Dadzilla....the saga continues.

Pookieson

I had a few invites left on the inlaws side to invite so FMIL offered to. I gave her the information on how to do them and she helped me do the others, so I thought she understood. However, she made some mistakes in regards to how to address things so I had to fix them. That's the backstory.

So I just opened up the first envelope and there is a registry card to bed bath and beyond in there!
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Luckily she only addressed about 12 invites even though it should have been a total of about 24. So I can fix this. I know the registry information didn't go in the others because I PERSONALLY stuffed them.

I just text and said, "I fixed all of the invites. Thanks for all of your help! "

She text back, "I'm sorry you had to redo some of them, also, I forgot to mention I shoved registry cards in those ones because FFIL thinks it is rude make guests call and ask where you are registered."

I text, "Well, you really aren't supposed to include that in a wedding invitation, so I'd prefer to take it out. It isn't that hard to make a phone call. No worries, they can figure it out."

Then FFIL CALLS ME!, "you really need to open all those invites and then just retape them (waaaahhhhh) and include your registry information. Otherwise people won't know where you are registered and will just buy whatever."

I reply, "No I don't think they will, but if they do, I'll figure it out."

He gets louder, "Oh, so they can just buy you whatever and do whatever they want because you refuse to put a registry card in there, that is just stupid. Just plain stupid."

I snap, "I don't want them in there, end of story, it is poor etiquette and it isn't something I am willing to compromise on."

When we ended the call it was obvious he was perterbed.  So I'm sure he will be heading FI way today during lunch (they work close and have lunch together often).  What the heck, even my family knows that is a no-no and they recommeded a dollar dance!  Sheesh.

*Sigh* Dadzilla is back. Part Deux. With a vengeance.
Vent over.

s-aries8990

*facepalm* sorry Shannon! It sounds like FFILzilla's tryin'a take over Tokyo!

Pookieson

So bad.  We get along SOOOOO well too UNTIL the wedding pops up, then he has all of these etiquette faux pas ideas and gets pissed when we are like, "ehhhhh, that's probably not going to happen."  LOL.  Oh man....my liver may not survive wedding planning.  Is 10 oclock PST too early to add bailey's in your coffee???

s-aries8990

Is it in coffee? Then nope! Not too early! AM: Mimosas, bloody marys and coffe-booze. PM: Anything goes. Good luck!

Is FI the first to get married on his side?

Pookieson

yes he is!!! How could you tell???

Pookieson

oh but that being said, we got an invitation to a family friend on FI said and she included her registry information in the invitation and FMIL and FI paternal grandmother were both having a field day over some wine talking about how "tacky" that is.  I don't understand people who critique other peoples etiquette breeches and then think, "well, it's different if I do it..." No, it's really not.

AddieCake

How did she even have access to those registry cards?  Why didn't you just thrown them out when BB&B gave them to you? 

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]oh but that being said, we got an invitation to a family friend on FI said and she included her registry information in the invitation and FMIL and FI paternal grandmother were both having a field day over some wine talking about how "tacky" that is. <strong> I don't understand people who critique other peoples etiquette breeches and then think, "well, it's different if I do it..."</strong> No, it's really not.
Posted by Shannon1401[/QUOTE]

Becasue they are special little snowflakes and their situations are unique.  Duh!  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

Pookieson

They were in the bottom of box of the invites.  I threw them in there when we got home.  All of the crap from BBB was in there.  I just threw them in the closest pile of wedding stuff.  I knew they were still in there but didn't think anything of it.

AddieCake

Ahh, ok. I wouldn't know what to do if my FIL acted like that. I think I saw your previous post about him. He was the one who was mad about tables being by the dance floor or something, right? And yelled at you about it?

MuppetOverlord

I've had a prob with FMIL bullying me like that about our life and things that are none of her business. I don't know why I took it for so long but I finally had a breaking point this Christmas...but I took some really good advice from a friend: Stop letting him put you into a position where you have to be explain yourself.

 I'm 3 months into doing that with FMIL and it's incredibly relieving. I told her that we are adults and this is our life and she needs to focus on her life because we can take care of each other.  I no longer explain myself or defend my actions. I know there's been times she's been visibly unhappy about some things and I'm letting her deal with her own reactions.

Pookieson

Yup! The thing is I know he has good intentions, he wants the wedding to be perfect...he just needs to realize etiquette applies universally and he doesn't get to break the rules. I love my FFIL but he needs some antianxiety meds....stat. I think he's stressed and getting a little irrational. I have a great relationship with all of them so FI and I have just been picking and choosing the hills we want to die on. This happened to be one. FI backed me on the decision and told dad he needs to chill from a 10 to a out a 1.2 on the dadzilla scale. He said he didn't think he was that bad but he'd try and tone it down. FI said he threw in at the end that he still didn't feel he was wrong. : I'm gonna just laugh it off because it keeps me sane.

Angelface225

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[QUOTE]So bad.  We get along SOOOOO well too UNTIL the wedding pops up, then he has all of these etiquette faux pas ideas and gets pissed when we are like, "ehhhhh, that's probably not going to happen."  LOL.  Oh man....my liver may not survive wedding planning.  <strong>Is 10 oclock PST too early to add bailey's in your coffee???</strong>
Posted by Shannon1401[/QUOTE]

I routinely drink before noon, I work with children. Its fine!

Pookieson

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dadzilla....the saga continues. : I routinely drink before noon, I work with children. Its fine!
Posted by Angelface225[/QUOTE]

Congrats!  You win my favorite post of the day!  Cracking me up!

Ella and Pedro

So, now you know.  These people should not be helping with the wedding because....in their case it is 'helping' in air quotes, yes?


Good luck!

Ella