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BoardwalkBride82

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Maybe she doesn't care about weddings? I don't give a crap about them and don't ask people either. Just because you helped with hers doesn't mean she should have to do the same.

That being said, is she really all that great a friend? She didn't invite you because of issues with the groom? I'd need more details but it sounds like she's not fighting all that hard to keep you as a friend.

Blueyed228

Sounds like you got used.

lbarr088

This just seems like one of those cases where you think you are better friends with someone than you really are.  It is what it is.  Also, this is why I did things myself because there are VERY few people in this world that will care about this as much as you (I really hate saying that but it's true).  

With that said, I wouldn't bring it up.  The whole "I helped you why aren't you helping me" is sort of a childish argument.  

kd.joseph

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_bad-friends-or-is-it-just-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:63b731e3-9a54-4934-adee-9b22402e6746Post:8d891a10-a7d4-45a6-961f-fa7bc9d7614b">Re: Bad friends or is it just me?</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe she doesn't care about weddings? I don't give a crap about them and don't ask people either. Just because you helped with hers doesn't mean she should have to do the same. That being said, is she really all that great a friend? She didn't invite you because of issues with the groom? I'd need more details but it sounds like she's not fighting all that hard to keep you as a friend.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Sesh said it better than I could.

Maybe she decided her H is right and she is cutting ties. People grow apart. I'd just move on.

tidetravel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_bad-friends-or-is-it-just-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:63b731e3-9a54-4934-adee-9b22402e6746Post:af9fdb80-befc-4e9c-872d-2a1f70e233e2">Bad friends or is it just me?</a>:
[QUOTE]For over a year I've helped my friend with wedding ideas, I went with her to bridal expos asked about how her planning is going and if she needed any help to come to me and she did..I gave her advice and did all I can to be there as a friend not becauseI felt I had to but because I wanted to. My engagement happened a few months prior to her wedding and did she congragulate me? nope! she didn't even ask about it or acknowledge it. I was kind of shocked because people I barely even talk to showed more happiness for me than she did but stupid me figured she's so busy with her wedding planning why would she even think about that stuff.... Her wedding came and went and I was happy for her...(<strong> I wasn't invited due to issues with the groom </strong>I didn't care btw but I still was there for her) so now it's time for me to be planning mine and she's basically non existant she's not once asked about my wedding planning, or about bridal expos or anything at ALL that has to do with MY wedding...I'm not saddened trust me I'm more annoyed and disturbed that I actually was there for this person...any advice on how I should bring this up to her? or should I just drop it and her as a friend?
Posted by BoardwalkBride82[/QUOTE]

You helped her with your wedding and she didn't invite you because her FI had issues w/ you?  I'll admit it.  I'd be pissed if this was someone I considered a friend.

Blue said it best.  You got used.  I'd cut all ties with her and move on.  She's not your friend.

acaponi87

I agree with Ibarr. You may think your friendship is at one-level but she is definitely not on the same page as you. Sorry. I'd stop getting upset over it and just move on. If she misses the friendship then she can start making attempts to be a better friend.

kd.joseph

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_bad-friends-or-is-it-just-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:63b731e3-9a54-4934-adee-9b22402e6746Post:47d02a59-7a03-427c-96be-766a1542d178">Re: Bad friends or is it just me?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for the replies...the issue with her "husband" is he just doesn't like me <strong>because he's weird and didn't like that 6 years ago I broke up with his friend</strong> (they weren't even that great of friends)..it's just ridiculous and makes no sense am I supposed to stay with someone who I don't want to be with to make someone else happy?....another thing is she would still go out wiith me against his wishes and at one point he felt she would chose me as a friend rather than him as a bf...I really don't expect her to do the same as I did for her but what I do expect is her to at least acknowledge it being that she claims I'm one of her "Best Friends" and comes to me constantly wanting to go out and telling me how she can't not have me in her life.. it's just a ridiculous mess and I'm going way beyond the point...I just don't wanna feel like an idiot...so I'm taking the drop her as a friend advice being that I've already started not responding to her anymore...i just wanted an outsiders opinion
Posted by BoardwalkBride82[/QUOTE]

Well you have no idea what this ex may have told him about your relationship. But, thats beside the point, she's obviously made her chose now.

Girlie1030

http://grammar.quickanddirtytips.com/ellipsis.aspx

Girlie1030

Why the DD?  You were quoted by the way so it was pointless to delete.

jennylee813

Sounds like it's time to cut your losses and move on. Sorry.

springfling2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_bad-friends-or-is-it-just-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:63b731e3-9a54-4934-adee-9b22402e6746Post:e07605d9-a45d-4c86-accb-14c425d512fd">Re: Bad friends or is it just me?</a>:
[QUOTE]<a href="http://grammar.quickanddirtytips.com/ellipsis.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://grammar.quickanddirtytips.com/ellipsis.aspx</a>
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

Um.  Necessary?

Girlie1030

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_bad-friends-or-is-it-just-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:63b731e3-9a54-4934-adee-9b22402e6746Post:98fc2048-27bd-45dc-ab0a-1ff6af9946b0">Re: Bad friends or is it just me?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bad friends or is it just me? : Um.  Necessary?
Posted by springfling2012[/QUOTE]

Um.  Just being helpful. 

Lenore2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_bad-friends-or-is-it-just-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:63b731e3-9a54-4934-adee-9b22402e6746Post:e4639985-09d8-4637-816b-413cdefa783d">Re: Bad friends or is it just me?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bad friends or is it just me? : Um.  Just being helpful. 
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

The post had some spelling and other errors, but by far not the worst I have seen here. I only point those things out if it so bad I cannot understand what the writer is trying to say.

jennylee813

Move on. Sounds like the friendship has run its course. Sorry.