Facebook Chat

pirategal03

Is it possible to set it so some people never see me as online and therefore can never chat without clicking the "go offline" for everyone?

I have my friends setup in groups, I'd like to make it so one group can't chat.

pirategal03

Right.  I usually have that clicked so I appear offline for everyone.  I was hoping there was something in the privacy settings to appear offline for certain groups and not others.

I have my privacy set up in tiers, some people can see my wall, others can't, some can see my photos, others can't, I was hoping that was possible for chat as well. 

pirategal03

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:e4a5d8ba-5169-4624-988d-f957eb5a8861">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]What AATB said. Speaking of, I tried to find you on bookface and I couldn't. 
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

Wha?  Let's work that out. 

betrothed123

I'm the queen of just not responding and then when they later complain that I never answered them I say "Oh sorry, I wans't there.  I must have left my computer logged in."  Yeah I'm that biitch.

Anysunrise

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:94ccedd2-a330-43bf-a715-806041ca9557">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]Right.  I usually have that clicked so I appear offline for everyone.  I was hoping there was something in the privacy settings to appear offline for certain groups and not others. I have my privacy set up in tiers, some people can see my wall, others can't, some can see my photos, others can't, I was hoping that was possible for chat as well. 
Posted by pirategal03[/QUOTE]

She means the little green button next to the group name when you open the chat window. It looks kind of like a slide button on an iPod. If you click that, you go offline for everyone in that group.

ETA: Wait...did you get this or not? I'm kind of confused now actually.

MarriedInAFever

I wish I knew! I never FB chat because I don't want to talk to certain people who are ALWAYS on.

pirategal03

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:a7a6a2e1-6c5f-4de9-9ad7-f0d47dcc7539">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook Chat : She means the little green button next to the group name when you open the chat window. It looks kind of like a slide button on an iPod. If you click that, you go offline for everyone in that group. ETA: Wait...did you get this or not? I'm kind of confused now actually.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

Hmm. OK let me go look.  I thought she meant the little green button at the very top that turns it off for everyone, that's what I've been using. 

eastunder1

I created a new friend group called "chat" and put a dozen people in it that I actually like chatting with.  Then made that group my default setting on FB chat so they're the only ones that can see me online.   There is an option to show certain groups in your chat window.  Top right click maybe?  I dunno.  It's there.  I'd recommend that.   Then you can also turn "other friends" on and off too at your discretion so everyone can see you if you're feeling froggy. 

edit: Since you're wanting to exclude a certain group, make a new one and include everyone but those people.  easy peasy. 

pirategal03

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:55c081bc-3223-429b-ae1d-b2aa6aae5a2a">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]I wish I knew! I never FB chat because I don't want to talk to certain people who are ALWAYS on.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]

This is my problem now.  There are people who I would like to chat with.  I was messaging back and forth with a friend last night, and decided it would be easier just to turn the chat on since we were both obviously online.  I got to talk to him, but was also bombarded with 6 other chat windows from people I had no interest in talking to. 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I have a "limited" group.  They see a limited profile that excludes my photos, most of my profile information, my wall posts.  I have lots of state officials and whatnot who add me because of my job, so yeah... they don't need to see that stuff.

They are always offline on my chat too For a while there this one legislator was talking to me all the time... so I had to fix that.

NatesGirl16

Yay! I'm going to try this as soon as I get home.  Fi's younger sister (she's about 13) is cute, but she FB chats me every single time I log in, even if it's just for a minute.  I have nothing to say to a 13 year  old.  She's cute, but ugh.

zippityb

I am sad that FB chat pretty much put the final nail in the coffin of AIM. I had the BEST library of away messages.

Anysunrise

MarriedInAFever

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:4daa2adc-395c-4606-b3b8-6c8a7cd529e6">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm the queen of just not responding and then when they later complain that I never answered them I say "Oh sorry, I wans't there.  I must have left my computer logged in."  Yeah I'm that biitch.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

I try to do this on Gchat. My MOH, who I love, always seems to message me about random things when I'm busy. But she must know I'm actually there. If I don't respond, I get "Bitch! I know you're there!" messages

DodgersBride

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:4daa2adc-395c-4606-b3b8-6c8a7cd529e6">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm the queen of just not responding and then when they later complain that I never answered them I say "Oh sorry, I wans't there.  I must have left my computer logged in."  Yeah I'm that biitch.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

I do this all the time too. There's this old friend from school that kept requesting me on FB and I wouldn't ignore or accept and he would send me a message. So I finally accepted him and them the IM chat kept coming up.

pirategal03

Success!  I see it now.  Thanks

Every time I clicked on it before I'd get bombarded before I could see those little sliders were there. 

