wedding planning is NOT stressful!

Keb1216

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: wedding planning is NOT stressful! : I'm so sorry, Keb. :( I hope it all works out for you.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

Thank you MilkDuds & LetsHike. I believe things will work out.

brandichamberlain

Keb-  What form of payment did you use? My Dad used his CC and was able to do a dispute.  It is being investigaged, but if they find in our favor, they will credit all of the funds back to us. 

Bkseller13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: wedding planning is NOT stressful! : It's been a year for FIs mom and about four for his dad. FI was handling pretty well until the invitations came in. I think it really hit him. And o his son is acting like a bigger ass than usual so he feels like there will be no one there from his family. So I don't feel stressed in the omg what shoes will the officiants wife wear and will they match the flowers kind of way that some people get. But there is definitely stress present in my planning. I'm sorry about your hs dad passing so close to your date. How is your h feeling btw?
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

I think about the only thing that helped H with all of that was that we went to visit his dad less than 1 month before he passed, so there was nothing "unsaid" between them. 

Right now, H is fighting a vicious cold.  I feel so bad for him coughing his head off and sneezing and being so full of snot.  But, at the same time, I'm pretty grossed out.  Does that make me a bad wife?  Luckily, he's found some OTC meds that seem to help alleviate the symptoms.

Keb1216

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[QUOTE]Keb-  What form of payment did you use? My Dad used his CC and was able to do a dispute.  It is being investigaged, but if they find in our favor, they will credit all of the funds back to us. 
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

I hope they find it in your favor! My Mom used a CC also. We were talking about her calling the CC company. I'll have to remind her to do that. Thank you for the reminder!!

tkddddddddd

Good for you. Have a cookie. When you have children, be sure to head over to the Nest and let them know that pregnancy is not hard nor is childbirth while you're at it.

brittneyh4

The past eight months of planning have been so easy and non stressful, I was wondering if there was something wrong with me.

And then yesterday hit, and I had a major freak out moment of NWR stuff that wasn't important at all, and I couldn't stop crying.. and now I'm sick. So enjoy your easy, non stressful wedding planning now, because for a lot of people it catches up with you over something minor and stupid.

erbear84

Good for you.  It's not for me, either, but I'm 11 months out.  Check with me after my mom keeps annoying me over the guestlist and...gulp...tissue paper bells...and we'll see how I feel.

may25bride2012

Whoever said to check back in when you're a couple weeks out was right on the money. Wait until shiit starts to hit the fan because the ideas you had at 5 months out aren't comng to fruition like you expected them to.

goatlady12

I'm at the same point as the OP.  I'm not stressed yet either, but I can see where things will get stressful.  Anytime you plan a big event/party things get complicated.  I've reached the point where I appreciate everyone's suggestions and opinions but I really wish they would stop having them! 

pokepoke27

Yeah I wasn't stressed at 5 months out. I'm stressed now. Planning a large event is stressful. 

nektariaf

Ha!I don't know about you, but this has been one of the most stressful times in my life. However, I am living in a country I am not a citizen of,  on a student visa, going to college, and planning a wedding.  I wish it was more relaxing, like a spa weekend or something. (joke, haha) I accept that I am wedding planning and under difficult circumstances, so I take in the happy blissful moments I can get. I am so looking forward to it being over and being married!~

ALSO, don't you hate the stress generated by oneself because we think things are supposed to be a certain way and they are not in our life ? Does anyone know what I'm talking about? I could start a list....

harpsdesire

To me, planning parties and trying to make guests happy is inherantly stressful.  I get stressed if I'm having more than one or two people over for dinner.  For me, planning a wedding (aka biggest party of my life) is CRAZY stressful.

Also it doesn't help that I am trying to buy a house and move to a new state (where my FI currently lives), help my mom move to another state, and I have a 2 hour each way commute to a job that requires mucho overtime.

Okay, so maybe it's not the wedding that's stressing me out... />_<

ket25

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[QUOTE]Good for you.  It's not for me, either, but I'm 11 months out.  Check with me after my mom keeps annoying me over the guestlist and...gulp...<strong>tissue paper bells</strong>...and we'll see how I feel.
Posted by erbear84[/QUOTE]

Yikes. Well, you have a lot of time to talk her out of that one.

tiffanychuvalas

Yes and no. We originally had planned on getting married on May 4 2013 which gave us plenty of time. Then we moved it up to Nov 3 2012. SO we had lots to do and in the first couple weeks I overloaded myself and it was stressful and hubby and I fought pretty bad. So I took Sunday evening off planning and no planning on Monday and then am working on things slowly. THis formula seems to work for me. Im relaxed now that Im not pushing it so hard. Take plenty of time to smelll the roses and it will be easier.

Lenore2010

Must add my own bit to this old thread: My dress was lost when I went to pick it up two weeks before the wedding. That was one relaxing evening, let me tell you. Those hours I spent wondering what else I was going to put my big butt into before they found the dress were priceless. Oh, then there was the part about my mom missing the flight for our DW, the day before the wedding, we had a relaxing time indeed with her getting there barely in time for the welcome dinner.

It was a great wedding, loved it but in parts for both planning and execution it was more like an old fashioned suspence thriller than a moment of Zen.

smt861

just want to say...i love all of you on here except for the bride who made this post.

two words:    I'M STRESSED

I've been engaged for a year and a half and finally getting married in Sept.  I am paying for the whole $25,000 wedding because I am a horrible human being if both parents can not invite who they want..can't afford a honeymoon either.  Oh and both sides have paid 1%.  Full-time job, new dog because my FH wanted one, new house and i haven't even ordered invitations yet.  Oh and my one BM who would of been my MOH if she didn't live out of town went MIA when she came in town for a work training and we were supposed to get her dress this week.  She TEXT me saying "it's not going to happen" and hasn't responded since.  I think I just lost a friend...sick, that time of the month, and last night my FH had a break down (and HUGE FIGHT) about him not "man-ing up" and understanding what a marriage is and i almost gave him his ring back!

How about you come here and deal with my stress.

Arturabeth

I was pretty strees free until today. 6 weeks away from the wedding the BM dresses are finally in and we go to the store to pick them up and the dresses are totally not the ones we ordered! They look UGLY!!!! The girls don't like them and I don't like them either. On of my  BM's are going to call the store on monday and see what the company can do for us. But I'm freaking out. We loved the dress so much!

futuremrsbruno

I've been engaged for a year and 5 months, the wedding is in 2 1/2 months and I don't know how to NOT live with stress anymore...

OP, since you CLEARLY seem to have this wedding thing down, maybe you can share some of your secrets with the rest of us. I know if I show up to my chiropractor with hig blood pressure one more time...

Keb- did you sign a formal contract? Does it say anywhere in the contract about what happens in the event they close for whatever reason? If not, then you definitely have grounds to sue if they don't pay up, and you will more than likely win. Happened to a friend of mine before her wedding. Unfortunately, the court systems are pretty slow and she didn't see the money until long after the honeymoon, but everything was paid back. I believe the only way they can get out of paying you for services not rendered is if there is a clause in their contract with you that states it or if they filed bankruptcy. Although, I think there is a payout even then, it just takes a very long time!