Nobody complains about her fiance... (vent)

TheShelley

Is mine the only one who does really crazy things?  Mine just "forgot" an appointment we had to meet with a vendor on Monday (we've been trying to set something up for 3 weeks).  He scheduled something else, and doesn't understand why I'm ticked.  Now he has to cancel his new plans and blame me (of course!). 

What does yours do?

TheShelley

I guess because he forgot or disregarded our plans in the first place?

dtbluv

I don't like to complain about FI in public forums because usually if I'm annoyed I'm either a) overreacting or b) know that people will agree with me which will only fan my flames of rage and make me more mad than I ought to be.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]I guess because he forgot or disregarded our plans in the first place?
Posted by TheShelley[/QUOTE]

I gotta say my H and I have been together for 9 years and he forgets things or is late. We've had at length talks about this, and he tries really hard.

But what really helps is he keeps things in his calendar on his phone. No he shouldnt be mad at you for making another appointment, but this is something you need to talk about rather than being mad.

Things are always going to come up, it's all in how you handle it.

TheShelley

I get it.  I guess I didn't consider this a very serious "rant".  It is amazing what people will say on these boards about their in-laws, mothers, sisters, etc...  I guess it just kind of occurred to me that brides complain about all of those people and not the grooms!

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nobody complains about her fiance... (vent) : This is why I have to use alerts in my iPhone.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

This. My H is SO busy at work, he usually has to check his outlook calendar before he can deal with anything else. But if it's related to home he uses his alerts.

But also as JCB said, if your FI really isnt into it, pick and choose what he really NEEDS to be involved in. Ask what he would like to put input on with WR stuff, the rest let it go. Men most the time dont get into the details.

H only had a few things he really wanted, the rest I did by myself.

TiffanyT816

I've kept my FI only involved in whats he wants to be included in from a wedding planning perspective. He didn't care about lots of the details that I care about. And when I wanted his opinion, I only give him 2 or 3 choices...makes it easier on both of us.

TheShelley

This is actually the venue HE wants. 

artbyallie

Some people are just forgetful. I can tell H three weeks out, remind him at 2 weeks, again at 1, again a few days before, again the day before, and he STILL will not remember what we're doing when I'm telling him to get dressed for whatever it is.

TheShelley

And then complain about being reminded over and over? 

We can't win!

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]And then complain about being reminded over and over?  :) We can't win!
Posted by TheShelley[/QUOTE]

Then tell him if he wants to see this venue, he can make the arrangements.

Sometimes it's just easier,then he can blame no one but himself.

bunni727

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[QUOTE]I get it.  I guess I didn't consider this a very serious "rant".  It is amazing what people will say on these boards about their in-laws, mothers, sisters, etc...  I guess it just kind of occurred to me that brides complain about all of those people and not the grooms!
Posted by TheShelley[/QUOTE]

Ah, but we chose our grooms. Family? not so much.

H is incredibly forgetful. We put a calendar by the door that he looks at as he leaves for work in the morning. This way, he only has to remember things for a day, and he can usually handle that.

SJM7538

Fiance hates walking outside to put stuff in the recycling bin so all I ask is that he leave the recyclables on the counter next to the sink and I will take care of them. Yet I am constantly picking stuff out of the trash and putting it in the recycling bin.

BUT... he has this pre-workout drink mixture that he takes before he works out and he leaves the empty packets on the counter instead of throwing them in the trash.

DRIVES ME NUTS!

MrsGandthebeag

He puts his dirty clothes NEXT to the hamper, not in it.  Drives me cray cray.  

aquari0216

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[QUOTE]Is mine the only one who does really crazy things?  Mine just "forgot" an appointment we had to meet with a vendor on Monday (we've been trying to set something up for 3 weeks).  He scheduled something else, and doesn't understand why I'm ticked.  Now he has to cancel his new plans and blame me (of course!).  What does yours do?
Posted by TheShelley[/QUOTE]


Oh don't worry...i cancel our wedding every other day....

lovelybride614

LOL @ aquari0216. Me too!

Wife Kitty

LOL! Mine puts clothes right on top of the hamper. Usually he tells me that it's because the pants or shirt "may be worn again" the next day because they aren't that dirty or they weren't worn very long.

Do you think he ever really does wear the stuff the next day?

Nah. Maybe one time out of every ten, at most.

A similar phenomenon occurs with dishes being left in the sink, SO CLOSE to the dishwasher.

And Harry, I pretty much choked with laughter reading your comment about "the worst pinatas ever made." That made my afternoon.

lauralaur

I used to find H's change all over the house, then last year at Christmas I got a piggy bank in the Yankee Swap. I announced that from then on, all change left lying around the house for me to clean up was mine to keep. Suddenly, I don't find change lying around anymore. Apparently that 75 cents really mattered to him.

So I managed to solve one of the eight million I-don't-understand-why-you-can't-push-the-drawer-two-additional-inches-so-it's-actually-closed-type things.

embreen

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[QUOTE]LOL! Mine puts clothes right on top of the hamper. Usually he tells me that it's because the pants or shirt "may be worn again" the next day because they aren't that dirty or they weren't worn very long. Do you think he ever really does wear the stuff the next day? Nah. Maybe one time out of every ten, at most. A similar phenomenon occurs with dishes being left in the sink, SO CLOSE to the dishwasher. And Harry, I pretty much choked with laughter reading your comment about "the worst pinatas ever made." That made my afternoon.
Posted by Wife Kitty[/QUOTE]

<div>omg my fiance and i are currently in a mexican stand off with dishes and laundry, im sick of always doing it and he claims he washes the dishes and does the laundry too (lies!) so i have refused to do laundry or dishes and its just been piling up, im hoping his ocd will get to him before i get sick of living in a pig pen</div>