A Knottie Date Night

npasquale16

Instead of dinner and a movie, let's have dinner and entertainment.

What's for dinner?

How do you feel about open marriages?

1.  Taco night!

2.  I think grown people should make their own decisions.  As long as everyone's on board, I really can't judge.  But the idea of it makes me feel icky.  I just can't reconcile my own vaues with the idea of an open marriage. 

nda_roxybabe

Dinner= Something that sounds good once I get home...meh. Maybe baked potato?

Open marriage = no in my book. If you want open, don't get married? Thats just me though.

tidetravel

1)  still deciding

2)  As long as both people are on the up-and-up and both parties agree to it, I don't judge them for it.  Having been in a quasi-3way relationship at one point, I can say that I am skeptical that those type of relationships can actually work, and I'm not sure that they are healthy.

RachNRich

Dinner---Wings at some wing place with Rich. Oh, and there will be beer too. I'm happy.

Open Marriage---Not okay, in my books. It may work for some couples, but--I'm with Roxy on this; there's no point in getting married if you want to continue to boink everything that walks past. 

ricksang

1. Coffee I am pulling an all night study session.

2. It's okay in  theory, but it never ends up going well. Someone gets hurt. I would never do it. Ricky is MINE MINE MINE.

MeaghanandMichael

What's for dinner? at this point in the day from hell? Beer.

How do you feel about open marriages? Not for me at all. I said vows for a reason and I intend to expect us to keep them. I think it is important to write vows that would include this possibility if it is something people are interested in pursuing. I don't know how I would handle getting married for monogamy and THEN deciding to be in an open relationship. I actually have a good friend in an open dating relationship they have made work for over 5 years and when we are out together you would never know. I don't judge, but I can not begin to understand.

[Deleted User]

1) Leftover chicken ranch pizza.

2) I don't agree with them, but I'll admit it's entirely personal. I guess I don't understand the point of being married if you're going to sleep with other people, and if it's for tax or insurance benefits or whatever, then I think it cheapens the meaning of marriage (I guess I'm still stuck in my old-fashioned ways, where you marry 'The One' and don't give yourself to any other). Overall I see it as an excuse to sleep around without it being considered cheating or whorish. Bu if it works for other people, then so be it. To each their own.

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]1. Coffee I am pulling an all night study session. 2. It's okay in  theory, but it never ends up going well. Someone gets hurt. I would never do it. Ricky is MINE MINE MINE. :p
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

But, but, you are MINE! This is NOT what I signed up for Ricks ;)

SarahPLiz

1- purple margaritas and chips/salsa

2- not my style, but I won't knock anyone else as long as all parties are consenting. 

[Deleted User]

1. I haven't decided yet.

2. Not a fan. Maybe it's just me, but I just can't imagine how no one ever gets hurt.

ricksang

Hey, I said Ricky was mine but I am yours :P

ricksang

We have a couple of friends who take women home. I am going to be real honest. I think it is gross because they have three teen boys at home and the women are usually bar flys. We don't hang out with them.

npasquale16

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[QUOTE]<strong>1. Coffee I am pulling an all night study session. </strong>2. It's okay in  theory, but it never ends up going well. Someone gets hurt. I would never do it. Ricky is MINE MINE MINE. :p
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

Bleh!  Me, too.  Cable finally came and fixed my internet (for who knows how long) so I've got to try to get everything done tonight.

ricksang

Uggh I have been studying since 8 am. I have an accounting and biochem final tomorrow.Fucking ugh!

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]We have a couple of friends who take women home. I am going to be real honest. I think it is gross because they have three teen boys at home and the women are usually bar flys. We don't hang out with them.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]
So what you're saying is that you won't come home with me...  onto plan B.

Celles

1. I'm not allowed to have carbs after noon, so...  *cringes*  Chicken breast with steamed vegetables.  And a tiny bit of peanut butter for dessert. 

2. I'm fine with whatever happens between two (or more) consenting adults.  I wouldn't want an open marriage for myself (I was the unmarried third of an open marriage for a short time several years ago), but if it works for you -- great.

ricksang

Ummm I am not a barfly nor do you have 3 boys, Tide so pick me up at 8! I am the knot hoar.

deepcovejackie

1.  I'm making various types of pasta for dinner.  Two kids and FI each like a different type of sauce.  So it's pesto (for FI), bolognese (for son) and plain red sauce (for vegetarian daughter).

