Food Habits

S6ix

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[QUOTE]If I ate meat, that'd be a breach of trust and I would not feel comfortable with that. To be fair, he gave up smoking. That was a non-negotiable for me. 
Posted by cfarmer2[/QUOTE]



Smoking is incontrovertibly bad for one's health, though, whereas eating meat and seafood, in moderate quantities, is not. Actually, going vegetarian without knowing how to get a balanced diet is pretty unhealthy.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]Maybe the smell? ETA: I mean why he might not like fish cooked in the house.
Posted by S6ix[/QUOTE]

My husband hates the smell of brussel sprouts.  Says they smell like hot, rank farts.  Does he forbid me to cook them?  Of course not. 

Then again he knows better... I do what I want

cfarmer2

Well, we'll have a talk about it tonight. Thank you everyone for your input. I appreciate your responses. 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]If I ate meat, that'd be a breach of trust and I would not feel comfortable with that. To be fair, he gave up smoking. That was a non-negotiable for me. 
Posted by cfarmer2[/QUOTE]


................sigh

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]If I ate meat, that'd be a breach of trust and I would not feel comfortable with that. To be fair, he gave up smoking. That was a non-negotiable for me. 
Posted by cfarmer2[/QUOTE]

But how is it a breach of trust? You eating meat isn't him eating meat.

S6ix

My FI hates Brussels sprouts too. I love them. I cook them with the windows open. Compromise!

VeggieLove1022

I'm sorry, it sounds like you're in a terribly controlling relationship based on this post. An adult should be able to tell the difference in quitting smoking and making a lifestyle choice for someone else. So he quit and made you quit something you loved just so you'd both be equal?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]My FI hates Brussels sprouts too. I love them. I cook them with the windows open. Compromise!
Posted by S6ix[/QUOTE]

Haha, winning!

KateJ10

OH, and to answer the question: the only real compromise is that I end up cooking more than I did when I was single, because H seems to think Culvers and Frozen Pizza are perfect and healthy for most meals, and I don't want him eating that shite all the time.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Food Habits : This is kind of off topic, but how come fish isn't considered a meat? It's a dead animal,right? Is it because it's not red and bloody like a giant steak? I'm truly curious since I consider all animal flesh to be meat.
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]

I think it's kind of common. My friend is a vegetarian but still eats fish.  Maybe because it's a lighter meat? I have no idea.

VeggieLove1022

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Food Habits : This is kind of off topic, but how come fish isn't considered a meat? It's a dead animal,right? Is it because it's not red and bloody like a giant steak? I'm truly curious since I consider all animal flesh to be meat.
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]

<div>Health vegetarians usually eat fish. Red meat's apparently the downfall of our society according to some. </div><div>
</div><div>Ethical vegetarians usually don't because they see it the same as you. </div>

pirategal03

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Food Habits : Yes, I think this advice fits our situation well. I fully understand for some people that it is a deal breaker, but for me it wasn't. I'm just not sure how to incorporate <strong>ANY </strong>of what I like into the mix. I think the stir fry suggestion above was a nice idea as well. Thank you. 
Posted by cfarmer2[/QUOTE]

FTFY.

Am I reading this right that you've come to us with a problem that your FI doesn't "allow" you to consume something that you enjoy, and you want us to suggest ways you can incorporate that thing you enjoy against his wishes?

Him REQUIRING you to become a veg is just as ridiculous as you force-feeding him a steak at every meal. 

Wiscisbliss

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[QUOTE]OH, and to answer the question: the only real compromise is that I end up cooking more than I did when I was single, because H seems to think Culvers and Frozen Pizza are perfect and healthy for most meals, and I don't want him eating that shite all the time.
Posted by KateJ10[/QUOTE]

<div>Are we married to the same man?</div>

LesPaul

Mandatory?  No.
DH is a picky eater, so sometimes I make food that he doesn't care for.  I eat it; he doesn't.  Magic.

JenGin74

I think if either of you give up anything, it should be because you WANT to, not because it's a relationship deal-breaker. That's pretty much like blackmail. Not a good foundation for a realtionship.

RupertPenny

I think it was kind of shitty for you to mandate that he stop smoking too. So, um, good luck with your wedding!

KateJ10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Food Habits : Are we married to the same man?
Posted by Wiscisbliss[/QUOTE]

<div>We just might be :)</div>

Smash Adams

People who eat fish only (to the exclusion of other meat) are pescatarians, technically, not vegetarians.

