ugh, bored.

honeybear9311

let me first say i love my man, but i swear he is like a 60 year old man! We have not went out in the past 2 months (except the occasional sunday lunch) and he is in bed by 10, which is only because i refuse to let him go to bed at 9... We both work and let me say with confidence my job i much more exhausting than his (8-9hours with screaming 4 year olds.) We are in our twenties, it is time to go out dancing, drink cocktails, have sex, and talk about when we are old and gray! Ugh, but here i am on the knot while he is snoozing away, lol maybe we will get the early bird special at IHOP tomorrow - - - - Peace out ladies

JennaV26

If it makes you feel any better, Fi and I are at my place tonight eating ice cream and drinking beer by ourselves! My wedding diet is pretty much non existent haha
 
We go out fairly often but he'll be starting medical school in August and that will pretty much keep him home studying for the next 4 years! And since we're moving and I won't have any friends for awhile I'm guessing (so sad!) we'll probably be an old couple too for awhile! Booo!!!!

nda_roxybabe

Is it possible he has any depression or anxiety issues? Why does he not want to go out?

honeybear9311

I dont think its that, he seems fine in all other aspects, he is just a couch potato now!  We do nothing, granted money is tight because we have a vacation planned in 3 weeks AND i may be a little pms-y right now but i have cabin fever already! Does not help that tonight i can NOT fall asleep to save my life

[Deleted User]

Some people just prefer to stay in. There's nothing wrong with that. Was he very social when you first met? Why don't you take him out on a nice date? Like dinner and a movie.

amwilli5

My FI and I have been like tat for ages, granted we both work in hospitals and our shifts start at 6 am 7 at the latest.  At this point we enjoy staying in and watching a movie rather than going out and painting the town.  But we do make it a point to go out to dinner and get drinks at least twice a month this way we get to see friends and catch up.  Maybe you can get your man to agree to go out on a monthly or bi monthly date 

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ugh-bored?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:9ad3c2d2-9585-4618-a6f4-9477f2aca6daPost:5e21aadb-6b0f-448b-ab95-62a589f78e7d">Re: ugh, bored.</a>:
[QUOTE]Some people just prefer to stay in. There's nothing wrong with that. Was he very social when you first met? Why don't you take him out on a nice date? Like dinner and a movie.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

This is a great idea. I know H loves it and feels more motivated to go out when I take the initiative and plan something fun for us to do for a change.

I'm also curious if he's always been like this, or if it's just now finally bothering you. Have you talked to him about this? Some people are just homebodies, so you might not be able to change him if he's always been this way.

Dashofpurple

Did I read that correctly "my job i much more exhausting than his (8-9hours with screaming 4 year olds"?  Is that your job or his?  If it is his job, then maybe he is worn out from the kids.  If it is your job (and his job is easier...not saying that any job is really easy), then I am not sure as to why he is tired.  My FI and I are homebodies.  Now that it is warmer outside, we make it apparent to get off the couch and go for a walk around the neighborhood.  Even if it is just a 1/2 hour, it still gets us away from the tv and it is alone time.  I get up at 4:40am and he gets up at 5:30am so we are in bed by 10pm...nothing wrong with that.  I like cew's idea about dinner and a movie.  GL.

lisarose7

A lot of guys don't see the point in going out unless they're trying to pick up girls.  My FI used to go clubbing/barhopping before we met, but lost interest after we were together for that very reason.  I still like to go out, so I go with my girlfriends.  He prefers to stay home or go fishing on his days off.  Why don't you go out with friends if you need to go out?

honeybear9311

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ugh-bored?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:9ad3c2d2-9585-4618-a6f4-9477f2aca6daPost:d6456480-9009-4e04-a80b-ef18585f9a5f">Re: ugh, bored.</a>:
[QUOTE]Did I read that correctly "my job i much more exhausting than his (8-9hours with screaming 4 year olds"?  Is that your job or his?  If it is his job, then maybe he is worn out from the kids.  If it is your job (and his job is easier...not saying that any job is really easy), then I am not sure as to why he is tired. Posted by Dashofpurple[/QUOTE]

Thats my job, and i do love it
And no we use to go out all the time, he seems happy, we still have a great relationship, we talk, he is excited for planning a wedding, we have not issues with anyone, he has just become a total couch potato.
Thanks for the suggestion for a date night, I haven't talked about it to him, so I am going to tonight... How will he knows it bothers me if I don't say anything