Cake in Face

loop0406

Anyone watched the new VH1'La La Full Court Wedding' on Sunday ?

I am watching it online and the wedding planner made an interesting statement, that how the cake is fed on wedding day determines marriage future, she says those who throw the cake in each other's face will get divorced, she swears by it and says 'look back at history'

Thoughts ?

(we don't plan on doing that, don't want makeup messing up)

JenGin74

I say Bah Humbug

Anysunrise

This makes me think of that Jennifer Lopez movie where she's a wedding planner (pretty sure it's actually called The Wedding Planner), and she says the same things about...what was it, the color of the bridesmaids dresses and the first dance song? Anyone else see that, lol.

betrothed123

She's so full of shiit I can't even begin to explain.  My parents did the whole cake smashing thing at their wedding, and SURPRISE! 28 years later are still happily married.  I had friends how did not smash the cake and were divorced just a few years later. 

IMO how you eat the cake has the same bearing on marital bliss as whether or not it rains on your wedding day.

pixiedust84

I don't think that's true. Personally I don't love the tradition and we won't be doing it but I don't think it correlates to divorce rates. That's just crazy - lots of happily married couples smash cake :-)

LesPaul

Cake has nothing to do with longevity.

[Deleted User]

We did a little cake in the face. I guess we're doomed. But I also told H I was going to do it the night before and so he was prepared. It wasn't throwing though, it was a little cake/icing on the nose. I don't think I've ever seen anyone full-on throw cake on their new spouse.

I think attitude has more bearing on the relationship than anything else. We laughed about it, both knowing it was coming, but if I knew it would really upset him then I wouldn't have. I think about that when I see episodes of Bridezillas. The way the brides treat their FIs says more than what they do or don't do at the wedding.

Celles

I am not spending $150 on professional make-up to have cake smashed in my face.  If it happens, then I'm pretty sure I'll be proving this VH1 chick right. 

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cake in Face : you mean cake won't make me live longer?!? Damn...
Posted by rhonwynv[/QUOTE]


This makes me happy

dazed2confused

my mom has this theory too, and so far its held true for those she knows.  But when she thinks of cake in the face that isn't the playful cake but that smashing...i think that this has some barring on the attitude of the couple and could loosely show the success of the relationship.

Though at the end of the day, its only cake

missy68

It could be causal, in that if one partner does it to the other without party B being aware it's going to happen, it may be a sign of a lack of respect on party A's part. Which, in turn could lead to divorce down the road.

But pre-planned? Doubtful.

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_cake-face?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8bd5f2a7-894f-4396-bb30-a40bb3f8c4c1Post:497f03d9-3388-4d43-9e1e-58778da1027b">Re: Cake in Face</a>:
[QUOTE]It could be causal, in that <strong>if one partner does it to the other without party B being aware it's going to happen, it may be a sign of a lack of respect on party A's part</strong>. Which, in turn could lead to divorce down the road. But pre-planned? Doubtful.
Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]
But in this case I'd still say the cake had nothing to do with it.  That just boils down to lack of respect.

MISSCOURTNEY20

We are not doing the cake in the face. I always look at the couples' faces when they do that and they always have such a grimace look. It just doesn't come across as being somthing nice.

missy68

Betrothed, yes - that's what I meant by causal. There's no direct link, but if you WANTED to say it, you could, but it's technically because of a deeper/other reason. Statistics/studies are "fun" that way.

vegasgroom

We don't plan on doing it, I'll let you know in a few decades if we end up divorced over the cake smashing lol.

pirategal03

I hate cake smashing.  I don't care whether it has anything to do with long term marriage success or not, I just think it's really rude.  Not to mention, it's pretty crazy to get dressed up in incredibly nice clothes, doll yourself up, and then intentionally get hit with food. 

megk8oz

I think if both parties are on board, I really don't think that's a "tell tale sign" that a couple won't make it. If it's all in good fun and everybody's happy, then what could possibly be the harm? 

However If one person's like "Seriously, I will be really upset if you smash cake in my face" and the other person does it anyway, I think it's more or less a [very public] sign of how little mutual respect there is. And yeah, I'll say a marriage is "doomed" if there's no mutual respect.

JennaV26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_cake-face?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8bd5f2a7-894f-4396-bb30-a40bb3f8c4c1Post:d84d7081-af81-4812-bfc5-78d487900373">Re: Cake in Face</a>:
[QUOTE]I am not spending $150 on professional make-up to have cake smashed in my face.  If it happens, then I'm pretty sure I'll be proving this VH1 chick right. 
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

Ha. Yes. This was my thought exactly.

We fed eachother cakes with our forks and I didn't even think about until everyone said something. Later people kept going "Um, aren't you supposed to feed it with your fingers?" Our cake cutting was also really awkward because we ate it and then smiled I was like "Okay what now??"

missy68

Of course, there was no cake smashing at my first wedding, but I still divorced that ratbastard.

kd.joseph

 I must say I dont like the practice because I think it's kind of rude and messy. But to each there own. My DH's daughter and her husband did a little cute cake on the nose thing,which is fine for them. And it was so them.

Being that this is my third, and I've never smashed cake with any of my husbands, current or past I think it speaks for itself.

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]I think if both parties are on board, I really don't think that's a "tell tale sign" that a couple won't make it. If it's all in good fun and everybody's happy, then what could possibly be the harm?  However If one person's like "Seriously, I will be really upset if you smash cake in my face" and the other person does it anyway, I think it's more or less a [very public] sign of how little mutual respect there is. And yeah, I'll say a marriage is "doomed" if there's no mutual respect.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]

Ditto this

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cake in Face : "She picked teal for her bridesmaid dresses.  Teal.  The color of gangreen!".  Haha!  Love that movie. 
Posted by mica001[/QUOTE]

Yay, someone else got it!

sarah0725

Well, I told FI that if he smashed cake on me, we would get an annulment, so......