Vegetarians don't eat fish either.

At least, this is my understanding.

VeggieLove1022

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[QUOTE]People who eat fish only (to the exclusion of other meat) are pescatarians, technically, not vegetarians. Vegetarians don't eat fish either. At least, this is my understanding.
Posted by Smash Adams[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, this is true. Many people just group all of them together. </div><div>
</div><div>When I first went veg I read a lot and *if I remember correctly* there's actually no such thing as just a vegetarian. (And please someone correct me if I'm wrong)</div><div>
</div><div>You have the pescatarian, ovo-lacto vegetarian, and vegan. There is no vegetarian, but they all get grouped under it. </div>

celticmyss

One of the reasons I have heard people use regarding fish is that there is a belief that fish don't feel pain, therefore they don't suffer. However, I am pretty sure a study came out recently that debunked this. 

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]One of the reasons I have heard people use regarding fish is that there is a belief that fish don't feel pain, therefore they don't suffer. However, I am pretty sure a study came out recently that debunked this. 
Posted by celticmyss[/QUOTE]

Wella nd a lot of people are vegetarians for the "green" effect too right?  Fish don't add bad things to the atmosphere? (Please correct me if I'm wrong)

arwo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Food Habits : Wella nd a lot of people are vegetarians for the "green" effect too right?  Fish don't add bad things to the atmosphere? (Please correct me if I'm wrong)
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I have a "pescatarian" friend that eats seafood but no other meat--she does it because (if you eat the right fish) the environmental impact is small, at least compared to other meat.</div>

VeggieLove1022

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[QUOTE]Thanks for the info Smash, Veggie, and Celt. I don't have beef (tee-hee) with what vegetarians eat, I just thought the terminology was strange if they still ate animals.
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]

<div>I see what you did there.</div>

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Food Habits : Yeah, I have a "pescatarian" friend that eats seafood but no other meat--she does it because (if you eat the right fish) the environmental impact is small, at least compared to other meat.
Posted by arwo[/QUOTE]

How do some fish have a higher environmental impact than others? 

Edited for clarity

VeggieLove1022

Depends on how many fish can be caught per boat. How long the boat has to be out. How much processing the fish needs and if the processing plants are close or far away which contributes to gas. Hardcore environmentalist know all this stuff and keep up with it regularly. 

RupertPenny

It also has to do with where the fish are on the food chain. Those near the top of the food chain are less sustainable to eat because it takes so much energy for them to grow and they usually take longer to reproduce.

A little fish that eats plants is only one step away from getting energy from the sun (via the plant). A shark that eats a tuna that ate a bunch of medium sized fish that ate a ton of little fish that ate plants that grew from solar energy is much more removed from the original energy source, therefore requiring more energy overall to make it to your plate.

ETA: This is also a big reason why people think it is more environmentally friendly to eat plants instead of animals. The plants get energy directly from the sun and we can get it from the plants. But if we eat animals they they first have to convert the energy from a lot of plants that convert it from sunlight.

I don't totally by this line of thinking myself, (not the chain of energy, that is obvious, but the belief that we should never eat animals just because they are higher in the food chain) but I know it is a part of the "greeness" or being vegetarian. It isn't just because of the cow farts.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]Chels, some fish are farmed. I don't know everything about it, but I'm assuming fish farming isn't always very eco-friendly.
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]

Ah gotcha. I didn't think about fish farms. That makes sense.

returner23015

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Food Habits : She didn't agree to the food! That was a hard limit! :)
Posted by Matty143[/QUOTE]
ROFLMAO!!

mbuckley85

FI is less picky than he was when we first started living together.  I cook food and put it in front of him and he eats it whether it is his favorite food or not.  The compromise is, if I cook it, he eats it (or he doesn't eat, or he makes something for himself, yeah right).  Even if I make squash or sweet potatoes (he doesn't like either), he will still eat it.  

The only real food rules we have in the house are these...

1.) If I take the time to season the meat with something, you are not to put ketchup on it...unless it is a hamburger.

2.) Organic milk only please (either 1% or skim...I prefer 1% and he prefers skim).

JessieBride11

Also try to find a way of cooking things that he likes so you like them more.  I was never a big fish eater but he likes to make fish so I had him try a bunch of different ways and now we have a few go-to recipes that I like.

But I agree, get a few pans u can cook seafood with, and make it the nights he isn't home or in things like pasta, stir fry, etc.