WTF Knot Post Secret

Denise91980

I judge this one way more!

sherrbearr22

Wait am I reading the wrong one?? What's this cum and stuff!!?? (gag is right!)  I saw the "rape" one...that's who I was judging...

jasmineh7777

Click the FIRST link Sherr, and that will show you all the recent submissions.

sherrbearr22

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[QUOTE]Click the FIRST link Sherr, and that will show you all the recent submissions.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

Ohhh gotcha!  Sometimes I wonder where people are finding the pics that go along with the submissions!

K Byte

I judge all the affair ones, I'll be honest. I didn't know there were so many unhappily married people on TK.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]I judge all the affair ones, I'll be honest. I didn't know there were so many unhappily married people on TK.
Posted by K Byte[/QUOTE]

Ditto, especially because there is no excuse for an affair.  Ever.  If you are unhappy, get divorced, but it's probably the lowest thing you can do is to have an affair.  I think there's a special place in Hell for all those people.  Sorry if that refers to any of you, but it's true.  You suck.

sherrbearr22

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[QUOTE]I judge all the affair ones, I'll be honest. I didn't know there were so many unhappily married people on TK.
Posted by K Byte[/QUOTE]

Same here, I feel sad for everyone involved in affairs.  Cheating is a very sensitive subject for me, having been cheated on in the past.

I dont' mean to be completely naiive but are swingers and watching your partner have sex with someone else like way more common than I'm thinking? I get the feeling I'm the only one shocked by it <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

Celles

Someone else's sex life is a stupid thing to judge, IMO.

sherrbearr22

Celles - do you mean judging their sex lives when it's open and honest - swingers/threesomes etc.  Because that makes sense - to each their own!

But do you also mean in the event of an affair?  Just curious!  Though, you'd still be right in a way because it is no one elses' business...

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF Knot Post Secret : Same here, I feel sad for everyone involved in affairs.  <em>Cheating is a very sensitive subject for me, having been cheated on in the past.</em> I dont' mean to be completely naiive but are swingers and watching your partner have sex with someone else like way more common than I'm thinking? I get the feeling I'm the only one shocked by it
Posted by sherrbearr22[/QUOTE]

I agree Sherr....it changed my outlook on men forever.  Not only did he cheat on me, I actually waked in on him WHILE he was doing it!  I was mortified and sadly, that image will stay locked in my brain forever, it was really traumatic. 

Fortunately though, I met the FI about 6 mths later and boy did I ever put him to the test when it came to the trust issue.  I really put him through hell the first year and a half but I eventually learned that HE is the most true-blue guy I have ever met and he saved me in a way....he taught me that I can trust again and he has never once done anything for me to think otherwise.

sherrbearr22

Ouch! OBX that must have been heartbreaking   I'm soooo glad we both have much better men in our lives' now!

OBX2011

You guys wanna hear a really crazy Jerry Springer kind of story????  This tops em all....

My father cheated on my mother with my step-dad's ex-wife.  Yes, you read that right.  Now mind you, my mother and step-father NEVER met until long after the divorce and ended up falling in love.  And for the record, my father has nothing to do with that cuvnt bitch ex of my step-dad's.  If he could turn back the hands of time, I know he would but whats done is done....

Celles

Sherr -- I was referring more to the former. Truth be told, I'm more surprised by how prudish some people's reactions have been (much more on E than here) than I am by the original secret!

I don't condone adultry, but I don't really judge it either. If I don't know the intimate details of someone's relationship, who am I to make moral judgments on their behalf?

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]Ouch! OBX that must have been heartbreaking :(  I'm soooo glad we both have much better men in our lives' now!
Posted by sherrbearr22[/QUOTE]

Damn right we do!!!

undyingmizery

OBX I have walked in on one of my exs cheating on me and I STILL worry about that. My FI is the first man I have actually trusted since then.

I agree with Celles... I think it's their sex lives.. As long as it doesn't affect me I don't care.

Also... Don't tell me about your sex life.. I don't want to hear it(in general). Non of my friends talk about their sex lives. We all agree that what happens is no one elses business but your own. What happens behind closed doors stays behind closed doors.

undyingmizery

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[QUOTE]I don't condone adultry, but I don't really judge it either. If I don't know the intimate details of someone's relationship, who am I to make moral judgments on their behalf?
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

I agree 100%

K Byte

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[QUOTE]OBX I have walked in on one of my exs cheating on me and I STILL worry about that. My FI is the first man I have actually trusted since then. I agree with Celles... I think it's their sex lives.. As long as it doesn't affect me I don't care. <strong>Also... Don't tell me about your sex life.. I don't want to hear it(in general). Non of my friends talk about their sex lives. We all agree that what happens is no one elses business but your own. What happens behind closed doors stays behind closed doors.</strong>
Posted by undyingmizery[/QUOTE]
Well I'm jealous. I wish I could say the same about my friends (well some of them). I know things about my friends and their boyfriends/husbands that I truly never wanted to know. Especially about their SO's, especially if I don't know them that well I'm just like ... ugh haha.

ricksang

Yeah I really don't care if people have affairs as long as it's not me!

NatesGirl16

How dare you all have sex talk without me? 

I am disgusted by the affair ones, TBH.  As a few have said, I find it impossible to understand.  Why remain married if you're unhappy?  Why break the vows you took (i.e.respecting the other)?  Consenual threesomes/swinging is different, IMO, because both partners are okay with it, but cheating is a violation of trust and boundaries. 

