this is long and i plan to DD after. sorry to vent

i2012do

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jjolovich

Wow, in my opinion that is really childish that she started crying because your mom spilled the beans. If it was supposed to be a surprise the invite should have said so.

I am super sorry that your fun day was ruined with having to wait on your bm and try to make it all better. Accidents happen, put on your big girl panties and deal with it. So I don't think your in the wrong at all, especially when your mom had no clue it was a surprise.

ChristineNB

You mom didn't do anything wrong, she had no idea it was a surprise.  Your bridesmaid sounds super sensitive, did she/your mom do somethign to each other previously to cause bad blood between them?

Sorry your fun day of trying out dresses was tarnished by this.  You don't sound like a bridesilla, you just sound like someone that was trying to make the best situation of a mess.

i2012do

Ya. IT was just my bridesmaids and my mom. My mom really wanted to come so that she could see the style of dress.. She had asked that from before.

@christine- there was nothing between them before. They actually have only met probably 10 or 15 times over teh yearsin social situations (ie college graduation, coming to visit in college, my friensd wedding, etc)

I know that she thinks my mom is critical and sometimes judgemental. And she didn't grow up with a mom like that (lucky her). I think my mom is like a lot of moms I know. so maybe she felt like it was stressful my mom was coming? That my mom was going to be critical of her, since her mom thinks everything she does is amazing and never criticizes her-- so she isnt used to that...?

bmetz34

I didn't see the original post, but coming from a controlling/critical mom, I can say some of my friends that hear me vent about it do feel a little over-protective of me.  That being said, it seems like someone might have been a little oversensitive.