[Deleted User]

I am always 'offline.' i swear, as soon as I go online my drunk friend loves to message me, and I usually have no clue what he's talking about. And I've known him for a long time, so for me to not understand him means he is way gone. Or my mom gets all excited and wants to chat, and normally I just want to watch TV or do something else.

So, I either stay offline or ignore the messages and pretend that they aren't there.

marriedfilingjointly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:8f51fa1e-1be4-4d01-954e-793a50cb6c52">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]I am sad that FB chat pretty much put the final nail in the coffin of AIM. I had the BEST library of away messages.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]


Haha me too.

raynes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:66735c4a-32d7-419c-b169-c075ce0786e9">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook Chat : I try to do this on Gchat. My MOH, who I love, always seems to message me about random things when I'm busy. But she must know I'm actually there. If I don't respond, I get "Bitch! I know you're there!" messages
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]

That's cause when you're not there your little bubble thingy turns orange.  Like now.  Except it's a video camera, not a bubble.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

There are only ever like, two or three people at a time that I'd ever feel like talking to on FB anyway.  Most of my friends (sad to say it) I'd rather just not.

NatesGirl16

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_knottie-deathmatch?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:7a8a2826-e66f-435c-87f7-d7a17e901235Post:c5df2528-8036-4530-823d-7311c3a94b1d">Re: Knottie Deathmatch</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh! Nates versus Number in a school teacher throwdown! Rulers and all.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

Woo!  I'm actually using an old school pointer this year, and the 10th graders are so afraid of me :)

Lenore2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:4daa2adc-395c-4606-b3b8-6c8a7cd529e6">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm the queen of just not responding and then when they later complain that I never answered them I say "Oh sorry, I wans't there.  I must have left my computer logged in."  Yeah I'm that biitch.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]


Yup, I do this regularly with IM's of all kinds. You gotta take control of your communications devices (phones, e-mails, blah blah) or they will definitely take control of you.

NatesGirl16

How weird--a post got sent to another thread instead of another board.

Is it just me?  My last post says "Re: Knottie Deathmatch" on it.  WTF, TK?

MarriedInAFever

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:e7189950-ddfb-4c74-88d5-5c3a8e5951aa">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook Chat : That's cause when you're not there your little bubble thingy turns orange.  Like now.  Except it's a video camera, not a bubble.
Posted by raynes[/QUOTE]

Ooook. I just checked. And why is it a video camera? Are you watching me right now, Raynes?

Technology scares me.

raynes

Now you're a red video camera.  And yes.  I'm watching you.  You have lettuce stuck in your teeth.

MarriedInAFever

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:4258ccfd-f5a6-4040-ba5f-72afbafac845">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]Now you're a red video camera.  And yes.  I'm watching you.  You have lettuce stuck in your teeth.
Posted by raynes[/QUOTE]

Actually, I floss with spinach. That must be it.

marriedfilingjointly

I quit AIM because this random girl I met in grad school IMed me every freaking time I took my away message down.  It was bizarre.  We never even spoke that much when we were in school together. 

SarahPLiz

I never got into FB chat. I text. Plus, I never really know how to end a chat that goes on and on forever. 

pirategal03

I had an awesome AIM away message library too.  I even had it backed-up because I was afraid to lose it.  A lot of work went into that thing.

I mostly g-chat now.  Now that I know I can censor the facebook chat I'll probably leave it on some.

Anysunrise

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_facebook-chat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:75799d20-1fd4-452a-995e-af7038a0c917Post:ee884757-c83a-41e3-ae3c-fb59ea8c88ae">Re: Facebook Chat</a>:
[QUOTE]I never really got into AIM.  We were MSN people.  I always set my status to "Out to Lunch".  I thought it was witty.
Posted by raynes[/QUOTE]

Woot! I only have AIM because 95% of my WoW friends are American, and use it.

Shaye526

This is definitely useful info.  There's some people I need to block from fb chat sooner than later. I had a (not-close) friend of mine begin chatting with me a couple of weeks ago on fb. I think she was drunk. She has sort of hinted that she had a crush on my FI, although from the convo I had with her that crush seems to be alive and well.

She started telling me about how she loves my FI but then would quickly regroup with a "I mean, I love both of you so much". The she starts telling me about how she saw him at a certain bar/restaurant that we frequent and he was having lunch with one of his GM's but she didn't want to go say hi because she was embarrassed about how she looked in front of him....but the next thing was "but that's stupid because there's no reason for me to worry about what he thinks, he's my friend". Uh yeah...

By the time we got toward the end of our convo, she had started to explain to me how she felt that a mutual friend of ours (who I am close with and who's in my WP) tried to break up our friendship at one point. AWKWARD!

So besides the fact that I've been incessantly rambling, there's a lesson here. Block the weirdos and don't drink and chat.