're cutting out out-of-season hothouse flowers from your bouquets to have an extra $300 to get your dream dress, sure.  Though I don't think that's what SYTTD is about -- I've never watched it and never plan to.

Knittibell

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[QUOTE]I love SYTTD - it is like a swarovski covered train wreck.   Oh, and I think Pnina dresses are about a half step away from being a costume in a Cher concert. 
Posted by ehathewa[/QUOTE]

LOVE

Goodspeed

My dress was $600. My mentality was that I don't want to hear, "oh your dress is so beautiful." I want to hear, "oh you look so beautiful in your dress."