2.  Open marriage is not for me, and I can't imagine being able to make that work.  I don't judge though, and what grown consenting people do is their business.

missy68

1. I had a leftover ear of corn with lots of butter and a little salt. It was just as good tonight as it was last night. I'm not really wanting anything else, so maybe some cereal later. Nice and healthy, you know.

2. It isn't for me - I would be too insecure/have self-confidence issues. I know it isn't for J.   When I was single and before I ever met J (and I was experiencing dating, basically for the first time), I was the "girlfriend" in an open marriage. I never met the wife. She had a boyfriend.  One of the regretted decisions. Thank God J doesn't judge me for anything I did before I met him.

npasquale16

Very interesting, everyone.

I read an article about open marriages and it stuck with me (the idea, not the actual desire to do it).  The couple in the article has an agreement where their marriage was monogamous in the U.S., but open anywhere else. Besides the obvious trust issues, etc. that could arise, I wondered whether either would be jealous if the other got to take more trips?

ricksang

Richt! I mean if my H is going to London w/o me, I don't want to think of how much asshe is getting while I am back at home.

kd.joseph

Dinner is take out from the Italian Restaurant. DH is feeling lazy and there is nothing thawed.


Open Marriage: Not my thing. If two consenting adults agree before they get married, and it works for them thats fine.Who am I to say different. But I'm with Ang,no one touches my DH but me.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

1. Black bean tortas with guacamole and roasted chile-lime corn on the cob.

2. Whatever floats your boat. It's between consenting adults. I have no problem with polygamy, either, if everyone involved is on board. It's just not my thing.

Celles

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[QUOTE] When I was single and before I ever met J (and I was experiencing dating, basically for the first time), I was the "girlfriend" in an open marriage. I never met the wife. She had a boyfriend.  One of the regretted decisions. Thank God J doesn't judge me for anything I did before I met him.
Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]

I was in a very similar situation, although I met the wife and her children (who weren't his) several times.  It definitely wasn't for me -- or for them, apparently, since there were jealousy issues all around.  I broke off the relationship after about three months.  He went crazy-stalker on me, even going so far as to install a trojan on my computer so he could spy on me.  He also attempted to blackmail me into staying with him, by threatening to tell my very conservative parents about our sexual relationship.  For some inexplicable reason, his wife resented ME for hurting HIM, and sent several nasty e-mails as well. 

The kicker is that this couple now leads a group in Tempe devoted to "open, ethical relationships."   *snort*

september's bride

Dinner: Oven "fried" chicken, baked potatoes, grilled veggies and salads. Yummy.

Open marriage: Yeah, I don't really agree with it as a choice for myself. I'm not one to chime in on how others interpret the idea of marriage, but my values and religious beliefs go against the whole concept of an open marriage.

jamiefour

Dinner-We had sausage patties with cheese, corn on the cob and pickles. 
Open marriage-I wouldn't be comfortable with it nor would I get married if I wanted to be with other people but I wouldn't judge people if that was their lifestyle.

kpwedkk

Dinner - Okra stirfry + Brown veggie rice nom nom

Open Marriage - not for me, i have two ring fingers and they are both used ahem.  (one for engagement ring, and the other for wedding ring). 

annmariemudge

Its a cereal night, FI has class and cooking for 1 sucks

I just have to wonder, what about diseases and pregnancy.  Even if you can get over personal morals and jealousy issues, there is a safety concern.

npasquale16

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[QUOTE]Its a cereal night, FI has class and cooking for 1 sucks I just have to wonder, what about diseases and pregnancy.  <strong>Even if you can get over personal morals and jealousy issues, there is a safety concern.
Posted by annmariemudge[/QUOTE]</strong>

True.  I'm a little surprised at the results.  I figured people wouldn't be very judge-y, but I thought at least a few people would be into it.  I mean, it's an international board with a ton of people. 

Lenore2010

I am late to this. Chinese take out for dinner last night.

I have been in a poly relationship, and I have friends who still are. I know one couple who has been married thirty plus years and been poly the entire time.I am skeptical, 

even when it appears to work I think it nearly always works at the cost of hurting someone. I think that for many people who are poly, it is really a mask for immaturity and a lack of ability to make a commitment. It is an attempt to have the advantages of being married AND single, usually at some else's expense.