I quit, help?

Nebb

Ok, heres the deal.

Im planning on quitting my job tomorrow morning. I am quitting in the morning, and then the sales person is coming in afterwards and quitting too. We are both going to another company. It makes more sense for me to quit first because my boss will just be too insanely mad/upset/etc after the other guy quits (theyve worked together for like 10 years and he brings in 80% of all sales). I basically intend on telling my boss that I am not comfortable with the direction my job is going and I dont enjoy the changes that have gone on and I have found another job that has more job security for me that I think would be a better fit for me. Fine but...

How do I start it?

Im not 100% if im giving notice, or just quitting. Im leaning towards just quitting. The sales guy isnt giving notice either. We would both be starting at the new place tuesday morning. How do I break into the conversation. Hey I quit? I suck at this kinda thing.

jennylove810

"Boss, (insert 1 or 2 nice things about the job), and it's difficult for me to do this, but I've made the decision to leave.. today."

Or something like that?

God I suck at this stuff, too.  I've only ever given notice.

BecW2be

"I have something very important to tell you. I'm resigning effective immediately. We can discuss a notice, but at this time I'm not sure that can be negotiated. I regret the short notice, but a much better, more stable opportunity has evolved and I'm going to take it. I do hope you understand, and it's been nice working for you. Now go get your Labor Day drunk on and don't worry about Tuesday morning, when you'll be screwed seven ways from Sunday without me! Peace out!"

(You can leave the last two sentences out, if you don't feel they're applicable.)

Nebb

Ive never quit a job without giving notice either, which is why i dont really know what to do.

LesPaul

Are you going to give the boss something in writing in addition to 'the talk'?  Do you think he will want you to transition out, or just leave?  I like Jenny's suggestion.

jelique7

I suck at that too. I gave my job notice I was leaving 9months in advance (I am laughing at myself now because I sound ridiculous) so the impact when I actually leave will be softer on them lol. Ok typing this out makes me feel embarrassed so im zipping my lips now.
I think you will be happier and under less stress when you quit this job and start the new one, you deserve great things so I hope everything works out.

Sloane99

Did you already make the commitment to start at the new job on Tuesday? As in you can't give notice at all?

Then you need to write a resignation letter so that HR has it and present it to your boss and say, effective immediately I'm resigning. Thank you for XX and YY but I have been offered a better opportunity that I couldn't pass up and I've already signed with them.

Short, to the point, pack up your stuff before you resign and that you've already commited to the other firm so there's no room for negotiation. Also I don't know that I'd say that your career isn't going where you want it to be at the current company because it may reflect poorly on you, as in that was your job to speak up earlier. I always say the opportunity is one you can't pass up at this time.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]"I have something very important to tell you. I'm resigning effective immediately. We can discuss a notice, but at this time I'm not sure that can be negotiated. I regret the short notice, but a much better, more stable opportunity has evolved and I'm going to take it. I do hope you understand, and it's been nice working for you. Now go get your Labor Day drunk on and <strong>don't worry about Tuesday morning, when you'll be screwed seven ways from Sunday without me! Peace out!"</strong> (You can leave the last two sentences out, if you don't feel they're applicable.)
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]
Its funny just how true this is.

JennaV26

Write a resignation letter and then simply walk into your bosses office, ask if they have a minute to speak with you and then say something along the lines of everything you've written... that you've been uncomfortable for awhile about changes that have been made and that you been offered a position at a company that can offer you better job security.

Idk why quitting is so nerve-racking (though it really is!), it's not like they can fire you!!

Nebb

I havnt signed but Im meeting with them in about half an hour to discuss the job and all of that. Im at a VERY small company (ie, me, boss, sales guy, warehouse guy) so, I dont really have to worry about hr but I will do up a note. That sounds good.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]Did you already make the commitment to start at the new job on Tuesday? As in you can't give notice at all? Then you need to write a resignation letter so that HR has it and present it to your boss and say, effective immediately I'm resigning. Thank you for XX and YY but I have been offered a better opportunity that I couldn't pass up and I've already signed with them. Short, to the point, pack up your stuff before you resign and that you've already commited to the other firm so there's no room for negotiation. Also I don't know that I'd say that your career isn't going where you want it to be at the current company because it may reflect poorly on you, <strong>as in that was your job to speak up earlier. </strong>I always say the opportunity is one you can't pass up at this time.
Posted by Sloane99[/QUOTE]
The instability and issues have only come up in the past month and a half when we were informed we might not have jobs because of a shareholder battle the boss was getting into. Ive only known I would still have my job for the past two weeks and only for the past week have I been working on new systems and basically hating life because of it. My boss DID say to me at one point that he understands if I look for another job though he wishes I wouldnt.

JennaV26

I once told an old boss of mine in January that I was going to be looking for another job for after I graduated and was basically told "Okay good luck." Then in March I gave my two weeks notice and the day I left my boss wasnt there so I wrote him an email thanking him for everything and that I had enjoyed working there. Yeah. He wrote me back that afternoon basically telling me I wasn't allowed to leave becuase I "left them high and dry." Say what? No dude, I quit. You can't MAKE me stay.

