"Don't worry honey. We PROMISE it will be here. Don't worry."

NatesGirl16

AATB, you know I love you to death, but you need to handle this shiit right now.  I know you're nice and they're nice and no one wants to put on their bitchface (well, except me), but you need to muster your inner Shirly Maclane a la Terms of Endearment and freak the fvck out on them if they don't offer a concrete date in writing immediately.

allisong23

Go to the store, but don't go alone. Bring someone who won't let them pat you on the hwead, call you sweetie, and send you home. Don't leave without a firm answer.

I wish I was closer. I have an inner bitch tat is always *this* close from coming to the surface. It is useful in situations like this.

LessThanZero

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dont-worry-honey-promise-will-here-dont-worry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c07015f2-15ae-4e78-9426-3a81b9167b2cPost:49f33c34-425b-450c-b8e1-d5c753a7a15d">Re: "Don't worry honey. We PROMISE it will be here. Don't worry."</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Bec and Co are right.  You'll feel better once some action has been taken. </strong> Drinking wine and continuing to worry is just going to make you continue to worry.  I'm like this too, when I get stressed I want to shut down and just not deal with the problem.  It always feels 100 times better once I've stood up for myself and made something happen.  Don't ask where your dress is, ask for the tracking number, ask what their plan is for when it arrives, ask what your discount will be (not if they will give you one, what it will be), ask when they're available for altarations on their sample so it will fit you.  You know what the back-up plan can be, now go make it happen. 
Posted by pirategal03[/QUOTE]


I have to agree with this. And even more so than showing up and asking for stuff in writing, I'd pull a Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman and make sure that people in the store could hear me talk about the probalmes I've had. This is much easier said than done, AATB, haha.

But seriously, you paid good money for this dress, and it's for one of the most important days of your life. I love that you're going home to drink wine, because I LOVE wine, but I'd definitely get my arse down there tomorrow, if not today and make sure that I got something that meant a damn. The "don't worry" and "we promise" is unacceptable when it comes to something like this. You're not asking them to blow rainbows out of their ass, you're asking for them to do their job.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Thanks B.

And yeah trust me... I'll be keeping you all posted.

betrothed123

Now go enjoy that wine

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I am popping the cork in three... two... one

And will probably be drunk knotting later.

betrothed123

I'm jealous   I won't drink alone and H is working tonight.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I NEVER drink alone.  But I do find exceptions to that rule once in a while...

In fact I'm surprised I even have this bottle of wine, I never go to the liquor store.  This one is a gift.

betrothed123

I hope it's delicious.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

It is.  It is lovely

polichik

GOOD. I'm glad your mom is calling! I know it can be really, really hard to be assertive, and it sucks because none of this is your fault, but it's really on you (or someone you know) to take action. Please, please make sure that your mom does call and that you guys get some answers. If you find that you can't say anything over the phone, go down there in person so that you'll force yourself to say something. Good luck!

thesuninherhead

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dont-worry-honey-promise-will-here-dont-worry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:c07015f2-15ae-4e78-9426-3a81b9167b2cPost:d3905631-72b5-40d7-b795-25c962387102">Re: "Don't worry honey. We PROMISE it will be here. Don't worry."</a>:
[QUOTE]My mom has photos of me in the sample but they're on her camera, and I don't have them.  I don't want to post photos of it though.  I don't want to see myself in this dress because it makes me feel sick. I hate that she called me "honey," and that she didn't just promise.  She PROMISED.  I am trying really, really hard not to be dramatic about this but this is just not acceptible. And no, I don't have a plan B, mostly because my mother doesn't think I need one.  But I am not calling that fucking place again.  I'm making her do it.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
<p> </p><p>I was in a similar situation except I was 10 days out when I realised that I wouldn't be getting my dress and I didn't have a back up.... and it worked out totally perfectly- I went last minute crazy shopping and found something 100% perfect. Fear not. You can and will find something in time if need be.</p><p>Personally, if I were you, I would be demanding a refund at this point rather than waiting another two weeks or so to come to the realisation that it is not going to arrive... that is my one regret, not demanding a refund on my deposit when I first realised there was something fishy going on. In any case, head to the shops this weekend and see if you can find anything you like to keep in mind as a backup plan- but do not panic. It will all work out either way.</p>