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aunt wants to do my flowers

She wts to arrange my flowers and buy them for all of the bridal party, mothers, and my bouquet- how nice :).... BUTTTT I really had my heart set on anemones and she wasnt expecting I would want anything other than a rose and seemed taken back by the amount of BM (7 girls) and the price. I really dislike roses so I told her what I wanted and said if that was over what she intended to spend I would be happy to buy the flowers and she still arrange them --- now I think I offended her... It feels like a rock and a hard place

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    I used wholeblossom.com and got a great deal.
    If you are looking to save money, maybe something like that is an option?
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    I feel you. Every time I talk to FI's mom and aunt about flowers, they mention hydrangeas. I've never been big on hydrangeas.
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    Thanks, I know nothing about flowers, I really wish I could just pay for it then I wouldn't feel bad or put her in a tight situation... I know it will work out just a downer
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    And this is why I continuously voice my opinion that having family members/friends 'work' for your wedding in any way is just asking for trouble.
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    It would be appropriate to either politely decline and pay someone to do it, or suck it up and do it her way.  These are basically your only options.
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    Go find a florist who will do what you want, book them, and tell your aunt that while you love the way she arranges flowers, you'd rather she be able to relax and just enjoy herself on your wedding day and the couple of days leading up to it.
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    Here is a place that sells anenomes in bulk.  You probably don't want just one type of flower in a bouquet anyway, so maybe she can put these in with some more basic flowers, and she would feel more comfortable.
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    I was sort of almost in the same boat.  My fmil wanted her sister to do my flowers but i just kind of kept avoiding it.  They both are strong opinionated people and i have a feeling if she does them it will be what they like and not my taste.  I would just rather go somewhere and pay a little extra i think then cause any conflict.  I am sure if you tell your aunt that you really have your heart set on these other flowers that maybe she will  understand because it is your wedding afterall.
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