Today was the end...

emarston1

of my posting on my club board.  A girl (one of the mods no less!) wrote a post with an e-mail that she sent her BM kicking her out of the BP.  Then asked for opinions.  I never really should have responded because I knew no one would like my non-validating, "you really shouldn't have done that" post but I couldn't resist.

All the other posters told her to do whatever she wanted because it was her day.  ::sigh::  OH well, I guess it's true that it's all puppies and rainbows over there.

On a quasi-related note, I discovered a new website that is entertaining.  Essentially it's submissions from people of things they've been doing/saying wrong for years and they just realized it.  My favorite one was about a girl who didn't know how to tie a twist tie.

http://ask.metafilter.com/158740/You-were-doing-it-wrong

saxy414

Today was the first time I've seen a post like that on my club board--about having a secret wedding now, then going through with the big planned wedding.  I think I was nice, but hopefully got the "please, please, PLEASE don't do that" point across.  I really like my club board and the girls there, but it is definitely very different than the national boards.

Thankfully, there's a girl who also posts over on Etiquette on my club board, and Jamie from SB posts over there, too.  It's mostly puppies and rainbows, but there are plenty of girls with common sense to go with it.  :-)

I'm looking at that website now--I like this one:
Also: Assuming that adults are, well, adults and put civility and maturity ahead of egos, agendas and personal issues. I was, apparently, an idealist of mammoth proportion with that one.

Ha!

gottahavashorti

I can only recall one post like that on my local.  It was someone who wanted to have a traditional wedding after a JOP wedding and everyone told her not to lie to her guests or call it her 'real' wedding.  Although she just got upset but wouldn't say whether she planned to do either of those things.

I lurked on my club board a couple times.  It scared me.

SarahPLiz

Our brand new baby mod is just trying too hard. She's so cheesy and sugar sweet that I just can't take it anymore.. and its only been a week. Oh well, at least I can post here.

Y'all saw my post earlier this week about the common law thing.. I got chastised by the OP for that. What the eff ever. No one on our local said anything to me, but someone else HAD done the same thing, so they just validated.

So you are not alone.

kimmieniesink

emartson, I read this early today too on there (hey - I just noticed we're getting married the same day!) and I was too shocked to even reply - that's totally ridiculous!

vegasgroom

What's a club board?  The wedding city or month boards?

deepcovejackie

Oh, VG, don't go there.  It's scary...  The only reason I check my month board is that I love the moderateour (Steph 0871 you know who you are!) and SarahPLiz and Blue are there.  Otherwise, duck and cover is my advice.

rknox88

I read the post about the bride asking her BM to step down as well.

I backed out of the thread slowly and silently to avoid more drama.

emarston1

It was just a little ridiculous.  I mean fine, if you're going to kick her out, you're going to do it.  But don't post the e-mail you sent her looking for validation about how eloquent you were about "asking her to step down" (Gotta love those euphamisms!)

I guess I was also surprised because it was a mod.  I would have assumed that a mod would know better.  I'm glad to know there are some other May 2011-ers who read it and gave it the side-eye just like I did.

AdeleDazeem

Hi emartson!  Can I call you e? 

I saw that post and wanted to gouge my eyes out.  My favorite part was her saying that she needed unconditional support during this time.  What?

I tried to give a diplomatic response, but I said I agreed with you.

For what it's worth, I think kicking out a bridesmaid is wrong, but I do understand the frustration of girls who are sad that these people, who they think are really close to them, aren't excited.  I feel like a lack of excitement or lashing out of people involved in the wedding is really rooted in something very different than dismissal of the wedding.  Maybe they think trying on wedding dresses six months early is ridiculous, maybe they are going through a hard money time, or maybe they just aren't that into weddings.  I think communication over the situation is oh so lacking - talk to your FRIEND and forget that she's a bridesmaid.  There's a logical solution there somewhere.