October 2013 Weddings

Totally stressed out!!!!

So this is kind of a long, let out some stress type post. I apologize in advance!
My fiance and I met in Orlando, and we have lived there, together, for the past two years. I had been planning our wedding since we got engaged last April. After making deposits on both the caterer and the venue, meeting with the florist, securing the music for the ceremony (which thankfully didnt need a deposit), and finding an amazing officiant who we really connected with, I got a request from my mother that I really couldnt refuse. (I was raised in a really tight-knit family, that I know would do anything and everything for me and My mother is my best friend.) She wants me to come back home, because my grandmother, who I am also extremely close with, is slipping away mentally, not eating, and is just not who she used to be. After talking about it with my fiance, we decided to move back to where I grew up so that I can assist my family.
As you can imagine, I had to cancel the whole wedding I had planned in Orlando, and I now have to plan an entirely new one in a little over 9 months.
The idea of that is extremely overwhelming, and I guess I could just use a few words of encouragement or just some reassurance that it can be done? I dont even know where to start.
Oh and to top it off, all of the money I put down on deposits was non-refundable. So that cut my total budget down by about $2,000. Frown
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Re: Totally stressed out!!!!

  • You totally have this. Just remember some people plan weddings in as little as 3-6 months. You have a little over 9 months. Like PP said, enlist your FI and now your mom since she was the one who asked you to move back in the first place.

     

  • You can totally do it!  Remember that lull in planning that other posters were talking about a few days ago?  You have the opportunity to catch up, and since you have already started planning your Orlando wedding, you know exactly what you are looking for in this new wedding!  cut the initial confusion and stress out and you will be fine.  Good luck and keep us updated!!!

  • Hey Ponz - You do have this.  

    First - It's incredibly selfless of you and FI to head back to your home to help support your family.  I see two things...1.) your family loves you and needs you right now.  We don't choose or control the lives around us and sometimes our loved ones just plain need us.  2.) you have an incredibly supportive FI.  I think putting family first is talked about and easy advice to give but living it takes a lot of courage because it's a commitment that doesn't always have a luxury of time or money.  Kudos! 

    Second -  Call your vendors, explain and see if they will work with you on refunds.  If not, cut and move on.  I hold monetary grudges and kick myself for "wasted" money all the time but it's not healthy.  Know what you can work with, forget what you cannot get back and truck forward.  Enlist FI, mom and anyone whos willing to address an envelope, stamp a card, help put together a website or willing to just go with you to an appointment.  You may be surprised by who is willing to do what to help you out and be apart of this huge step in your life.  Also - when you get the help, be thankful and appreciative.  

    Last - relax/breathe/meditate/throw snowballs when you get there.  Truly.  You DO have plenty of time.  Make sure you stay sane because like PP said, the reason for the stress is significant.  

    Best of luck and if you need advice at 3 am or need more words just post. 
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  • Thanks ladies! I've totally got this! haha. I am pretty sure I found my venue today! :D
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