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basic bridal rules to start...

Being a wedding professional for over 16 years I would like to give some advice to newly engaged brides that are starting to shop for the perfect gown.
It is a very good idea to first have some type of style in mind that you would like to try on not come into a salon without pictures or fabric types you are interested in.

This makes it much easier for your consultant to help assist you if you have some sort of idea to start with then go from there and let your consultant make suggestions, since they are the style expert and can usually look at your body type and be able to direct you into a style that will best flatter your height and body shape.

Then always bring at least one other person with you hopefully your Mother or best friend someone that will be honest with you and that you value their opinion.

Please..... and I stress DO NOT bring your whole bridal party and above all do not bring little children into a boutique to try on bridal gown selections.
This is a very important day for you and your Fiance' and you do not need the distraction of too many opinions and unruly children.

Children get tired and eritable and can make it much harder on you and the  consultant assisting you, when they are having to keep children off the gowns and stage area.

This is one of the most frustrating problems for the bride to be and the consultant assisting her she can feel rushed and that she is not important and gets frustrated and leaves without seeing all the gown options that the boutique had to show her.

The best time to shop is during the week in the evening maybe when you have a day off from work or your able to sneek out of work a bit early and call the salon to let them know you wanted to stop by to look at some gowns when it is the least busy that way you have an hour or two to spend in the store.

Most brides can spend anywhere to an hour to three hours in a salon it can be a very long process for the bride and her consultant, just make sure that you treat your consultant with respect and understand she is doing all the heavy lifting and re-hanging of the gowns as you try them on and trying to make sure she takes the gowns out of the room as soon as you take them off so you can move on to the next gown selection.
 
And above all do not come into the salon thirty minutes before they are closing and want to start trying on gowns.

You can't seriously think you will be making a desicionin thirty minutes and quiet frankly your consultant is ready to go home for the evening. Some salons do not require appointments so take that into consideration you may not get a consultants one-on-one service if she is already assisting another bride, most salons do not have more than one or two consultants on staff in a day, so coming in on a busy Saturday or Sunday you want to make sure you have one other person that could come with you to help you inside the room if the consultant is already busy with another bride.

We are here for you but it is ultimately going to be your decision on what gown you pick, so if you come into the salon prepared that will make it run alot more smoothly. 

 
I hope this will be somewhat helpful when you start looking for your gown just remember you may try-on five gowns or thirty gowns but when you find the "ONE" you will ultimately know.
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  • That was SOOOOOO enlightening. I will keep all of that in mind for my next wedding.
  • I love how you mentioned you are a wedding professional. Now you can be banned. Sorry!
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  • If you're a vendor of any sort, you can't post on the knot boards. If you want to keep posting, keep that part about "wedding professional for over 16 years" to yourself. Also, what's the impetus for this post? Why did you pick this board? I'm sure there are lots of lurkers and probably more regulars than I know who haven't bought their dresses yet, but the majority of us have already been through this process.
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  • What does eritable mean?

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_basic-bridal-rules-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a32a7ae4-5d23-47a0-a313-0016189c9bb6Post:e022293f-5022-4f52-a9c3-13434cc05316">Re: basic bridal rules to start...</a>:
    [QUOTE]What does eritable mean?
    Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

    <div>That was my favorite part. </div>
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  • crap, I hate it when I can't read the OP. Esp. if it has spelling errors to mock.
  • I enjoyed "sneek" myself.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_basic-bridal-rules-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a32a7ae4-5d23-47a0-a313-0016189c9bb6Post:cd13db07-f124-44aa-94c8-b9cca080e0a8">basic bridal rules to start...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Being a wedding professional for over 16 years I would like to give some advice to newly engaged brides that are starting to shop for the perfect gown. It is a very good idea to first have some type of style in mind that you would like to try on not come into a salon without pictures or fabric types you are interested in. This makes it much easier for your consultant to help assist you if you have some sort of idea to start with then go from there and let your consultant make suggestions, since they are the style expert and can usually look at your body type and be able to direct you into a style that will best flatter your height and body shape. Then always bring at least one other person with you hopefully your Mother or best friend someone that will be honest with you and that you value their opinion. Please..... and I stress DO NOT bring your whole bridal party and above all do not bring little children into a boutique to try on bridal gown selections. This is a very important day for you and your Fiance' and you do not need the distraction of too many opinions and unruly children. Children get tired and eritable and can make it much harder on you and the  consultant assisting you, when they are having to keep children off the gowns and stage area. This is one of the most frustrating problems for the bride to be and the consultant assisting her she can feel rushed and that she is not important and gets frustrated and leaves without seeing all the gown options that the boutique had to show her. The best time to shop is during the week in the evening maybe when you have a day off from work or your able to sneek out of work a bit early and call the salon to let them know you wanted to stop by to look at some gowns when it is the least busy that way you have an hour or two to spend in the store. Most brides can spend anywhere to an hour to three hours in a salon it can be a very long process for the bride and her consultant, just make sure that you treat your consultant with respect and understand she is doing all the heavy lifting and re-hanging of the gowns as you try them on and trying to make sure she takes the gowns out of the room as soon as you take them off so you can move on to the next gown selection.   And above all do not come into the salon thirty minutes before they are closing and want to start trying on gowns. You can't seriously think you will be making a desicionin thirty minutes and quiet frankly your consultant is ready to go home for the evening. Some salons do not require appointments so take that into consideration you may not get a consultants one-on-one service if she is already assisting another bride, most salons do not have more than one or two consultants on staff in a day, so coming in on a busy Saturday or Sunday you want to make sure you have one other person that could come with you to help you inside the room if the consultant is already busy with another bride. We are here for you but it is ultimately going to be your decision on what gown you pick, so if you come into the salon prepared that will make it run alot more smoothly.    I hope this will be somewhat helpful when you start looking for your gown just remember you may try-on five gowns or thirty gowns but when you find the "ONE" you will ultimately know.
    Posted by bridalmgr[/QUOTE]
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  • What I find especially amusing is the number of us that have said "Yeah, we didn't have the "The One" feeling."  Yet she still insists we'll know.

