October 2013 Weddings

Missing important people here!!

 This should be the happiest day of my life that we are planning. I have looked at my future husband and thought OMG I am sooo lucky to have this man being coming my husband. And that has just been today. I am marring this wonderful man that we have had an amazing wild fire of a relationship. We met back in January of 12 online and by late march early April we were living together. I have 2 kids and he has 2 kids.. We have made it work out so well that we have lived together all this time and have not had any fights or arugments at all.. We have open communitcation straight across the board!  So what missing you might ask. My mother was killed 17 years ago coming this march in a head on collison by a Drunk Driver. My father just passed away this Feb 2012. So I wont have my parents there to see this. I have to admit I feel lucky because this is my second marriage and my father walked me down the aisle with my first marriage. But I know he would have had issues with me marring my prince charming cause my father to say the least was racist. I dont see color at all when I meet people. It is thier personality if I like them or not. but even thought I wanted my parents there. I do have a brother that would walk me down the aisle but I am worried do to some issues that I may not be able to count on him. Nothing really of his own fault, But he does have some mental issues. I have asked my fathers best friend to walk me down and he said that he would. So I am covered but I am worried about hurting my brothers feelings in the end.

Re: Missing important people here!!

  • The walking you down the aisle thing isn't mandatory for a wedding. It's symbolic and if the symbolism isn't there for you in a living person maybe you should carry a candle representing your parents guidance instead of searching to fill the "position" by any ol joe. It's a much better way to honor your parents and not disappoint your siblings. And if you didn't see race you wouldn't think of your fathers disapproval especially since I get the idea that you are still inspired to please them LOL
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  • Goldencitydream,
     You know I haven't thought of the candle.. That is a very good Idea, and when I had mentioned about me not seeing color that has nothing to do with what I still think of my father approval or not. Meaning I have gone against him before and I knew that what I did because I have a latino son who is my world no matter what anyone saids. I just ment it as if my father was alive it might have also caused his absence from my wedding as well, but it wouldnt have caused the emptiness that I feel now not having him around at all. That is what I ment to come across. And in all honesty every one that loves thier parents wants them to be proud. But not for the race but for the person that I have come to know and love and to know that thier daughter has found that one person who makes her life a wonderful joy to wake up to every morning, besides my kiddos.
  • Good for you!

    My FI and I are also a mixed racial couple too and both of our families are southern and country lol so I get the initial racial "WTF" from each side of the families lol.

     I love the walking down the aisle with a candle idea. It lets your parents still be a part of the procession without someone having to represent them.
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  • Well I love the candle Idea! Infact was just looking online and I found one that would work very well for that.. So I have to say Thank you so much for the Idea! And I am glad that it is not only my dad's side... LOL. I hope that you have a wonderful day and also a wonderful marriage!!

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