Dh's and cell phones

fairy_diva

We check each others phones all the time, including answering them & checking messages.  I don't see it any different than a landline into our home we would answer. I did answer other, because we both "screen" calls, meaning if its someone I don't want talk to on his phone then I don't answer and let it go to voive mail.   IE: his wacked out mother & sister, those two are freaking bananas.

luckyme502

I have answered his phone before.  If the caller ID is someone I know.  He gets lots of work calls and I would never answer those.  He doesn't answer my phone, but I think it's because he doesn't want too. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

If he's driving or if he asks me to. But his phone is paid by his company, so it's not really *his* property and contains work correspondance as well. And I wouldn't feel okay checking his email without permission, so...

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If it rings, and he's close enough, he'll bring the phone to me. If it's someone that wouldn't mind if he answered, like my family or close friends, he'll answer it and tell them I'll call them back. Otherwise, he'll let it ring. Text messages are different. We don't answer each other's texts. There is something more private about texting. If we wanted it to be out loud, we'd call, or else it's not important enough to call and therefor still stands. We do little surprises for each other fairly often and mostly by text. We would each like to keep little things like that secret. It's nice to have a little mystery.

pooh8402

only if he askes me to. I don't care about him messing with my phone. but he's a private person anyway, and just doesn't like when I mess with his stuff all the time. I am curious and will ask who he is talking/texting to, but I don't go through his phone. if he can't answer the phone, I'll let him know he missed a call/text.

Knittibell

I don't see it as a big deal. When FI and I recently got engaged, I asked for his passwords on things- but not for the reasons you may think... when I was widowed a year after my first marriage, I didn't have a lot of my late husband's passwords, for things like e-mail. It never occurred to either of us to exchange that info, and when he was killed, it became really hard to get it. So now, tucked away in the filing cabinet, is a list of our passwords.