Some of you may remember me venting about ex-roommates and friends (or so we thought) refusing to allow me to come to their house while FI played D&D with them.
FI finally talked to our guy friend this weekend (we put it off for a couple of weeks due to weather). Apparently, between living together and us complaining about them buying a bunch of stuff from the internet while complaining about not having money to give us for rent (which we admit wasn't any of our business, it just came with all the other frustrations), we just stepped on each others' toes too much.
But the big thing, and the reason they will not allow me at their house, is because apparently right after they moved in with us, I was sitting around with them talking, and they say that I said something about FI getting a lot of money from his parents when they die. Let me be clear: I NEVER SAID ANYTHING LIKE THIS. I have never and will never say anything like this. The only thing I MAY have said is that I love their house in Colorado (they live in PA now), and when/if they sell it, FI would be interested in it, because it's a beautiful house.
Granted, all this happened about a year ago, and they are just now saying something about it. I have no idea what was actually said in the conversation, so I can't really defend myself besides knowing that I would never say anything like that. FI's pissed that IF I said anything like that, they waited until now to say something about it. I mean, it's not like I'm a new girlfriend and they think I'll be gone soon, at that point, I'd been dating FI for 5 1/2 years.
The "friend" also asked FI not to tell me any of this. Yeah, don't tell the woman you're marrying in a couple of months about the reason she's really not liked by us and can't even come to our home. Of course, FI told me. They refuse to talk directly to me, which is even more annoying as I can't defend myself.
FI and I discussed it, and we've decided not to even bother with asking them not to come to the wedding (the invites were sent before we knew they had a problem with me). If they show up, we'll thank them for coming and that will be it. FI is hurt that they hurt me, and he doesn't want to have anything to do with them anymore. It's going to take me a couple of weeks, but I'll get over it.
So there you go. Sorry it became a novel.