Then he refused to give me my last paycheck so I had to march into his office weeks later and he threw it at me. Which was humorous becuase a paper check in an envelope doesn't go very far. I cried after I got into my car!

Sorry I shouldn't have told you that =/

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Nebb, I've seen some pretty good suggestions here as to how to go about quitting your job - so I won't offer any more.

But I do want to wish you good luck!  You've got a lot more courage than I do, and impressively larger balls too, I might add.

I trust that you'll let us know how this goes...

I'm excited for you to start your new job too!

Sloane99

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I quit, help? : The instability and issues have only come up in the past month and a half when we were informed we might not have jobs because of a shareholder battle the boss was getting into. Ive only known I would still have my job for the past two weeks and only for the past week have I been working on new systems and basically hating life because of it. My boss DID say to me at one point that he understands if I look for another job though he wishes I wouldnt.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I gotcha, I didn't realize the circumstances or how small your company is, then for sure throw it in there. My guess is from your update posts, he's not going to be too surprised. Good luck. Quitting sucks, it's like a break-up....it's not you, it's me....

JennaV26

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I quit, help? : I gotcha, I didn't realize the circumstances or how small your company is, then for sure throw it in there. My guess is from your update posts, he's not going to be too surprised. Good luck. Quitting sucks, it's like a break-up....<strong>it's not you, it's me....</strong>
Posted by Sloane99[/QUOTE]

But no really, it is you, which is why I'm leaving you for someone else.

Nebb

Oh im sure I dont benji. I hate confrontation in person because I get flustered and am easily intimidated by my superiors. Thats why Im "preparing" tonight. Thank you though

Jenna, I probably would too. I hate situations like that.

[Deleted User]

I don't have much to add other than good luck with the new job and I hope it works out! I agree that you should write up a letter in addition to talking to him, it makes it more professional and looks better on your end. If you're definitely starting on Tuesday, then there's no point in giving notice. But if you can swing it then I'd suggest the usual 2 weeks or even 1 just so he has time to hire someone else, since 2 of you are leaving on the same day.

Nebb

I honestly doubt he would hire someone else. Part of why im going too is because I have serious doubts he could or would continue trying to run the business without the sales guy.

zippityb

I was so DONE with one job that I wrote my boss a note and left it on his desk telling him that today was the last day I would be working there. He called me in and begged me to stay at least another week because it was month-end closing. I obliged, but I goofed off that entire week and people took me out to lunch every day.

But yeah, I leave notes instead of talking to people because I'm avoidant like that.

kpwedkk

I think a verbal face to face and written letter is good -

For the verbal part, I like what previous posters have said.

For the letter, be crisp, and to the point:

Dear Mr./Ms. Last Name:

Please accept this letter as formal notification that I am leaving my position with XYZ company on September 2nd 2010.

Thank you for the opportunities you have provided me during my time with the company. If I can be of any assistance during this transition, please let me know.

Sincerely,

Your Signature

Your Typed Name

--- ETA - as for the bold part though, it's not like you can comply, you have a choice.

Nebb

That sounds really good kp, thanks!!

kpwedkk

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[QUOTE]That sounds really good kp, thanks!!
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

You are most welcome Nebb :) I had to write something like this a few years ago, when I was in your current situation.  

I don't know if you have to have en exit interview with HR so that all legalities are taken care of.... however.

laladypoet

I have no advice because the idea of doing that terrifies me, but good luck! I'm sure you'll handle it well

aprovencher21

I don't have any advice that wasn't already said.  I think you'll do wonderfully at the new job.  Its just important for you to be happy with your job and career.

flyjawn

i realize that things work differently in the US but i would definitely give your 2 weeks notice (it's unprofessional to quit without notice so i'd try to avoid it at all costs).  

if you give 2 weeks notice and they decide they don't want you to come in after tomorrow, they still have to pay you for two weeks because they can't fire you without cause.  (at least here in canada)

Nebb

seriously? I NEVER knew that. Im in Canada too.

pirategal03

Nobb, I don't have anything else to add (I've actually never quit a job, all of my previous jobs have just...ended) but I wanted to say good luck!  I hope the new position brings you much more satisfaction and much less stress!

npasquale16

Throw coffee in his face while yelling "I'm out, bitch!"?

jennylove810

Pop 2 beers and hit the emergency slide?

Nebb

Thanks guys

I just met with the guys (owner, other guy and the person I worked with before who recommended me for the position) and Im seriously pumped. I think its going to be really great and I will have a lot of room to grow finally. I wish the hurdle of quitting was already behind me.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]Thanks guys :) I just met with the guys (owner, other guy and the person I worked with before who recommended me for the position) and Im seriously pumped. I think its going to be really great and I will have a lot of room to grow finally. I wish the hurdle of quitting was already behind me.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I'm glad you are so excited!!  You'll get the quitting over with and you can move on.....