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    [QUOTE]What I find especially amusing is the number of us that have said "Yeah, we didn't have the "The One" feeling."  Yet she still insists we'll know.
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
    I actually did. Dress shopping was the thing I was dreading most about the whole planning process, and it ended up being the easiest thing I did. I know I'm certainly not in the majority, but I did have that "yes, this is definitely it" feeling.
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  • i read the whole post.

    Despite hiding behind the guise of helping/advising brides in an effort to make their day "special", (if you're marrying the love of your life, it's already special) your post came across as very "do this to make the wedding vendors lives easier".  While that's nice and all, it sounds very preachy.

    A wedding is NOT the most important thing although some vendors obviously like to think so.  i cannot believe you're advocating taking off work or sneaking out to accomplish wedding tasks.  How irresponsible.  Where do you work?  i want to be sure to never use your services as you obviously have a skewed sense of what is truly important in life.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: basic bridal rules to start... : I actually did. Dress shopping was the thing I was dreading most about the whole planning process, and it ended up being the easiest thing I did. I know I'm certainly not in the majority, but I did have that "yes, this is definitely it" feeling.
    Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

    Right, and I'm sure there are many other people out there who had that feeling as well.  I just remember a fairly recent post about it and it seemed liek the majority of us said "Nope, never had that feeling."  Well, according to Ms Vendor here, we didn't find the right dress then, I guess ;)

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  • So, throwing the dress on the floor, stomping on it and calling the consultant a bitch is out of the picture? 

    OMG, thank you for clarifying! I was so confused when I was trying on dresses.  Do I rip the veil in half if I hate it?  Do I spit on it?  Your advice is a godsend. 

    Next time I "sneek" out of work early to try on dresses, I'll remember that "eritable" children are annoying and "quiet frankly" I won't find a dress in thirty minutes.  (Even though my two top choices were the first dresses I tried on in both salons, within the first gasp! ten minutes of being there).
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: basic bridal rules to start... : Right, and I'm sure there are many other people out there who had that feeling as well.  I just remember a fairly recent post about it and it seemed liek the majority of us said "Nope, never had that feeling."  Well, according to Ms Vendor here, we didn't find the right dress then, I guess ;)
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
    Well duh, J. If you're not more sure about your gown than your FI, then clearly you don't have the right dress or the right priorities ;)
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  • I love when we get posts like this, because it's always the same type of advice that we've been hearing/reading over and over again.

    And really, take a day off work to go play with dresses?  I had way better things to spend my precious vacation time on than trying on dresses, which I could do on the weekend or an evening.  If you get off work at 4/5pm, you have several hours to try on dresses, more than enough time IMO.
  • WOW... so glad you "lovely" brides have found your gown... wonderful for you.

    excuse the misspelled word..." IRRITABLE " BUT SOUNDS LIKE THE WORD FITS IN THIS BLOG... So glad I Love my Job and helping the brides that do practice courtesy when shopping our establishment, and I thought a blog was free to anyone to state their opinion whether agreed with or not...


    God Bless You...have a great day...
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    [QUOTE]WOW... so glad you "lovely" brides have found your gown... wonderful for you. excuse the misspelled word..." IRRITABLE " BUT SOUNDS LIKE THE WORD FITS IN THIS BLOG... So glad I Love my Job and helping the brides that do practice courtesy when shopping our establishment, and I thought a blog was free to anyone to state their opinion whether agreed with or not... God Bless You...have a great day...
    Posted by bridalmgr[/QUOTE]
    God Bless you too! Enjoy your sunday!
  • This isn't a blog. It's a forum.
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    [QUOTE]WOW... so glad you "lovely" brides have found your gown... wonderful for you. excuse the misspelled word..." IRRITABLE " BUT SOUNDS LIKE THE WORD FITS IN THIS BLOG... So glad I Love my Job and helping the brides that do practice courtesy when shopping our establishment, and I thought a blog was free to anyone to state their opinion whether agreed with or not... God Bless You...have a great day...
    Posted by bridalmgr[/QUOTE]


    It's not a blog.  At all.  And you are free to state your opinion.  Just as we are free to disagree with every word you say.  You however, are an employee of the bridal industry.  Upon starting an account with The Knot, you were asked to agree with the general rules of the Knot.  One of those rules states that vendors (that'd be you) are not permitted to post on the message/chat boards.

