Delegating

bmetz34

   I am a self proclaimed control freak, and have enjoyed doing lots of projects myself since we havehad an 18-month engagement.  But, after all the effort I put into planning and DIY projects, and booking the honeymoon, I've finally delegated something to FI.  I told him to find some travel insurance, with hurricaine coverage- since we're doing carribean in August.  I was starting to feel a little burnt out on the honeymoon front after battling our TA for a bit, so he accepted the challenge!
 
  Anyone else delegate tasks to FI, or ask for help from loved ones?  I'm sure further down the road my sisters and mom will help with addressing invitations or putting favors together...

calindi

FI is useless with all wedding related things.  My Mom is amazingly helpful, and I did delegate flowers to her entirely - I sent along some inspiration pictures, but to be honest, it's not something that I have an exact vision of and my Mom is really good with that stuff, so I'm happy to give her something to 'control'. 

My Dad said he'd help with the cutting-and-folding-and-assembling that will be required of our invitations.  I won't let FI near it.  He'll fold things off-center, do things half-assed.  Sometimes I feel like he screws things up so he won't be asked to do anything!

Anyway, it's all mostly planned and done.  I know my FMIL won't do jack for the rehearsal dinner, so I have to plan that, but it should be fairly straight forward.  I still have to plan the day-after bbq & kickball game and talk to FFIL about transportation.  But yeah, I'm doing it all - they're just paying, which we're incredibly grateful for.

mercy4

FI sets up appointments for me and often comes with. He also does research for me. He does all menu and pricing calls for rehearsal dinner. He's involved and wants to be. It's nice.

tuarceatha

FI and I work through the tasks together. I'm usually the one bringing what we should do next up, but he is 100% involved in process and decision making.

rungirl12

I also have a VERY hard time delegating, but that carries over into all areas of my life.  I always feel like, if you want it done right the first time, do it yourself!

That being said, FI is in charge of asking his men and telling them to buy suits (same price as renting a tux, but more "us").  I am a bit anxious that he has only asked 3 of the 6 and hasn't mentioned the suit to anyone, but realistically we are 6 months out and the suit is as simple as ordering online, & it ships in a normal 7 day time frame.  So even with alterations, they have plenty of time (I keep telling myself this!)

Other than that, FI's parents are providing the rehearsal dinner which they are letting us select (we just want pizza ordered to the rehearsal park).  I am also having a VERY hard time trying to stay out of my shower planning.  I have been a bit pushy about getting a date set because I know people's calendars fill up fast in summer.  The only other thing is that I'm making my cake, as in baking.  My sister is responsible for the frosting/decorating part of that.

RandaW

My FI is about 12hrs away so there is not a whole lot he can do. I gave him the job of doing our wedding website because hes into tech stuff and it's easy for him to do 12 hrs away. There is one other job he is doing really well at, listening! The poor guy listens to me vent all the time like a trooper.  Other than that I completely understand the control freak p.o.v. I want to DIY everything myself but thats really unrealistic. Good luck!

saraschilling88

I have pretty much done all the planning on my own, my FI just says "whatever you want dear" and listens to me if I'm upset.  I have been the one contacting his family (to get him to was requires lots of leg pulling, but I did FINALLY get him to call his grandpa for addresses)!! 

My family has been very helpful, my Mom is a person who I can ask anything, my Aunt is making my cake, my cousin will help me assemble my bouquets and bouts once I find the appropriate silk flowers, and another aunt offered to make my veil!!

FI has decided he will plan the honeymoon, but he is so frugal that I get frustrated when he's taking 3 months to find an airline (he is 100% set that he can fly us to Hawaii on 2 different airlines in 1 day, I doubt his ability on that after seeing flights myself, no offense to him)!!  I know I will end up planning part of it as it is my brother who can get us discount hotel rooms, and FI probably won't want to call..

FI's family hasn't been super involved, although they were "sooo excited" to be a HUGE part of the wedding..

libby2483

I am a bit of a perfectionist, so it is hard for me to delegate.  However, since we are getting married almost three hours away from where we actually live, I've had to delegate some tasks to family members in the area.  My mom found my florist and then we met with her together.  My FI's dad recommended that cupcake baker we ended up going with, and his mom took care of booking the rehearsal dinner.  My FI doesn't have a lot of strong opinins about most things wedding-related, but he will get involved if I ask him to.  He found our DJ, and he also surprisingly had some great opinions about our cupcakes!