Article on "Mama Gifts" - DISCUSS

untsing

what do you think?http://www.nytimes.com/2007/12/06/fashion/06push.html?_r=2

juliebug1997

What happened to just some nice flowers?  I think that's what my dad did for my mom when she had me (I don't remember him giving her anything when she had Clark).  I know my uncle gave my aunt some of the boys' birthstone jewelry. While I think it's a nice idea, I definitely wouldn't expect it.  It sounded to me like it might have been required in that case.

nae82

I didn't read the whole article, but I would never expect a "baby mama gift"  cook dinner and clean the house is good enough for me lol

stephl3055

I would feel like I was being bribed for having a baby if my husband did that.  Like it's such an inconvenience for me to have this baby, that I must be rewarded greatly.  Personally, all I want him to do for me is to help out with the chores if I'm not able to and be considerate of what I am going through. 

shortgirltx

In another article I read about this, I thought it was primarily a southern thing and found it somewhat odd.  I've never heard about it until a couple of months ago. 

almoyo

Then I better get a Louis Vuitton diaper bag is all I'm sayin'!Lame.

juliebug1997

I'd be so afraid to ruin a Coach or LV baby bag with various baby "issues". 

SCbrideinTX

I am opposed to this on several levels... but I think mainly I just feel like it wouldn't be financially smart. I wouldn't want Steven to spend a lot of money on a gift for me if we'd just welcomed a newborn into the world. I mean baby's are expensive and have a lot of needs, I wouldn't want to waste money on a gift for myself. I don't know it just feels wrong to me... some kind of small trinket to commemorate the day, sure, expensive jewelry.. not so much.

untsing

This was my response to the girl who posted it on FB: Hmmm. I think it's kind of tranny of them to EXPECT (or, God forbid, DEMAND) something. But, I wouldn't turn down a pair of diamond earrings after going through that ordeal. It could be a meaningful heirloom to pass on eventually, too. "Here son/daughter...use these diamonds for your engagement ring, your father gave them to me when you were born." Could be sweet. I still have the card my dad gave my mom when I was born.

BanannaP

While I would never expect a gift, and especially not a pair of diamond earrings (!), I will say that I think it is a really sweet gesture, because there is so much attention focused on the baby while the mom has basically just performed a miracle by creating life. When FI's sister had her baby, I bought her a locket at Things Remembered and had it engraved with the baby's name. But like PP said, the woman in this article seemed to expect or demand it. That's different.

juliebug1997

I still have the card my dad gave my mom when I was born. :)That's so sweet.  I agree though on not turning it down but I still wouldn't expect it or demand it of Bill.  Although the washer/dryer I am looking at wouldn't be unwelcomed either.  :-)  When that time comes.

shananagins

While I wouldn't expect anything, and wouldn't really want D to spend $ on something extravagant, I can see where a classic piece of jewelry or art would be something nice that would always remind you of that day.  Just like now my sapphire earrings will always remind me of our wedding because they were my wedding gift from D.  That said, if D spent a pile of $ on  LV diaper bag our child would be fatherless :-)

Jessicaanne_1

I "endured" 25 hours of labor followed by an emergency c-section. I went to sleep and woke the next morning when they brought my monkey from the nursery. All I really wanted was some more sleep and something to eat. They wouldn't give me any food just liquid. Beef broth to be exact, I am a vegetarian. My sister smuggled some starbucks coffee past the nurse that was good enough for me. The last thing on my mind was "feel glamorous" 

emimayor

I don't see a problem with this, however I do see an issue with the mother "expecting" a gift. My sister received a "push" gift after their daughter was born. My BIL gave her the Kate Spade baby bag she had been eyeing, but certainly wasn't expecting. Also, when both of my nephews were born my brother gave my SIL a ring, one of each of their son's birth stones. I've heard about "push" gifts several times, from various friend and/or family members.