Gripe with me.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

1, my car is broken.  It won't start with the key, but will with the auto start.  My mechanic told me a couple months ago to take it where I got the auto start installed so they could fix it.  I called them, told them what was wrong with it and they told me since they don't install auto-start anymore to call their sister dealership who does.  When I did and told them what was wrong with it they said it wasn't an auto-start problem, but a key problem.  The place that installed my auto-start is three hours away in my hometown and it's been tough for me to schedule a trip for them to fix it, so they told me to call a Chevy place in Fargo.  Well, I took my car to the Chevy place yesterday and paid 137 bucks for them to tell me that the wiring is fucked up in my auto-start programming (uh, really!?), not have it fixed yet and get a "courtesy" oil change.

2, because of this bullshit I have to schedule a trip home and Ben can't come with me because he works, so I'd be leaving him for a weekend and I'd feel crappy about it.

3, fast forward to about an hour ago, I've been informed that everyone on my dad's side of the family is coming to my hometown this weekend for some sort of family reunion and if Ben and I don't go, we will be the only ones not in attendance.  This basically means that we have to go, and since we can't take her with us we have to find last minute accommodations for Lucy (she is not allowed in my parent's house), so, this is a pain in my ass.  My family plans NOTHING ahead of time.  It's ALWAYS last minute.  (eta - this weekend's trip is last minute enough to not be able to get in to get my car fixed /RAGE)

4, in addition, because of this last minute garbage Ben is being a brat because he feels bad that he told his folks we would probably be staying home this weekend instead of going to their place this weekend.  And now it looks like we're going to see my family.

5, I am not mentally prepared yet to go home and see how the chronic flooding has turned the already sopping wet community into even more of an ocean of the midwest.  In fact, it kind of makes me sick to my stomach to think about.

6, this pineapple greek yogurt I'm snacking on tastes like a moldy foot.

Anyone else wanna gripe with me?  I like to gripe, but I like to do it with good company.

Wiscisbliss

Wow...  You've got a lot of suck going on. 

My biggest gripe right now is all of this rain and cold... quit making my softball games be canceled!  I want to play!

AmandaMarie711

AATB that sucks about your car. And I feel you on the last minute family plans! Those drive me nuts. I hope that you guys get to have fun with your family, even with all the craziness/depressing flood stuff. I'll gripe with you. I hate the waiting that comes after interviews, and when companies give you timelines that they don't actually stick to, and don't let you know that they're not going to stick to them.

H interviewed for a job a couple weeks ago, and was told they'd let him know by Friday, which would have been 4 days after his 3rd interview. H e-mailed the person on Thursday, and tried calling about 7 times on Friday without getting anything but straight-to-voicemail. So H spent the weekend depressed that he didn't get the job and down on himself for not having a good job.

Then Monday he e-mails the HR person again, and she responds telling him that they are just starting to check references, and will have a decision within two days. Which would be today, and so there's still a chance we'll hear about it this afternoon.

I'm just tired of the waiting game, and am reallllly hoping for good news so that H doesn't spend this weekend, when we're out of town celebrating our 2 year anniversary, depressed.

DodgersBride

I am peeved at FMIL's family. It was her birthday yesterday, we celebrated it this pass Saturday and we also went to visit her yesterday. FI's aunt tells us that her and the rest of the family want to have cake & ice cream this upcoming Saturday for her.

My nephew has a baseball tournament about an hour away Saturday and Sunday. We were supposed to go. Now we may only be able to go to one game since we have to attend this lovely event. FI's sister is traveling and won't be attending and Fi feels like he has to go because if he doesn't none of her children would be there.

I think it sucks that they decided at the last minute to have something especially since it Memorial Day weekend and most people have plans ahead of time. It also pissed me off because it right smack in the middle of the day. I wouldn't be so peeved had it been later on at night so that we can do both.

Yoda2010

AATB that is a lot of crappiness...I suggest a glass of wine tonight

DodgersBride

I think you should put a "Wall of Text" warning for this thread.

sarah0725

Those sound like good gripes.

I'm in a gripey mood because it's rainy, I can't find the power cord to upload the pics from one of my cameras, I don't want to work on wedding invitations, and I just found out via Facebook that this really decent fellow I met in grad school but haven't seen in a while has married his awful girlfriend. I keep hoping that she is nicer to him when they are alone than when they are out with other people, and maybe there's something I don't know.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Amanda that is SO irritating.  I have a friend who was actually offered a job recently after a six month job search.  She went to work for her first day and had a great experience, and was so excited to get to work for good.  Turns out because the CEO did not authorize her hiring, she wasn't *actually* hired.  So she was offered a job by people not entirely qualified to offer it to her and embarrassed to high hell about it.  And she's still looking for a job.  Can you imagine?

