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October 2013 Weddings
Stina51286
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BMs
So I am just wondering if any of you 10/2013 brides have asked anyone to stand up in your wedding? I know people are waiting for me to say who I want, some I know depending on certain circumstances, and the other I have no idea what to do. Basically my sister and my FI's sister are getting married next Aug and Sept. Well bothwant to start families, however, if you do the math, if they get prego somewhere around Dec/Jan maybe even Nov they could be due with in weeks, at, or shortly after my wedding, therefore I have not even asked them as I have two yrs to go and want to see what happens with them. I just don't want to ask them and find out that they are due right around our wedding and then be like oh crap now what do I do. Another thing that irritates me about his sister is that she thinks that just because she is his only sister, that she is entitled to be in our wedding (is this right?) I don't feel like because im going to be her SIL that I should be entitled to be in hers (since she doesn't have any sisters).
Anywho, my next hardest decision is to either pick between two friends or ask a cousin or my brother's gf. One friend lives about 2 hours away, however, every time ive needed her she was there. The other lives in the same town but we've had a couple issues and she doesn't even seem one bit happy for me that im getting married (and I know its bc she has been with her bf for almost 6 yrs and has a child with him, but their relationship has been bad the last yr and finally getting better). She still has not even asked me anything about our wedding such as the date or anything like that. This second friend would also be very upset with me if I didnt ask her to be a BM since we are such "best friends" even though I have been friends with this other girl longer.
Now do I just say screw the whole friend thing and just have family or do I wait and see since I have time how the friendships pan out? I don't want more then three ppl for each side (if I wanted 4 this would not be a problem) but the church is small so I want to keep the wedding party small.
Advise, opinions, ideas on what everyone else is doing! Thanks!
Anywho, my next hardest decision is to either pick between two friends or ask a cousin or my brother's gf. One friend lives about 2 hours away, however, every time ive needed her she was there. The other lives in the same town but we've had a couple issues and she doesn't even seem one bit happy for me that im getting married (and I know its bc she has been with her bf for almost 6 yrs and has a child with him, but their relationship has been bad the last yr and finally getting better). She still has not even asked me anything about our wedding such as the date or anything like that. This second friend would also be very upset with me if I didnt ask her to be a BM since we are such "best friends" even though I have been friends with this other girl longer.
Now do I just say screw the whole friend thing and just have family or do I wait and see since I have time how the friendships pan out? I don't want more then three ppl for each side (if I wanted 4 this would not be a problem) but the church is small so I want to keep the wedding party small.
Advise, opinions, ideas on what everyone else is doing! Thanks!
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