Kinda long...sorry but I need some input on how to handle the situation.
So my future brother & sister in laws son is going to be our ringbearer. These people are so self-centered and selfish that I really cannot even put it into words. And that's not even based on this situation. They have known about the wedding and that the brother in law and the nephew would be in the wedding at least 15 months prior to our wedding this May. Once we picked the tuxes, we sent info to all of the groomsmen on what they needed to do and how much $ it would cost. The ringbearers tux is the same price as the groomsmens tuxes, which is $140. Not too bad in my opinion since that's what my girls are paying for dresses, but I did expect that the ringbearers tux would be slightly less than the groomsmens. But it's out of our hands and we have no control over the cost.
My future in laws live several states away and we rarely see them execept at family events once or twice a year. We recently saw them at a family funreal. They had the nerve to corner my fiance and I at the funreal to discuss the price of the ringbearers tux and complain about how much it cost. Now, we had literally just driven 10 hours to get to the funreal. I had not even gotten a chance to say hi to everyone or even pay my final repsects to the deceased. The future sister in law actually had the nerve to say to me that our wedding was really costing them a lot of money since they had to stay at a hotel (because their own parents won't even put them up for a few days, this is how arrogant and selfish they are). So then she asked if the ringbearer could wear a black suit. By this point I was so tired from driving 10 hours and frustrated with them that I just nodded my head and walked away, not even really paying attention to what they were saying.
After we find out that they are planning to forego the tux for the ringbearer and just get a black suite, I'm putting my foot down. They have had plenty of time to save for this and I get it, weddings are expensive. But what really pisses me off is that literally almost every weekend they are traveling somewhere to go to the beach or visit friends. Last weekend they were at Disneyworld, this weekend they are at a beach house. It's a matter of priorities and apperently his only brothers wedding isn't a priority. Even though my fiance has been in two of his brothers weddings, paying for tuxes and to travel both times.
My fiance is trying to handle the situation, but he is being really nice about it. Meanwhile they are posting pictures of their beach house and the view from their deck while they are sipping beers on facebook. I am seriously condsidering sending an email or calling them to say if they don't get the tux the kid isn't in the wedding and you need to explain why. But then I feel like I'm punishing the kid and he can't help that his parents are jacka$$es.
What should I do????