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MissDeAnne01

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Well, first of all, she's a racist biiitch for the first comment. I wouldn't like her based on that alone. But I think you're both being immature.  

Hair Appointment - I see why that would bother you, but moving her appointment yourself? That's just asking for more trouble.

The dress - I need to see it. Are we talking a full white dress that could easily be msitaken as a wedding dress, or a sundress of sorts? Either way, it would piss me off but ultimately it looks bad on her. As for the backs, I don't know what a keyhole back is, but who cares if you have the same back style?

The shower - not a big deal. Sounds like you both insulted one another and are equally at fault.

Pics - not a big deal. Your pictures will still be special.

Wiscisbliss

It sounds like she is a real piece of work... but you might be too.  

Moving the hair appointment or arguing about her family throwing you a shower were just begging for more drama.  

MissDeAnne01

It wasn't her family it was her "elite" group of friends without having my family there. She still has s hair appt just a little earlier

[Deleted User]

Lots of people have more than 1 shower due to ho0sting issues. It's not a big deal.

Have you told her you moved her appointment? How did that conversation go?

MissDeAnne01

Yeah no big deal but when she didn't want my mom or grandma there it became a big deal to me. Yes she just said okay

brandichamberlain

I dont think he scheduling hair in the afternoon was to be mean or anything. A lot of brides that I know prefer to get it done in the morning. Our appointments start at 9 am.

MissDeAnne01

She booked so many appointments that hers took up the morning and some of the afternoon. There was no way the four of us (my wedding party) could have time.  That may have not been mean but not offering to change it was rude or at least compromise was rude.

MissDeAnne01

Okay thanks for the advice ladies.  I'll continue to just ignore her then!

pirategal03

Oy.  I'm going to take this in parts.

1) How the heck does her being a racist = her being a hypocrite?

2) Moving her hair appointment was a bitich move.  How the eff was she supposed to know that was your stylist?  Do you go around broadcasting that information?  It wasn't like you couldn't get in with that stylist at all. And moving her to an earlier appointment when they have to travel and you don't is stupid.

3) The white dress thing, she probably only asked because it's pushing the boundaries a little.  That was nice of her.  It's nice that she was willing to change the plan.

4) re: Keyhole back - weird that they'd want to match, but not a big deal.

5) re: Bridal Shower - OMG How DARE someone want to host an event in your honor even though it's outside your narrow view of tradition!  This one's totally on you babe.  Turning down the shower means you said "I don't want your hospitality or your gifts", then saying they could host it with someone else/come to another shower was saying "I want presents!".  You can't have it both ways. 

6) Pics - no.big.deal.  Put this one out of your mind.

LetsHikeToday

Stop telling her stuff about the wedding, like who your photographer is or that you have a keyhole in the back of the dress.

If you don't want her "elite" friends to throw you a shower, decline it.

MissDeAnne01

Okay so it must be me, I get it. THanks! As far as me calling her a hyprocite I said that bc shes all into church and loving one another but shes racist. Thats how I got that.  Yes she knew he my hair stylist is because its a small town and she knows these things because she thought about going there.  It wasn't about my declining for her friends to host it I would be more than happy for them to. It was about her saying my friends and family could have their own. I wouldnt want a shower without my mother and grandmother there.

But I get it. Its all me. So I will put it out of my head. Thanks for the advice. I'll try not to be such a Bit**

pirategal03

You DD'd.  There's no error.

[Deleted User]

But you can have a shower with your family. You can have 2 showers, one for your MIL because obviously she wants to host one, and one with your friends and family. It's not an all or nothing thing.

pirategal03

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[QUOTE]So I am getting married soon and my future mother in law and I have never really gotten along. It first started when she had the bright idea of telling me she didn't like the fact I was dating her son bc I'm half black and that she had to pray to get over that and ask God for forgiveness. I basically told her she was a hypocrite and didn't talk to her for two years. She is high up in the church lol gosh that's why I don't go! My fianc did stand up for me as well. We decided to try to work things out and she apologized. Her son and I got engaged last Aug and we are getting married this fall. She has been doing things that make me wonder if she's being a bit or if she's just an idiot or if im overreacting. I dont want to seem like bridezilla!  Here are my examples: 

 

She booked her hair appt for her daughter, her and her sister for the day of the wedding with my hair dresser. She booked her hair appt months before I even thought to. I called to book my hair spot and three for my bridesmaids and my hairdresser said she couldn't get me in but early in the morning bc my mother in law had booked the 1 2 and 3 o'clock slots. I called my mother in law and asked if they could do morning bc my wedding is at 630 and being the bride and the bridal party we didn't want to have our hair done at 9 am. She told mr no because they are driving two hours away to get their makeup done and just didn't see how it would be possible then she goes on to tell me she didn't know I would be using that hair dresser. Ummm, I've been using this lady for two years! Who else would I use?! Oh by the way we live in a very small town with only two hair salons. So I let that one go and just moved her appointment myself!!

 The next thing is my soon to be sister in law sent me a picture of her dress she was thinking of wearing to the wedding. The first thing my fianc said was its white. It was a white wedding dress in my opinion. I told her I wasn't comfortable with her wearing that. She threw a fit

 

My dress has a beautiful keyhole back. My soon to be mil and sil are now getting their dresses made by the man who is making my bridesmaid dresses and she decided she wants a keyhole back the mil wtf!? I have let that one go but just for now.

 

Her friends offered to throw my bridal shower she said that was tradition. I said no its the bridesmaids and maid of honor but I suggested they all do it together and she said her friends are high class and wouldn't want someone else telling em how to do showers so i said okay they can just not even come for all I care then she suggested  I have two showers one for her family and friends and one for mine?! Ugh no!

So yesterday she calls me to tell me she and her husband are getting pics done by the photographer we used for our engagement pics and they decided to get the pics done at the wedding venue I'm using?! She said she wants elegant pics. There are thousands of places to get pictures done and she chooses the place where I'm getting married and having my bridals done. The place I'm getting married is actually a wedding venue and it's beautiful and outside but there are only so many backdrops to use. I just don't get it so I asked her not to do the, there bc I wanted our pics to be special.  

 

This is is do long I'm sorry but am I crazy or is this lady just doing things to piss me off??? What should I do!?

 

Thanks in advance!
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When you post something on the internet, it never really goes away. 

MissDeAnne01

Ok your right about the showers. I guess maybe I have a grudge bc of our past

KateJ10

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mehgank

Sesh - I know I'm late, but my wedding dress (and SereJane's) had a keyhole back. In case you were still wondering.