Meg1979

I'm more bothered by the jizzleton picture.  We all know what it looks like.  I didn't need a reminder.  At work.  lol

undyingmizery

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF Knot Post Secret : Well I'm jealous. I wish I could say the same about my friends (well some of them). I know things about my friends and their boyfriends/husbands that I truly never wanted to know. Especially about their SO's, especially if I don't know them that well I'm just like ... ugh haha.
Posted by K Byte[/QUOTE]

See I don't want to know this about my friends OR their S/O. It would make me feel weird honestly. I have had to tell people that are just wave and chit chat for 5 minute friends " I am really sorry to interupt you but this is really non of my business". As politely as I can.

I am not saying alot of this doesn't make me shudder in disgust but.. As I said if it doesn't affect me in any way.. I don't really care.

sherrbearr22

Celles - first I have to say, I want to hold that puppy in your avatar! How cute

I'll admit I'm more of a prude than I thought! Haha! and also I did not read the first post correctly.  It was only after the other gals mentioned rape was in quotes and it was like a role playing thing that I realized I was speaking out of turn.  I apologize for coming off as such a judgy bizznatch!

And also I have a lot of respect for "it's none of my business" attitude.  I guess I will always hurt when people are wrapped up in affairs because they are hard on everyone!

Y I Oughta

Two of my close friends are swingers. She likes women and he like her with women. She doesn't mind him with other women as long as she is aware of it. I don't get the details from them, and I only know because they occasionally leave the bar with girls. They are open about it to their friends so nobody ever thinks one is cheating on the other if they see them leaving with someone else. Which is nice to know, because I would totally tear myself up with whether or not to tell on a cheating spouse if it's my good friend.  They are KJs in that work in a few different bars so they meet a lot of loose women. I don't think it's smart, but I don't judge them for it.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]Sherr -- I was referring more to the former. Truth be told, I'm more surprised by how prudish some people's reactions have been (much more on E than here) than I am by the original secret! <strong>I don't condone adultry, but I don't really judge it either. If I don't know the intimate details of someone's relationship, who am I to make moral judgments on their behalf?</strong>
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]


I guess I judge it because while it doesn't hurt me personally, it is hurting someone else.  I think regardless of what the action is, adultery or something else, if you do something willfully and intentionally to hurt someone, that speaks a lot about your character, which to me...is deeply and irreparably flawed. 

I would honestly have a hard time being friends with someone who is having an affair.  I just don't believe they are good people or could possibly have any good traits that would help me to overlook that.  (an "OMG what did I do?" one night stand kind of thing is much different than carrying on an ongoing affair and having no remorse about it.  It's still not excusable, but not as detrimental to your character kind of thing).

I also not so secretly hope everyone who has had an affair will have it happen to them.  Prefereably with someone that they are so totally in love with and trusting of and then to have their heart ripped out and broken.  I just don't understand how anyone can do that to someone they "love" so the deserve to feel what it was like to the person they did that to.

sherrbearr22

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[QUOTE]Two of my close friends are swingers. She likes women and he like her with women. She doesn't mind him with other women as long as she is aware of it. I don't get the details from them, and I only know because they occasionally leave the bar with girls. They are open about it to their friends so nobody ever thinks one is cheating on the other if they see them leaving with someone else. Which is nice to know, because I would totally tear myself up with whether or not to tell on a cheating spouse if it's my good friend.  They are KJs in that work in a few different bars so they meet a lot of loose women. I don't think it's smart, but I don't judge them for it.
Posted by Y I Oughta[/QUOTE]


I've heard that open relationships are actually a lot more honest and healthy than monogomous ones.  Still NMS- but if it honest thru and thru and makes the people involved happy it's good for them.

ETA: also, I'd be worried about getting STDs if I wasn't in a monogomous relationship.  Maybe your friends have some sort of screening process though....

Celles

No apologies needed, Sherr!  Everyone is entitled to an opinon -- so even if that was yours (which I realize it's not!), it's totally fine.

I was in an open relationship for a few months in college. It lasted just long enough for me to realize that swinging is so not my thing. I'm big into monogamy these days.

eta - I should clarify. My now-ex boyfriend and his girlfriend were the swingers. I was monogamous to him at the time, although I didn't "have" to be. I was allowed to have other partners but chose not to.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]No apologies needed, Sherr!  Everyone is entitled to an opinon -- so even if that was yours (which I realize it's not!), it's totally fine. :) I was in an open relationship for a few months in college. It lasted just long enough for me to realize that swinging is so not my thing. I'm big into monogamy these days.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

<div>My ex told me he wanted to sleep with other chicks, but I wasn't allowed to sleep with other guys. That's what an open relationship is right?</div>

sherrbearr22

So was it difficult for you? Like did you feel he was being "unfaithful" since you were not indulging in the open part of the relationship.  Or were you cool with it since you guys had agreed to it?  Why am I so fascinated!? LOL

sherrbearr22

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF Knot Post Secret : My ex told me he wanted to sleep with other chicks, but I wasn't allowed to sleep with other guys. That's what an open relationship is right?
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

Oh...Ummm... he sounds like an assh0le.  Can I say this!?

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF Knot Post Secret : Oh...Ummm... he sounds like an assh0le.  Can I say this!?
Posted by sherrbearr22[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, yes you can. He was a giant douchebag =P</div>