Wedding Regrets

LeiselEB

I would have gotten a videographer. I'd always wanted one, but the ones I liked were way out of budget. 

I would have kept the photographers on for another hour. I wish we had more pictures at the reception. Apparently 10 hours wasn't enough time for me

I would not have draped the ceiling at our venue. 

I would have given myself some time alone before leaving for the ceremony. I felt rushed and anxious just from being around so many people all day, and I wish I would have just chilled for 10 minutes. 

sweetredhead

My regreat is accepting my sister's gift of a photographer.  She told me she knew a great photog and wanted it to be my gift.  Turns out it was her partner's sister who never shot a wedding before and did absolutely no research.  All the pictures are horribly angled (she always held the camera really low and everything in an up angel.)  I literally have 0 pictures that I can put out.  The one I have that's half way decent was sent to me by my uncle.  She did not take pictures of the reception which every table was unique and some absolutely beautiful.  I asked for a few close ups of H and myself since he's so much taller it always looks awkward in full length picture.  Never happened.  

Now we are waiting on it to cool off to take some pictures in our wedding gear and some casuals so we can have personal pictures up in our home.  

I am still mad at my sister for this.  She also said she would pay for our hotel room for 2 nights for our little get away after the wedding.  The hotel called her and she said that she was too busy to pay and that she would pay me back. Never happened.  Glad I had put away extra just in case maney and had not gone to the nice bed and breakfast she picked. 

Also, a different flower guy.  Mine fell apart while walking down the aisle.  That stunk!

I can't type s.h.o.t.s?  what the hellll?

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I would have had my hair down like I wanted. I also would have had a much smaller reception and not accepted my FILs money to invite more of his cousins H and I have never met before. He also made us waste 20 minutes taking pictures with them and neither of us have any idea who any of them are.

Matty143

I wish the reception had been an hour or so longer.

vbjoanna

Anbass, I love your dress too! In fact, I'll be wearing the same one in a few weeks! I'll have to keep in mind not to have only faceless photos! 

Love hearing that so many of you wished you'd had a videographer (although sorry at the same time). I realized awhile ago that my brain would be barely present in all the excitement, and so I've made FI in charge of setting up some video camera so that we can watch the ceremony back. I've decided that one of the things I dislike most is that the bride misses out on half the fun - hiding out in a room before the ceremony, walking in last.... Really great thread. thanks for starting, OP!

ElleB87

My only regret is not eating any of the fondue we had instead of cake. Dinner was so fricken good that I filled up to the brim and couldn't even manage to eat 1 chocolate covered strawberry

It would have been nice to slow down time for the day. Even though it was just H and I the day seemed to go by super fast.

QueerFemme

I love this thread...  I am now freaking out because I don't have a videographer !  I have 29 days to come up with a video camera.  I also have a friend who does porn... and has a camera.  Maybe I'll hit her up.

acaponi87

My only regret was not going out and buying a clear deoderant. I wore my normal stuff and after our 1st kiss I hugged H and got deoderant all over his black tux. It came out okay but it was annoying to have to wipe him down before pictures lol.

Girlie1030

My dress.  Not giving my photographer a must have list.  Emailing the DJ our playlist at 5:30 am the day of the wedding (left out our first dance song). 

HappinessByTheKilowatt

I haaaaaaaaaaated my DJ. We got married in FL but lived in NJ, so I hired them sight unseen. He did a wonderful job with the ceremony, but the reception was freaking strange. First he played songs at the wrong times (like, they asked us for a list of the songs we wanted him to play, and then proceeded to play short clips of all of them at really random times, like leading into toasts and stuff, so we never got to dance to any of them). Then he tried to end it an hour before the reception actually finished, so he called last call. Then he argued with me when I tried to tell him (calmly, when I started) that I paid for the next hour and I expected him to stay. When he started arguing I started getting loud, and my H's groomsmen stepped in and took care of it. So he stayed, but then he played all this really, really random Spanish music for the last hour. My family is not Spanish, and no one knew wtf was going on, but everyone still had a crazy good time and were too drunk to care at that point.

Also, I wish my photographer had gotten pictures of me and my grandmother (who I probably won't see again before she passes). She's in absolutely none, because we had to get her inside out of the sun and chaos, and the rest of the family pics were done outside. She said she would do them inside, and we all just got so busy it never happened. Other than that she did a fantastic job though, and that was as much my fault as hers.

I probably would have gone with a different dress. My mom loved the one I wore, and in hindsight, I thought it was just ok on me. But the fact that she loved it so much made it worth it to me, and I don't necessarily call that a regret.

I did not have a videographer, and I do not regret it. The photographic proof is enough documentation of the amazing time everyone had. It was a DW for a lot of people, so everyone had vacation on the mind and it showed. I loved everything else about my wedding other than the fact that it went way too fast!

emeejeeayen

Anyone who had traumatic car situations, that is horrible. Hadn't even occurred to me as a possibility. Wowzers. Drunk people shouldn't do pranks. Bad ish happens. 

For people who didn't like their DJ/photographer/whatever, do you think there was something you could have done to prevent or rectify the situation or is hindsight 20/20? 

lily_721

I wish I had picked different shoes.  I wanted high heel fun shoes.  I picked out ivory lower heel shoes because they were "supposed" to be amazing.  They were awful.  My feet have never hurt so much in my life.

My DH wanted my hair long and curly for the wedding.  My friend did my hair and she was so worried about upsetting him that she didn't just say "its not going to work."  My hair went flat as I predicted and was in my way.  I wore my hair up for my friend's wedding and DH admitted it was probably a better option.

My dress was beautiful but I didn't shop for a dress.  It was my SIL's dress.  I think if I had different shoes I would have felt happier about it.

And we spent a fortune.  I should have been more aware of DH's crazy wedding spending.  I also should have been more honest with myself about how much I was willing to spend.

We had an amazing day and it was truly spectacular. Our wedding coordinator was a saint and I will always be grateful to her.

Alana80

I am so glad you asked!  I would have enjoyed the planning a whole lot more, and not let it stress me out as much as it did.  And I would have drank less that night.  Take care!