Sister is cougar. Halp.

Katleading

So, my much-older stepsister is a total man-hunting cougar, especially when she drinks (which she does, plentifully). How much of a cougar could she be, you ask? She actually OWNS this necklace:

http://www.jewelry.com/piece.do?id=725452

Um, yes. Hopefully she will not wear it to the wedding.(headdesk) Now here's the concern- as I said, whenever she drinks, she gets waaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy over-the-top flirty with any younger man available- like, grinding in front of Grandma flirty. We're having an open bar at the wedding- we're Irish, so that's not negotiable, heh- so my current plan is just to a) beg my other siblings to keep a discreet eye on her and b)warn all my fiance's groomsmen. I suppose I could talk to her about it, but I don't want to embarass her- she's really great, just sort of....uh, predatory. Any other fabulous ideas? I'm open to your thoughts....

mwhitson14

I wouldn't worry about it. If she acts that way, it's her own embarassment, not yours. You could also tell the bartender not to serve her too many drinks, that way she can't get too trashed. Also, I'm assuming either your father married her mom or vice versa, so whichever is her parent, I'd let them know to keep an eye out for when she starts drinking, unless you think it would super offend them.

TTnoles

I would say let her be cougar-iffic.  It will make for excellent stories down the road and think of all the fun you could have if you have a videographer capturing all that glory!

baystateapple

Your guests' negative behavior does not reflect poorly on you -- even if they are family members.  And chances are you won't even notice her, because you'll be too busy having fun.

ZRex

Ditto TTnoles...think of the hilarity!  

beatlesgirl25

That necklace is hilarious. I agree it's a good idea to have close family members keep an eye on her just so she doesn't take her shirt off on the dance floor or something, but other than that you can't really control much. And if you really don't want to embarrass her like you say, then I wouldn't recommend "warning" your GMs about her in advance. They should be able to handle her if they need to at the reception, but spreading the word about her sexy behavior ahead of time is kinda disrespectful to her.

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sister-cougar-halp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:aecdf60f-4238-4c27-94ad-e038550796c2Post:d72fab95-c8a8-45e0-96d2-f25a5213c293">Sister is cougar. Halp.</a>:
[QUOTE]So, my much-older stepsister is a total man-hunting cougar, especially when she drinks (which she does, plentifully). How much of a cougar could she be, you ask? She actually OWNS this necklace: <a href="http://www.jewelry.com/piece.do?id=725452" rel="nofollow">http://www.jewelry.com/piece.do?id=725452</a> Um, yes. Hopefully she will not wear it to the wedding.(headdesk) Now here's the concern- as I said, whenever she drinks, she gets waaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy over-the-top flirty with any younger man available- like, grinding in front of Grandma flirty. We're having an open bar at the wedding- we're Irish, so that's not negotiable, heh- so my current plan is just to a) beg my other siblings to keep a discreet eye on her and b)warn all my fiance's groomsmen. I suppose I could talk to her about it, but I don't want to embarass her- she's really great, just sort of....uh, predatory. Any other fabulous ideas? I'm open to your thoughts....
Posted by Katleading[/QUOTE]

Do you really think she'd be less embarrassed if she found out you asked other adults to keep an eye on her than she would be if you had a little chat with her?  I'd think that would be more embarrassing.

Aside from that part, though, I don't think you should worry about her.  If she causes a scene or acts out, it reflects poorly on her not you.

MairePoppy

Either talk to her, yourself, ahead of time or forget about it. Don't warn the men.  Don't ask other guests to babysit her. She is an adult and is responsible for her own actions. 
TT has a good point. Hire a good videographer.

[Deleted User]

Just let her do her thing. It's a wedding. There will be drunken cougs everywhere.

salt78

As long as it's not statutory rape, I don't see how this is any of your concern.

Lenore2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sister-cougar-halp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:aecdf60f-4238-4c27-94ad-e038550796c2Post:a727bca6-6b5a-4dae-927a-1e68dcfad958">Re: Sister is cougar. Halp.</a>:
[QUOTE]Why would you warn the all of the groomsmen? That seems really strange, I mean they are big boys. I don't see the big deal. I'm sure other single guests will get drunk & flirt. So she is a big flirt, who cares. If you mean predatory in the molest/ will not take NO for an answer then talk to her. But talk to her about this out of general concern for her and not in the I'm worried about my wedding way. Because that is harassment & will get her in trouble. Edit: Er. Nevermind then.
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ok, this topic tempted me back to this board! I think this is actually all very funny. While I am myself am sort of the anti-Cougar (I am 44 and my FI is 59) I somehow think that "warning"  guys that some woman might try to have sex with them (even if she is "old"!) is like warning kids it might rain chocolate...</div><div>

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beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sister-cougar-halp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:aecdf60f-4238-4c27-94ad-e038550796c2Post:784160d3-2173-4329-acb0-513cec8678b2">Re: Sister is cougar. Halp.</a>:
[QUOTE]The OP is a vendor and is trying to get hits on her site.  She has posted this link all over the brides.com forums and they caught on.  She did the same thing with dolphin earrings.  Pretty clever disguise though.  At first I was fooled too.
Posted by wdubin122[/QUOTE]

Gah, I thought the OP's sn was familiar but I was too lazy to research it. I didn't realize it was dolphin earring girl, <em>and </em>a vendor. Lame. And nice catch wdubin.

anne.azano

That is tricky... I just looked back through her posts, and nearly every single one mentions that website at some point.  

Cass987

HAHA _ vendor or not, i'll comment - I'd do TT's suggestion. PS: I'd love to buy my FMIL that necklace - it's so perfect for her. Like Lenore, I'm anti-cougar (27-41) but my FMIL dates guys younger than her own sons (she's nearly 60, dates guys who are early-mid 30s - although "date" might be a stretch).

tommyandy

Slip the bartender a 20 to fix her virgin drinks after the first 4 cocktails.

beth5507

My cousin is the exact same way.  She flirted with our other cousin at his wedding a few years ago.  Yes, I will repeat that because it bears repeating......she flirted with her own cousin at his wedding.

We're just making sure to invite my fiance's man whore friend and we're leaving the coat closet open for them.  We figure they will entertain each other.

RochelleAnn2302

And her bio has a same-sex marriage shortcut which would make me think you wouldn't be so worried about your guy's groomsmen being hit on....

MeaghanandMichael

All I am saying if is some one *cough Cew* wanted to buy me a cougar necklace for next years SS I would be pysched!!

ej.rebholz

I agree with a couple of the other ladies, while it's noble that you want to make sure she doesn't embarrass herself, she's an adult and if she does it will make for *hopefully* entertaining stories. Plus do you really want to saddle any of your other siblings with what essentially comes down to babysitting her?

Warn the groomsmen, have the videographer on high alert, and be ready to laugh.

Also, thank you soo much for the link to her necklace, it wasn't what I was expecting to see and made me LOL.