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Really?

So one of my BM's marriage is ending.  Its nasty and doesnt look like it has an end in sight.  I am sad for her because she wont talk to me about it on an honest level.  She has been hanging out with these rando girls and I dont like seeing her spiral down.  I am trying to be a good friend but I dont know what else to do for her.  She needs to just end it, divorce him and move on.  There is alot of money/property/businesses at stake though so she doesnt want to leave until she gets her money.  I do my best to give advice and help her whenever she needs a place to stay or a shoulder to cry on.

Well, her husband just called me.   He wants my "help" with this.  Wants me to tell him what to do to get rid of her.  I guess he i trying to call her mom too.

Seriously?  I dont want to be invloved in your shiit show, and I am certainly not going to sit her and let you bash my friend to me.

Why do people feel the need to involve others in their super personal business??  I really cant believe that conversation just happened.
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Re: Really?

  • What a shiitty situation! People get desperate at those times, and will try anything to get their way. I support you staying out of the middle of that stuff. 
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  • How tactless. I hope this is what you said to him.

    About your friend, just be there when she is done spiraling, if she won't listen to you that is really all you can do.
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  • Ugh how awful.  I swear people don't think straight sometimes.  I hope her mother told him to go away too.
  • What a mess. I agree, stay out of it.
  • What's a rando friend? Random?

    Anyway, yes, stay out of it. Unfortunately some friends never listen and just need to figure their shiit out on their own. I can't believe the husband would call and ask how tog et rid of her. Classless.
  • Yeah uh, that blows.  A marriage ending is shitty business but it sure doesn't do anyone any good to make that business belong to anyone more than themselves.

    I hope they figure it out.  I would have told him that if he wants to sort things out with his wife, or hope-to-be-ex-wife, that he's a freakin adult and he should man up and end it himself.

    One of Ben's sisters is getting divorced so I'm kinda dealing with a breakup in the family/wedding party too.  I've lamented about it here a few times.  Her husband was going to be one of our ushers - and now, yeah, no.
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  • Wtf?  How does that conversation even go?

    "Hey Blue, I know you're getting married in three months and all that, but can help me ditch your friend/my wife?  Thanks a bunch, you're the bestest!"

    Awk-ward.
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  • Stressful times can make people crazy.

    A couple of years back someone I was working with at the time was going through a divorce.  I had known her husband from before I got the job, and when they broke up she came to me and asked me to drive by his house a few times every day to make sure he didn't have another girl there (I lived up the street from them).  Um.. not my job, crazy.  Thanks anyway.
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    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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    [QUOTE]Stressful times can make people crazy. A couple of years back someone I was working with at the time was going through a divorce.  I had known her husband from before I got the job, and when they broke up <strong><u>she came to me and asked me to drive by his house a few times every day to make sure he didn't have another girl there (I lived up the street from them</u></strong>).  Um.. not my job, crazy.  Thanks anyway.
    Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

    Whaaaat?  Jesus.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Really? : Whaaaat?  Jesus.
    Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]
    No really, biitch be crazy.
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    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • The funniest part of the conversation was when he told me he wants her to leave so his new gf can move in.

    That didnt win any sympathy points from me.

    Its the most unhealthy thing I have watched for the past year.  I really just want them to settle and move on, but I am not getting involved.  Neither of them are innocent in this whole thing, but she is my friend and i want her healthy and happy.
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  • I had a friend in college who constantly asked me to stalk her ex boyfriend on facebook for her, because after they broke up, he blocked a bunch of stuff from her on his profile.  It was SO annoying.  If she wasn't call me (from work) to ask me to tell her what his posts said, she was hanging with me at home (we were roommates) and asking me to log in and then look at his page from my account with her.

    I understood it maybe the first few times but then it just got to be effing excessive, bizarre and downright obsessive stalkerish.
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    [QUOTE]<strong>The funniest part of the conversation was when he told me he wants her to leave so his new gf can move in.</strong> That didnt win any sympathy points from me. Its the most unhealthy thing I have watched for the past year.  I really just want them to settle and move on, but I am not getting involved.  Neither of them are innocent in this whole thing, but she is my friend and i want her healthy and happy.
    Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

    Oooooooooh noes.  Yeah that's just not okay that he's trying to involve you in that funk. 
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    [QUOTE]<strong>The funniest part of the conversation was when he told me he wants her to leave so his new gf can move in</strong>. That didnt win any sympathy points from me. Its the most unhealthy thing I have watched for the past year.  I really just want them to settle and move on, but I am not getting involved.  Neither of them are innocent in this whole thing, but she is my friend and i want her healthy and happy.
    Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]


    WTF? Super awkward situation. I wouldn't even know how to hold my tongue after hearing that, he would have gotten a piece of my mind. I agree it's definitely best to stay out of it.
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