Oaky, so a little background first... My family and I have never really gotten along. My father was never really around much and my mother was always too busy trying to make sure everyone around her was not only christian, but Baptist. When I was 16 my parents kicked me out of their house because they didn't like the fact that I am atheist and I was questioning a lot of things going on in life. They also weren't too pleased that after 10 years of on and off physical abuse by my father and verbal from my mother that I told them that I had had enough and would report it if it happened again. I moved in with my then boyfriend (now we're happily engaged) a couple months later and we eventually moved from AR to Dallas. I haven't heard much from them and I have received no support whatsoever even though there have been some really big problems that have happened (car accident, loss of job). The rest of my family has been no help and they think I'm in the wrong for the way I've acted. I guess its wrong to not want anything to do with parents that hurt you, kick you out, and make no effort to build a real relationship... I do have two brothers that I would love to invite, but I'm unsure of how to invite them without giving them the opportunity to bring my parents along.
Now that we have begun to plan for the wedding, everyone that has been involved has been trying to tell me I need to suck it up and invite them. People have tried saying that maybe we'll reconcile later and I'll be upset that they weren't there, but I can see no way for us to ever reconcile since my parents refuse to accept that they ever did anything wrong. They refuse to help in any way for anything, but apparently I'm still expected to invite them. I know that if they were invited they would probably come and it would just be way too stressful for me to handle (and the fact that they would try to act like they were great parents and I am a horrible daughter for cutting them out of my life).
Am I really a horrible person for not wanting my parents and my family to come after everything they've put me through? I don't think so but when people ask about my parents they act like I'm the most awful person in the world for not wanting them at my wedding, a day of celebration of love.