    Oh.. and we're not irritable..we're snarky.  Read the damn board title.

    Have a lovely and wonder ful day!!
  • I smite you OP.

    I did all of those things you listed yesterday (a SATURDAY, GASP!). I brought all 15 of my bridesmaids plus some family members and FIL's along with their children. I showed up there 26 minutes to closing and demanded that if they wanted my business they were going to have to let me try on whatever I wanted regardless of whether the consultant knew it would look good or not.

    I told all the other brides who were shopping to kindly GTFO, because it was MY TIME and ALL ABLOUT ME! And then, just to show how much I truly appreciated my consultant, I gave her a good, cold slap across the face since I didn't end up finding "THE DRESS".

    I was very eritable.
  • You guys?  I think we should be a little more receptive.  After all, the OP is the bridalmgr.  She's only trying to manage us, considering we are unruly, eritable brides.
  • WTF? Why do people refer to this as a blog? That's like when old people call the ATM "that robot".
  • BeeBee22BeeBee22 member
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    This is so lame.  A semi-literate bridal salon employee writing to bitch about the things brides-to-be do at her shop.  Yawn.  I agree that people should behave politely, but this post is just dumb.

    Just put a sign on your shop's door saying "Don't come in if you're going to be a pain in my ass... and keep your kids out."

    Oh, and I second the smiting... just because I like the word :)
  • Hahaha I love it when they call it a blog, how clueless can you be. I bet this woman is like 47 and wears mom jeans, cat sweaters and is still trying to figure out how to program her VCR.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_basic-bridal-rules-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a32a7ae4-5d23-47a0-a313-0016189c9bb6Post:097d2573-4a06-429a-83ac-4ed5a08839b1">Re: basic bridal rules to start...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hahaha I love it when they call it a blog, how clueless can you be. I bet this woman is like 47 and wears mom jeans, <strong>cat sweaters</strong> and is still trying to figure out how to program her VCR.
    Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]
    I've decided that I love you. 

    It's probably a cat sweater with a little Thanksgiving theme.
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    [QUOTE]Hahaha I love it when they call it a blog, how clueless can you be. I bet this woman is like 47 and wears mom jeans, cat sweaters and is <strong>still trying to figure out how to program her VCR.</strong>
    Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]


    I bet she has a beta-max.
  • Ya know, part of working in the customer service industry, is you have to deal with people who are "eritable".  And, part of doing that, is not letting the customer know that you think they're "eritable".  So, coming on here and berating a bunch of your possible future customers (cause we have lots of lurkers), is not conducive to good customer service.

    Just an FYI!  Have a lovely day!
  • OMG!  Wow, I had no idea how to behave.  Thank god OP came along to sort us all out.  *eyeroll*  **headdesk times infinity
  • I know kids are a pain in stores, but considering what is being spent by your customers on even the "cheap" dresses, I think tea and bonbons and absolutely NO attitude on the part the staff is in order, however many people, kids included I bring with me.

    I found the bridal industry to be full of attitude on the whole. Really, there is no where else you would be spending five hundred bucks, let alone 5 or 10K, that would give you as much of a "it is your honor to buy this overpriced stuff from us" attitude as I saw in the bridal shops. That was all the way from David's to Brides of France, BTW.

    Oh and YOU are an authority on what best flatters body types? I think not. While I tried on dresses, I saw sales staff trying to get brides into some pretty awful dresses-maybe because they were the most expensive ones in the store.

    Sneaking out of work early to try on dresses? How about just straight up taking a weekday off to do it and not lying to your boss? Or how about the shops being staffed on weekends and after hours to meet demand?

    Coming to a "no vendors" board to bitch at people about not making your life easier and then being surprised you get a poor reception is just plain silly.
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    [QUOTE]I know kids are a pain in stores, but considering what is being spent by your customers on even the "cheap" dresses, I think tea and bonbons and absolutely NO attitude on the part the staff is in order, however many people, kids included I bring with me. I found the bridal industry to be full of attitude on the whole. Really, there is no where else you would be spending five hundred bucks, let alone 5 or 10K, that would give you as much of a "it is your honor to buy this overpriced stuff from us" attitude as I saw in the bridal shops. That was all the way from David's to Brides of France, BTW. Oh and YOU are an authority on what best flatters body types? I think not. While I tried on dresses, I saw sales staff trying to get brides into some pretty awful dresses-maybe because they were the most expensive ones in the store. Sneaking out of work early to try on dresses? How about just straight up taking a weekday off to do it and not lying to your boss? Or how about the shops being staffed on weekends and after hours to meet demand? Coming to a "no vendors" board to bitch at people about not making your life easier and then being surprised you get a poor reception is just plain silly.
    Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

    I think all of this is quite possibly the greatest thing Lenore has ever said.  I love it.

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