Ring Advice/Vent

KimandT

Our wedding is officially less than 11 months away, and I'm having ring issues drama! I always knew I wanted my late grandmother's wedding ring...and I was thrilled to actually get it!  However, owning an antique ring is proving to be a lot of heartache.  It turns out, the head of the main prong is cracked on both sides, from being hit with the wedding band for years.  The band is also significantly worn (much more so than the band, for some reason) from every day wear for 40+ years.  The ring is in reasonably precarious condition, but the jeweler said it will last for a little while.  Long story short, I have no choice but to reset the heirloom ring (both engagement ring and wedding band) I always wanted.

I am having a hard time accepting the fact that I will need to get a new setting for my ring.  I feel like I am doing my grandmother injustice!  I have decided that I will use the gold from the original e-ring and band to make a right hand ring, but I still keep feeling like I should try harder to fix the original setting.  We are now under the 11 month mark, and I can't procrastinate any more! I'd love some words of support so I don't feel like I am tarnishing my grandmother's memory by getting rid of her ring.

Thanks!

cdbishop

Although it is unfortunate the band of the rings are in that condition, I do not think you are tarnishing your grandmother's memory at all by getting it reset.  You are still using the ring and wearing it in her memory.  If anything you are making it last even longer now as if it is in the condition that the band can not be fixed it may become worse and you wouldn't even be able to use it. 

meganb1977

You're honoring your grandmother's memory by giving her rings new life :-)

cgyvhu

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[QUOTE]You're honoring your grandmother's memory by giving her rings new life :-)
Posted by meganb1977[/QUOTE]

I agree with this completely!

mybestfriend4eva

I will actually be using my moms wedding band. She passed away a few years ago from MS. I am having to redo her ring as well and went through the same emotional issues you are. Ive even gone as far as we are getting married on what would have been her birthday. I cried for months over this and finally just came to grips with it and I now truly believe that she would just be honored that I am wearing her ring and as PP mentioned giving her ring new life with a new love and a new lifetime of memories for it to be a part of! My dad and FI were very helpful in getting past this so talk to your family they will help to be your rock!!! Good luck and I hope I helped some. If you need anything or just need to vent feel free to PM me any time! My thoughts and prayers are with you.

KimandT

Thanks everyone for your kind words!  I know if she were here my grandmother would be supportive, but it just stinks to have to take the rings apart!  I appreciate your support :-)

jtmh2012

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[QUOTE]Thanks everyone for your kind words!  I know if she were here my grandmother would be supportive, but it just stinks to have to take the rings apart!  I appreciate your support :-)
Posted by KimandT[/QUOTE]

I know this wasn't your original plan, but what about getting married with these rings and then keeping them somewhere safe and then buying another ring to wear on a daily basis.  Not ideal, but you wouldn't have to alter the original rings.