Jcb, Lucy isn't allowed at my folks house because my parents (read: mother) don't allow pets in the house.  Theoretically, we could bring her and leave her in the garage but she's too young for us to feel comfortable doing that just yet.  And, my parent's dog Bubba (lab/chow) mix is not socialized with other dogs, so he would probably try to eat her or something when we have to let her out. 

Denise91980

AATB- I'll watch Lucy for you, but you might not get her back. Pumpkin would love her!

My biggest gripe is my Borderline-Personality Disordered Supervisor. She tries to do things that are "helpful" to us, but it makes things more tedious and we have to redo them because she is micromanagy and wants to have control over everything. She has created a huge split between the older people here and the newer people here. She also asks me the same questions every day and it drives me insane. I hate that I trained her and I know more than she does.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]I think you should put a "Wall of Text" warning for this thread.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]

Psht, I'm the OP.  It should be implied.

Denise91980

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gripe with me. : Psht, I'm the OP.  It should be implied.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

True!

AmandaMarie711

AATB, oh man that is really annoying!! Your poor friend! Why do some companies suck so much? Job hunting is one of thee worrrst things in life. The last job H was hired for seemed great, until he found out on the first day it was a temporary 3 month contract position instead of permanent like he was told in the interview.

Also, if I lived near you I would totally take Lucy for a weekend!! She is soooo cute!

shaydenise

I'm sorry AATB.  Car troubles are ALWAYS an awful biitch to fix.  And I can completely relate to the always doing last minute family crap.  I love my family.  I love H's family, but we have spent every single weekend for the last eight weeks doing something with them.  We. Want. Time. ALONE.  We thought that would be this Saturday (just Saturday, because of other family stuff the other days).  NOPE, family obligation that we were guilted into because it's my brother's birthday.

I guess that was my big gripe lol.

Oh wait, I have another.  H doesn't get it.  He doesn't get why we should put more money towards my student loan rather than his stupid car loan.  1. My student loan has a much higher balance obvs.  2. My student loan has a higher interest rate.  STFU about your car I want to be out from under this student loan debt!

KaylaSue19

Ugh, I hear you on the car problems, AATB. Our car is barely driveable at the moment. We are having issues with the breaks, rotors, and god knows what else that I don't remember because when H starts to talk about it I zone out because I know nothing about cars. 

I also have a gripe with my neighbor. We are in town homes, and our living room window is about 5 feet away from his back door. Well he smokes out there, and every time our window is open the smoke blows right into our living room and stinks it up. H and I both used to smoke, but we never even thought about smoking inside because we don't want our house smelling like smoke. Now thanks to this guy it does. Granted it goes away pretty quickly, but I swear he smokes every 15 minutes.  The weather is nice, I like my windows open dammit.

dannie134

1) H still does not have a job.  We've been here 4 1/2 months and he's applied for everything even remotely relevant.  We are not the only ones in this situation, and my salary is enough to keep us going, but it stinks.  I hate seeing him hurting (and feeling like he's not contributing), without being able to help in any concrete way.

2) We want to get a dog, and I'm pretty sure it would make H feel better about life if he had an adorable puppy keeping him company during the day.  Our landlord is still deciding if she's ok with a big dog (we want a Golden Retriever, not really interested in smaller breeds), and the waiting is frustrating.

3) I'm going to do fieldwork for 2 weeks starting next week, and I'll be leaving H at home by himself.  Since we just moved here recently he only has 1 good friend who is somewhat local (he lives 40 minutes away) and said friend works as a cop so has very little free time.  Also, I will be gone for his birthday and now need to come up with some fabulous way to make it up to him.  I feel really bad leaving him lonely for 2 weeks when we just got married.

4) H is also trying to sign up for online classes to start this summer, and apparently is having issues with the FAFSA app. 

5) I'm not loving my job right now, but it's pretty critical that I stick with it since it's keeping us afloat.  I wish I could find more motivation somewhere.

Man, felt good to get that out!  AATB (and the rest of you who posted subsequently) sorry about your piled-up craziness of a day.

Yoda2010

My gripe:

CW sending me emails and coming up to my desk to talk about it literally AS it is being received in my inbox? Really? Why send me an effin email if you're going to come and bug me about it in person anyway? Its so predictable with one particular CW...get an email, she walks to my desk to see if I "got it". Naturally, I play dumb now and respond with "Nope, the email hasnt had time to come through yet". GO.AWAY.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Yeah, we have found a daycare place for her - we've taken her there to get her nails clipped and stuff but they haven't screened her yet... I don't know how long that takes

The playpen thing, I dunno.  I don't think it would be a good idea.  We have one for her that we used while she was really little, but she can jump out of it now.  Plus she hates being in there. 

