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warpedredpenguin

Well, this IS the Snarky Brides Board. 

I don't think it means what you think it means. 

jennylee813

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[QUOTE]I think you guys are the snarky ones honestly because i have been told that i am one of the most chilled out brides ever so maybe look in the mirror... are you guys telling your girls what to wear ummmm i think you are i just want them all to be comfortable and thats that it is just my MOH who had an issue with it and guess what she will dea
Posted by Mbecker912[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Are you f-ing kidding me???</div><div>
</div><div>You're throwing a Schit-fit over your sister wanting to wear <strong>heels</strong> (read: APPROPRIATE) footwear to your wedding, instead of footwear that belongs ummm ... maybe on the beach or at the supermarket, and we're the ones with the problems? </div><div>
</div><div>Edie, I'm betting their matching updos are already booked, their matchy-matchy necklace and earring sets are picked out and their Stepford make up is ready to roll.</div>

jcg23

It is a new thing I think it's all the tv shows and soon to be brides feeling entitlement to get whatever they want it's THEIR day, first off people take time out of their day(s) to prepare for it, you should give them some liway. I don't really care what a girl wears but I would suggest they wear shoes they could stand hours in unless they want to be barefoot but otherwise it's thier choice. Heck if a girl wanted to be barefoot as long as it's not against any health codes (since some of it is indoors) I don't care. And if it's a big  deal why don't you comprimise she doesn't wear them in the pictures? But if you want them to wear certain shoes (especially ugly ones) it is indeed your obligation to pay for it.  

B2Z728

Whew, glad i'm not the only one who just doesn't get the whole wearing TOMS at a wedding thing. 

And REALLY? You don't care what she wears for the ceremony and photos but she must wear them for the reception? Do you plan on following her around all day/night arguing with her about shoes on your wedding day? You don't think you'll have better and more fun things to do? 

kmmssg

hmm. if my sister demanded I wear Toms at her reception  but could wear the heels of my choosing for the wedding, there would be an unfortunate accident between my Toms and a glass of punch. Oops, sorry about that sis.

ConKFA319

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[QUOTE]I'm not, actually. I gave my BM's a color palette with FIVE COLORS and told them to choose a dress they loved and would wear again in any of those five colors. And I wouldn't think to dictate their footwear other than letting them know the formality level of the event. Oh, and just so you know, my bridal party consists of my two sisters and my two future sisters in law. I'm looking in the mirror and seeing that there are a few chilled out brides present. You aren't among them. Lastly, use grammar and punctuation when you post and please lay off the phrases like "look in the mirror." It'll make you seem a lot more mature if you aren't butchering the English language like a rebellious and sullen teenager.
Posted by coopergirl15[/QUOTE]

<div>All of this. I told my BMs that I wanted them in purple. Everything else was up to them. I also PROVIDED them with jewelry for the day of, and pashminas, since it was March and would likely be cold. IF they chose to wear them, great. If not, that's fine, too. As far as shoes went, I said that I was THINKING that maybe silver would look nice with their dresses, but that the decision was up to them, since said shoes would be on THEIR feet and they should wear whatever they felt comfortable in. It ended up that all 3 of my BMs wore silver shoes (mostly because two of them already had them and the third just used it as an excuse to expand her legendary shoe collection), but if they hadn't, that would have been fine, too. I certainly wouldn't have thrown a hissy fit about something so minor.

I'm looking in the mirror right now, and all I'm seeing is someone who didn't alienate her bridesmaids simply because it was (supposedly) her RIGHT to. Grow up.</div><div>
</div><div>Edited for clarity.</div>

mcda04

OP, where did your sister buy her 7in stillettos? Do you have a picture of them? I'd love me some "hooker heels"

I wear super high heels everyday and if my sister called my precious shoes hooker shoes, and demanded I'd wear ugly Toms, I'd go barefoot at the reception. I don't understand why she HAS to wear stupid Toms. Those shoes are overrated, they have no place at a wedding. I'd probably buy them for my 7 year old daughter but she's a kid.

