Air your grievences.

number55

OMG...I just read it all.  I judge. I judge huge. She is clearly not mature enough to be married and her writing makes my head hurt. Sigh.

Anysunrise

Damnit, I want to start a blog now. YOU GUYS NEED TO KNOW HOW I FEEL EVERY DAY.

number55

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[QUOTE]Dang.  I was deadset on her being a troll, but she has WAY too many pictures to be completely made up. 
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, this too...way too many pictures and I love pictures.</div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin

She's 22 damn years old.  That irritates me to all hell because she blogs like she's ZOMG SWEET 16.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]She's 22 damn years old.  That irritates me to all hell because she blogs like she's ZOMG SWEET 16.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

*grumbles*

Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : Or maybe she really was worried that she would be flamed and was expressing relief that she wasn't.  Sometimes a confession is just that, and not a desperate plea for attention and/or validation. 
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

After the millions of posts from her AWing every little aspect of her wedding before and after, I doubt that she is really all that worried.

kd.joseph

I couldnt even read all that, her sister isnt involving her in her life enough so she may dump her? And who thinks of all this stuff for a 6/12 wedding?

And does her FI have chew in his lip in every picture?

number55

This probably doesn't count as an AYG so much as an I judge but I have decided that I finally have a WR thing that drives me nuts...large wedding parties are RIDICULOUS. I don't know what my 'cut-off' is for okay vs/ large but I think that for sure 8 on either side is a little much...

marissa_claire

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[QUOTE]This probably doesn't count as an AYG so much as an I judge but I have decided that I finally have a WR thing that drives me nuts...large wedding parties are RIDICULOUS. I don't know what my 'cut-off' is for okay vs/ large but I think that for sure 8 on either side is a little much...
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Agreed.  At a certain point it's not really an honor, IMO.

</div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]I couldnt even read all that, her sister isnt involving her in her life enough so she may dump her? And who thinks of all this stuff for a 6/12 wedding? <strong>And does her FI have chew in his lip in every picture?</strong>
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I didn't notice that but when I went back and looked... damn.  I kinda hope he does have chew in his lip, because it would be really unfortunate to appear that way all the time when it wasn't actually the case.

She is crazy annoying though.  The whole keeping her engagement a secret from her FILs thing just reeks of immaturity.  And her wedding isn't for two years, she's going to drive herself and everyone around her completely nuts.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]This probably doesn't count as an AYG so much as an I judge but I have decided that I finally have a WR thing that drives me nuts...large wedding parties are RIDICULOUS. I don't know what my 'cut-off' is for okay vs/ large but I think that for sure 8 on either side is a little much...
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

I agree. If I didn't want to include FI's two sisters, it would just be my best friend. I just can't imagine having ten + women that you're actually close to.

number55

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : I agree. If I didn't want to include FI's two sisters, it would just be my best friend. I just can't imagine having ten + women that you're actually close to.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, if we hadn't have included our siblings (two each side, plus an in-law sibling) I would have had two and he would have one. We did the sibling thing because it was important to me to include his two sisters since his family is very 'tight' (as opposed to mine, not so much, but the brothers were still in it!).</div><div>
</div><div>Could I have had more, yes. Thank goodness I didn't.</div>

kd.joseph

When you have to use the bull-whip, and the chair to get people in their places, its too many.

This is a girl that isnt getting married in 2 years.....who wants to lay odds?

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : After the millions of posts from her AWing every little aspect of her wedding before and after, I doubt that she is really all that worried.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]
I see where Nebb is coming from here.  Some of you may be too new to remember this, but it seemed like every single detail in Poli's wedding was brought to the knot for approval from the masses before it was implemented.  She was flamed for it a number of times, which is probably where her surprise at having not been flamed came from.
(Disclaimer:  I do not care about wedding pictures so I haven't paid attention to how many times it's come up).

LessThanZero

I guess I flame myself for having 8 girls in my WP.   : )

maratea

On the large WP thing- Yes. My friend is having 9 bridesmaids, and her FI is having 7 groomsmen and 2 groomswomen. I noticed an interesting trend- all of the people on her side of the WP were either people who's weddings she was in or will be in. Every single one of them. I just want to tell her "Weddings don't have to be reciprocal!"

number55

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : I see where Nebb is coming from here.  Some of you may be too new to remember this, but it seemed like every single detail in Poli's wedding was brought to the knot for approval from the masses before it was implemented.  She was flamed for it a number of times, which is probably where her surprise at having not been flamed came from. (Disclaimer:  I do not care about wedding pictures so I haven't paid attention to how many times it's come up).
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I never noticed how often poli posted stuff about her wedding (before the wedding) because in contrast to the stupid/crazy/bsc/troll posts hers just seemed fine...I think the difference for me is that I posted all those messages on my month board rather than here...</div>

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : Or maybe she really was worried that she would be flamed and was expressing relief that she wasn't.  Sometimes a confession is just that, and not a desperate plea for attention and/or validation. 
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

I'm in this mindset about the whole situation, because I've known Poli to be pretty self-aware and it seems like she was being self-deprecating because, as she mentioned, she had a sense that the final post might have been too much. I think she was trying to get a feel for whether it was too much or not, and not to draw more AW focus to the actual pics.

