Stressed out just venting I guess

Slider_852000

I am 5 and a half months away from my wedding day and I just keep thinking about how I have so much I still need to buy and need to find my bakery for my cake and decide on musicians or just having the dj at the ceremony, on this i just want the Dj to get it done and save mom money but she wants to look around and get musicians. Just trying to get ahold of her to talk about things is hard. Than there is the things I wanted to buy with my tax refund like my toasting flutes and cake knife and server (which I am wondering if i would get as a shower gift anyways, favors and so on but than stuff came up, I guess I just needed to vent I have been planning so long we kept having to push the date back and now I am slacking on somethings  maybe because than it makes it so real, my procrastination is kicking in or just tired of it all. 

tuarceatha

I think we all go through a few rough phases in the planning process. It can be hard working with loved ones to get stuff done, and hard to try to do it all ourselves. I find that writing lists and even writing down how I'm feeling stressed helps me express it in a healthier way to those planning with me. And then another thing gets done and I can check it off the list.

I think it is good to post here because we are all on similar time lines. (168 more days for me!)

libby2483

I agree with PP that we all feel like there is no way everything will ever get done and this whole process seems like more stress than it is worth.  What I would do is make a list of the top three tasks that absolutely need to get done soon.  Focus on just those three things and when they are done, focus on the next three.  That is what I do to avoid getting too overwhelmed with everything on my plate.  Also, don't be afraid to ask your FI or family members for help.  Maybe your FI could be in charge of the music or helping you narrow down bakeries?

VNEluvsAJB

I would start by taking a week off and not thinking about the wedding or planning at all. Maybe you just need a little break.

Then I would make a list of everything that you need to buy, get done, book, diy, etc. It will be a little overwhelming but then you have it all right there. Then go through and highlight the must haves. There were a lot of things on my list that in the grand scheme of things ended up not being uber important. For example, I became obsessive about trying to find the perfect garter and finally realized it's just not that important.

Once you have a list and can get your mom on the phone pick a day when you're both free and see if you can spend the day tackling x,y,&z on the list. I also agree with PP, don't be afraid to delegate some things to your FI.

william+brittney

For toasting glasses and serving items, If you have a hobby lobby around you, go to Hobbylobby.com and sign up for their weekely email. They give you a 40% coupon every week. And since wedding season is not popping right now, they usually have wedding stuff on sale for 50% off. thats where i got my stuff. for $20 each. but be careful hobby lobby is addicting and you'll loose track of time in there.

saraschilling88

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[QUOTE]I am 5 and a half months away from my wedding day and I just keep thinking about how I have so much I still need to buy and need to find my bakery for my cake and decide on musicians or just having the dj at the ceremony, on this i just want the Dj to get it done and save mom money but she wants to look around and get musicians. Just trying to get ahold of her to talk about things is hard. Than there is the things I wanted to buy with my tax refund like my toasting flutes and cake knife and server (which I am wondering if i would get as a shower gift anyways, favors and so on but than stuff came up, I guess I just needed to vent I have been planning so long we kept having to push the date back and now I am slacking on somethings  maybe because than it makes it so real, my procrastination is kicking in or just tired of it all. 
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I have been stressed out too with planning, my MOH/sister has been no help because she's stressed with school, another BM has been saying she will come or do things and then ends up not able to at last minute because she doesn't have the money (or her bf made plans with her), and my other BM/SIL is amazing, but my brother complained to my Mom that I was talking to her too much so that kinda flew out the window..

My FI has been a good shoulder to cry on, maybe ask yours to let you vent.  When I vented to him, he became a lot more involved with the planning and it has actually been a lot less stressful since then! 

Good luck!!

lasheffield

If you haven't created your to do list yet, I would recommend that you print off the list provided on this website.  The site tells you what you should being doing and by what date.  I printed a copy and added my extras to the list.  I have a binder  (I never leave home without) that I keep all my papers pertaining to the wedding.  I've found that this keeps me on track and there is NOTHING greater than checking off an item on this list.

Oriental Trading is another good site to get wedding items really cheap.

Good luck!