ConKFA319

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[QUOTE]OP, where did your sister buy her 7in stillettos? Do you have a picture of them? I'd love me some "hooker heels" I wear super high heels everyday and if my sister called my precious shoes hooker shoes, and demanded I'd wear ugly Toms,<strong> I'd go barefoot at the reception. </strong>I don't understand why she HAS to wear stupid Toms. Those shoes are overrated, they have no place at a wedding. I'd probably buy them for my 7 year old daughter but she's a kid.
Posted by mcda04[/QUOTE]

<div>I'd wear Crocs. </div>

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]so I asked my bridesmaids what they thought and if hey really wanted to wear the toms and how the MOH was against it and all of them said they wanted to wear them and that they were looking forward to it so i am just going to tell my sister to suck it up a\she can wear the shoes of her choice at the cermony but for oics and the reception she will awear the toms and thats that 
Posted by Mbecker912[/QUOTE]
You are a terrible person.

mcda04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: ... : I'd wear Crocs. 
Posted by ConKFA319[/QUOTE]
Yeah I like this idea better. Or any idea that would MORTIFY the bride the most.

ConKFA319

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: ... : Yeah I like this idea better. Or any idea that would MORTIFY the bride the most.
Posted by mcda04[/QUOTE]

<div>I think these are good choices:

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mcda04

+1000

jennylee813

The hairy feet shoes get my vote. Black (hair) goes with everything.

ConKFA319

*Curtseys*

Not gonna lie, I'd rock those third ones in a second.

brittany634

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Am I being snarky :   well you arent going to dance all night in 7" heels so instead of taking off her shoes she will have a pair of shoes to dance in because i am having one of those fun weddings that people will be dancing all night at 
Posted by Mbecker912[/QUOTE]

People danced all night at my wedding, and almost EVERYONE including me was barefoot by the end of the night!

B2Z728

She said she wanted her bridesmaids to be comfortable. I'd rock some great fuzzy slippers. Now those would be attention getters! 

Or if you're a real party animal:

ConKFA319

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[QUOTE]She said she wanted her bridesmaids to be comfortable. I'd rock some great fuzzy slippers. Now those would be attention getters!  Or if you're a real party animal:
Posted by B2Z728[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, yes, a million times, YES.</div>

brittany634

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[QUOTE]She said she wanted her bridesmaids to be comfortable. I'd rock some great fuzzy slippers. Now those would be attention getters!  Or if you're a real party animal:
Posted by B2Z728[/QUOTE]

I third this!!!

jcg23

Hahahahaha love the slippers!! I fourth this!!! But I am gonna let my bridesmaids know that it will be inside and outside and I suggest they wear flatter shoes so their heels don't stick in the ground but if they wanna wear 7 in. heels i won't stop them. You do realize that a wedding is to announce your love and willingness of commitment to YOUR family and friends. Once again they take time and effort out of their day(s) to be there and it isn't just for YOU. So get of your high horse and learn to relax. It's supposed to be fun, man your wedding is probably gonna be filled with a bunch of debbie downers and nagging nancys. lol

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]are you guys telling your girls what to wear ummmm i think you are
Posted by Mbecker912[/QUOTE]

Not... really. I told them that I'd like them to have fall colors, but they can just choose a color off of their favorite tree. No rules about style, length, et cetera, and they can wear whatever shoes they want if they want to wear shoes. So... no.

Parmelade

OP, I feel bad for you - You came looking for support and got jumped on by a bunch of bullies looking for a scapegoat.  I don't think your post warranted the abuse you've gotten.  Good luck!

Mbecker912

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[QUOTE]OP, I feel bad for you - You came looking for support and got jumped on by a bunch of bullies looking for a scapegoat.  I don't think your post warranted the abuse you've gotten.  Good luck!
Posted by Parmelade[/QUOTE]
Thank you and yeah i actually found another board on another site that said something just about these girls in the "snarky brode" form it is the same 5 women that have nothing better to do but talk to eachother si i found support with normal women that arent acting like high school girlsl

Dreamergirl8812

Parmelade I don't think you know what "scapegoat" means.

And MBecker, they aren't the "snarky brode form" girls they are the Etiquette Board women. Show some respect. They only dabble on the snarky board. And if you ever need help I'm a literacy tutor for adults. Seriously though, I am:

http://www.sandiego.gov/public-library/services/outreach/read/index.shtml

And when you're both done licking your wounds, spend some time lurking. You'll learn a lot, I did.

Parmelade

Dreamergirl,  

I can see why you think I used the word scapegoat incorrectly.  It's true that it is usually used to refer to one that bears the blame for others.  However, it is also used to refer to one that is the object of irrational hostility and that is the definition I was using in my post.  

Have a great day!