Snarky Brides

What should I say?

There's this girl I know who dated my best friend on and off again in HS. We're not really the closest of friends, but we do talk occasionally. She's been in a relationship for a while now and it's not very healthy/mature. For example, whenever they have a fight she'll change her FB relationship status to "single" and then change it back to "in a relationship" an hour later, once they make up.

Anyway, about 3 months ago I found out she was engaged. Well, sorta. She said she was excited about next year and when I asked why, she simply stated, "I'm getting married." There was no official "announcement" and it appears that many of her closest friends were unaware of this engagement for a long time. Every so often she would talk about how she was planning her wedding and someone would say, "Wait, you're getting married?!"  The whole thing seemed a little weird and my FI wondered if her BF even knew about it - I thought that was a harsh accusation, but now I'm wondering myself.

So I found out on FB today that the engagement is off. She says that he wasn't ready for it. They're still together, just not planning on getting married, I guess.

Should I say something, or would it be best to be quiet? Should I say, "I'm sorry" or would that just sound strange? Like I said, we're not the closest, but we still are friends. This whole thing has just been really strange. =/
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Re: What should I say?

  • Ehhh, I wouldn't bother with it, who knows they my be "engaged" again by the end of the day.
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  • i personally wouldn't say anything unless she brought it up
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  • Are you and he still best friends? If so, has he told you anything about things other than what you see from her on FB?

    Based on what you've said, it seems as though she (and maybe he) has been overdramatic and immature when it comes to their relationship. If there really was an engagement and they've decided to call it off/postpone it for now, then that sounds like the best thing. So, if you're not super close to him (or her) anymore, I'd say stay out of it for now.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_should-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:b9df8018-8495-48a0-8d57-0b8c08e05251Post:7d97b674-d65a-4a05-9bfa-2e14db837261">Re: What should I say?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Are you and he still best friends? If so, has he told you anything about things other than what you see from her on FB? Based on what you've said, it seems as though she (and maybe he) has been overdramatic and immature when it comes to their relationship. If there really was an engagement and they've decided to call it off/postpone it for now, then that sounds like the best thing. So, if you're not super close to him (or her) anymore, I'd say stay out of it for now.
    Posted by neelynicole[/QUOTE]

    <div>I'm sorry, I guess I should clarify: she is not in a relationship with my best friend. This is a different guy that I don't know. My best friend is still friends with her, however, and says he's heard things about her relationship that doesn't sound very "healthy."</div><div>
    </div><div>It sounds like the consensus is not to say anything. It's just strange because she's told me about how she's excited to get married and "start out her life with her new family" and such....I just wasn't sure if I should say anything. I guess I'll just leave it be unless she brings it up.</div><div>
    Thanks, guys.</div><div>
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