Though I do see where Nebb (ETA: and Kelli) is coming from, and I can imagine that if people were already at capacity for her WR posts during the past couple years, then any AW post beyond the first one would seem excessive. I usually ignore past the first one after people get married, but I figure it's their prerogative to post more and deal with whether people still care or not. Though I adore Poli's pics and was happy to see them, so there's my personal bias in this situation. ;)

allisong23

I flame JennaV for saying that some bad mothers should be involuntarily sterilized. Yes, there are some AWFUL parents that need to have their kids removed, and/or get psychological care or even be incarcerated. But sterilize them?

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I couldnt even read all that, her sister isnt involving her in her life enough so she may dump her? And who thinks of all this stuff for a 6/12 wedding? And does her FI have chew in his lip in every picture?
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I think so. So gross. My uncle keeps it between his gums and his cheek. I thought he'd quit, so when I saw him for TG I thought something was wrong with his face. Then I saw his spit cup. Ew.

DodgersBride

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[QUOTE]I couldnt even read all that, her sister isnt involving her in her life enough so she may dump her? And who thinks of all this stuff for a 6/12 wedding? And does her FI have chew in his lip in every picture?
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

That's my month board too and I think I am the only one who doesn't have her wedding planned yet. All their excuse are things book really fast where I am from. Twihard's first advice to a newbie was<em>

"But word of warning some women down right tell you the truth & can get pretty rude. So take it with a grain of salt :)"

</em>

Y I Oughta

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[QUOTE]I flame JennaV for saying that some bad mothers should be involuntarily sterilized. Yes, there are some AWFUL parents that need to have their kids removed, and/or get psychological care or even be incarcerated. But sterilize them?
Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

This I agree with. I was happy someone brought up Hitler to her.

number55

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[QUOTE]I guess I flame myself for having 8 girls in my WP.   : )
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

<div>See...and this is why I usually never post stuff like that. I know that I must have done stuff that others would flame (I know for sure I did) still...I am sure you had great reasons for having 8 girls!</div>

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : See...and this is why I usually never post stuff like that. I know that I must have done stuff that others would flame (I know for sure I did) still...I am sure you had great reasons for having 8 girls!
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

No it's all good. I didn't just randomly pick a bunch of friends or aquaintances or people whose weddings I've been in or anything, It's my sister, my 3 best friends and FI's 4 sisters who are already like family to me and who have welcomed me with open arms since the day I met them really. It is a large party but it's just the way it worked.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : See...and this is why I usually never post stuff like that. I know that I must have done stuff that others would flame (I know for sure I did) still...I am sure you had great reasons for having 8 girls!
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]
I don't get this.  Own your opinion.  If you don't like it you don't like it.  Why are you backtracking on that now just because someone you like did it?  You can dislike large wedding parties without disliking LTZ, or her wedding.  There's no reason to change your opinion based on the fact that LTZ had a large wedding party, or to justify why she may have done something that's not your style.

This is my biggest grievance with SB lately.  There's way too much of this going on.  It's okay to disagree.  It's okay to  state your opinion whether or not others agree with it.

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]I flame JennaV for saying that some bad mothers should be involuntarily sterilized. Yes, there are some AWFUL parents that need to have their kids removed, and/or get psychological care or even be incarcerated. But sterilize them?
Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that's pretty extreme.

number55

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : I don't get this.  Own your opinion.  If you don't like it you don't like it.  Why are you backtracking on that now just because someone you like did it?  You can dislike large wedding parties without disliking LTZ, or her wedding.  There's no reason to change your opinion based on the fact that LTZ had a large wedding party, or to justify why she may have done something that's not your style. This is my biggest grievance with SB lately.  There's way too much of this going on.  It's okay to disagree.  It's okay to  state your opinion whether or not others agree with it.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with you in principle but it is also just not who I am. I am not changing my opinion nor am I back tracking. I am sure ANYONE who has many BMs has their reasons for picking them and I am sure most of them are valid. I agree that it is fine to disagree I just don't tend to be one to air it out loud, I keep those thoughts to myself most of the time.</div>

beatlesgirl25

B, you took the words right out of my head. It's not wrong to think 8-person WPs suck, or to have had one. But, either you think they're dumb and excessive or you don't. And if one of your friends reveals she had one, that shouldn't change. Unless you legit feel that you'd been narrowminded and now see the light. Then change your opinion, but saying "I'm sure YOU had a good reason for having one" just sounds disingenuous.

number55

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[QUOTE]B, you took the words right out of my head. It's not wrong to think 8-person WPs suck, or to have had one. But, either you think they're dumb and excessive or you don't. And if one of your friends reveals she had one, that shouldn't change. Unless you legit feel that you'd been narrowminded and now see the light. Then change your opinion, but saying "I'm sure YOU had a good reason for having one" just sounds disingenuous.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

<div>It might sound disingenuous but it certainly wasn't intended to. </div>

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : I agree with you in principle but it is also just not who I am. I am not changing my opinion nor am I back tracking. I am sure ANYONE who has many BMs has their reasons for picking them and I am sure most of them are valid. I agree that it is fine to disagree I just don't tend to be one to air it out loud, I keep those thoughts to myself most of the time.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]
What's the point of having an opinion at all if you're afraid to share it because it may be contrary to something one of your friends did?