Bah.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

We have some neighbors who have offered to watch Lucy, too... but I don't know the people that well.  They are NICE people but yeah.  Just not sure.  What would you do?

SEWF

I'm going to gripe about tornados. Just in general. They suck.

shaydenise

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[QUOTE]We have some neighbors who have offered to watch Lucy, too... but I don't know the people that well.  They are NICE people but yeah.  Just not sure.  What would you do?
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I probably wouldn't, but mainly because I would be worried how she'd react with strangers.  But then again, that's a dog-by-dog basis.  Our two big ones we'd probably leave with people they didn't know. Sebastian, not a chance because I know he would probably bite them.

Edit: Not bite, but snap at.

AmandaMarie711

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[QUOTE] What would you do?
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

It would depend on how well I knew them. And if I had any other options. I think I'd try checking with any friends first, but if nothing else panned out and I was in a tight spot I'd probably take them up on it.

undyingmizery

Backstory.. Right after my son's 5th birthday his Father saw him for all of 6 hours in which he told him he was having a new baby and new family. No happy late birthday nothing.. a week after that my son started his allergic reaction fits and was in and out of hospitals and doctors offices. Stressful few weeks all in all.

Fast forward a month to today.. He calls me in the middle of nowhere at work no less. He wants to see the boys on Memorial Day and take them to some random person's house for a bbq.... Um.. no.

I think what he did was wrong.. Told a 5 year old boy he (ex) has a new baby and family, told him he was going to see him that next weekend and then to not call at all for the next month? No. I think he has hurt them enough. Until he can learn to be a solid part of their life it's not going to happen. Am I wrong here? I don't want my son to be hurt anymore. His Father isn't the one picking up the pieces I am.

Wow that turned out long sorry.

KaylaSue19

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[QUOTE]We have some neighbors who have offered to watch Lucy, too... but I don't know the people that well.  They are NICE people but yeah.  Just not sure.  What would you do?
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I don't know if I would be comfortable with that. I mean I could see if they had spent a lot of time around her before, but if not, I just don't know.

undyingmizery

I am sorry SEWF I can't even imagine how scary that is.

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]Backstory.. Right after my son's 5th birthday his Father saw him for all of 6 hours in which he told him he was having a new baby and new family. No happy late birthday nothing.. a week after that my son started his allergic reaction fits and was in and out of hospitals and doctors offices. Stressful few weeks all in all. Fast forward a month to today.. He calls me in the middle of nowhere at work no less. He wants to see the boys on Memorial Day and take them to some random person's house for a bbq.... Um.. no. I think what he did was wrong.. Told a 5 year old boy he (ex) has a new baby and family, told him he was going to see him that next weekend and then to not call at all for the next month? No. I think he has hurt them enough. Until he can learn to be a solid part of their life it's not going to happen. Am I wrong here? I don't want my son to be hurt anymore. His Father isn't the one picking up the pieces I am. Wow that turned out long sorry.
Posted by undyingmizery[/QUOTE]

That's awful Miz....I'm sorry you and esp. your son have to go through this,  Your ex sounds like a real diickwad and I don't blame you for feeling this way.  Sadly your ex being selfish is causing this pain so I don't think it's fair to your son for his dad to be popping in and out of his life.  If he wants a solid relationship, then he has to work at it all the time, not just when he wants.  My parents split at a young age and my dad doing stuff with us is a big reason that we are still so close....maybe the ex needs to realize this.

I hope this works out for you and your little one :)

undyingmizery

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gripe with me. : That's awful Miz....I'm sorry you and esp. your son have to go through this,  Your ex sounds like a real diickwad and I don't blame you for feeling this way.  Sadly your ex being selfish is causing this pain so I don't think it's fair to your son for his dad to be popping in and out of his life.  If he wants a solid relationship, then he has to work at it all the time, not just when he wants.  My parents split at a young age and my dad doing stuff with us is a big reason that we are still so close....maybe the ex needs to realize this. I hope this works out for you and your little one :)
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

Thank you for the insight. I just want to do what's right for my boys. This situation in my opinion is only hurting him more than it will ever do him any good.

Steph0871

AATB- I'd find a good place to board her anyway; somewhere that you're comfortable leaving her.  We were really apprehensive leaving Puck the first time, but he LOVES it.  If they have a daycare option (instead of just  kennels), it's a great way for them to get social interaction with other dogs too.  Plus, when Puck goes for the weekend, he comes home completely worn out, which is great for us too