selfish vent

i2012do

i know this is really selfish. But fiance's cousin who just got married last june  is pregant (well his wife is pregant). I have my own opinions already on their pregnancy (they are still in school and he has to give up a full scholrship to medical school ebcuse she wants to stay close to her mom when the baby is born etc...) but that is my personal opinion about education and having stable finances but that is really how I feel like my life should be before we have kids and I don't preach that on anyone else.

Besides my personal feelings on it. They are due a week before our wedding.
They didn't call us or telll us about the preganacy until we received a "webcast" invite for a "gender reveal" (insert eye rolling) that has 145 people on the invite to this webcast gender reveal. That was when we found out they were preg.

his cousin is one of the closest people in his family and also was a reader at our wedding.

they have yet to acknowledge that they wont be attending and i know they havea lot going on. but i feel like it would be common courtesy to have called us to share in the good news and tell us personally they cant make the wedding.

And also they have invited everyone to their house the weekend of our wedding (their house is in CA i live in RI) for a "welcome home baby" luncheon. With no acknolwdement to us that its the same wekeend

this is all very selfish of me to complain about
but i want to stand up to them and scream CAN WE HAVE OUR LIFE MOMENT STOP RAINING ON OUR PARADE WTF. YOU ALREADY HAD YOUR WEDDING DAY AND WE DIDINT BOTHER YOU ABOUT IT OR HOST EVENTS ON THE SAME DAY ACROSS THE COUNTRY!!

ok vent over.

i2012do

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[QUOTE]I just can't get over that they planned a brunch for this unborn baby a week later!!  Do they get that babies don't always come when "schedule", and that her vagine will have been torn apart and she'll still be healing and not sleeping, and that you don't want everyone you know to touch your baby while it has no immune system?? I would just be rolling my eyes til they fell out of my head!
Posted by bmetz34[/QUOTE]



This is where I think the age thing comes into play
And the fact that people are instead of using their vacation times to come out gre for a wedding n beach vacation but are now offering to help the new mom and dad is really generous but as my mom pointed out probably not their first choice and is out of obligation..l I'm sure they'd rather be lying on a beach than helping tie care of a newborn

i2012do

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: selfish vent : So having said that, your wedding will only be "important" if those specific people come? You get to marry FI! How much more important can that, alone, be? Just think of it this way, if they are annoying enough to do something like this on your wedding weekend, then its not worth waiting for/wanting their acknoledgement of their absence.
Posted by mtishawt[/QUOTE]



I mean it feels like to us t seems that his family doesn't hold our wedding with te same importance they held theirs etc. tipoff us and my family it's obvisously a huge important event, the most important to me

Also I should mention part of this is also a regional thing and that def comes into play where fiancé is from most people get married when they graduate high school and weddings are small events held. At home So they also might not understand that we paper planning a large wedding that requires pre planning etc