So you dreamed of your wedding since you were little.. but what if there was a very good reason to get married a few months before the BIG day (insurance, taxes, etc) - would you get married in secret then go through the ceremony and reception bit for all of your guests?
This conversation came up at a recent dinner party. My FH works for a large corporation and they have a policy intended for same-sex couples (but the language is worded in a way were I could qualify for his insurance benefits). I will lose my school health insurance when I graduate in June (I am too old to still be on my parents' plan). My insurance at my new job won't start right away.. so I will have to purchase "catastrophic insurance" to carry me over for a few months.
I jokingly said we should either look into getting on my FH's insurance early (via the domestic partner clause) or get married in secret before the real wedding date. (keep in mind: one of the GM has the legal right to marry us and has already married a couple last summer- so this can be done in a very convenient manner)
THEN- My friends, married Jan. 3, 2009, confessed they actually married sometime in December- so they can file a joint tax return for 2009. They had me convinced that it was just too practical to pass up and that their wedding day was still just as amazing as they had imagined.
So - back to the original question - would you marry your FH in secret before your wedding date for practical reasons (ie. health insurance, taxes, etc)? OR would you wait until the day of so you can enjoy all the wedding day excitement in its fullest?