High Anxiety!

Sunshine811

Oi vei, I just need to vent. Though the whole wedding process, I feel like I've been pretty under control. High stress occassionally, but overall laid back and excited. Once the 6 week mark hit, that has changed. I feel frantic! Like there is SO much to do and then I start worrying about the things I can't control... what if the weather is awful, what is I trip?!?!, what if someone gets hammered drunk and embarrasses me in front of my new family!

I'm trying hard to let go of the stuff I can't control and take everything else one thing at a time, but I'm curious, what are you ladies doing to handle your stress?

I will say I am very lucky to have a Fi  that knows me and always is level headed and can get me to be the same. We had a no wedding talk 4th of July and really relaxed, but I wake up today and BAM right back to super high strung! Ugh

calindi

I'm with you on the anxiety.  I feel like last week was 100 days... now we're at 55 days, and I'm trying to remember to breathe.

Step one for me has been to let go of the things I can't control and trust that if something does go wrong, it will be okay.  You cannot keep people from getting drunk - they will only embarrass themselves, not you.  If you're truly worried, ask a friend or sibling or cousin to play bouncer if someone gets unruly (my brother and his buddies will kindly escort anyone who gets too drunk to the shuttle).  If you trip, it will make a funny story and you'll laugh at it later.  You'll still be getting married!  If the weather is awful, you'll have some awesome rainy day pictures (I bought a super cute umbrella just so I'd have something fun to look forward to if the rain isn't good) and you'll still be getting married.

Let go of all the things you can't control.  Then prioritize the things you want to get done - list them by "Need to do", "Would like to do", and "Think I should do".  Immediately take the "Think I should do" list and put it in a drawer somewhere - don't look at it until the other things are done.  Chances are they won't all get done, and it will be okay.  You'll still be getting married!  Then figure out a strategic plan of attack for the "Need to do" and strategize how you can do or delegate the "would like to do" list.

Sleep, no caffeine (I find wedding stress is so much worse when I drink coffee), and exercise!  Yoga!

i2012do

I have been high anxiety about things out of my control too. My mom doesnt help shes super anzious about the same things- and keeps telling me about WHO isnt talking to WHO right now in the family and who we have to sit on seperate tables and its giving me a ton of anxiety-- i feel like my mom doesn't know that I am already stressing about this stuff!!

I have been trying to focus my attention on the little details. I have been paiting table numbers, drafting our welcome letter- etcetc

These things take my mind off of the stresses and let me get back to the fun wedding stuff!

brij2006

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[QUOTE]Oi vei, I just need to vent. Though the whole wedding process, I feel like I've been pretty under control. High stress occassionally, but overall laid back and excited. Once the 6 week mark hit, that has changed. I feel frantic! Like there is SO much to do and then I start worrying about the things I can't control... what if the weather is awful, what is I trip?!?!, what if someone gets hammered drunk and embarrasses me in front of my new family! I'm trying hard to let go of the stuff I can't control and take everything else one thing at a time, but<strong> I'm curious, what are you ladies doing to handle your stress?</strong> I will say I am very lucky to have a Fi  that knows me and always is level headed and can get me to be the same. We had a no wedding talk 4th of July and really relaxed, but I wake up today and BAM right back to super high strung! Ugh
Posted by Sunshine811[/QUOTE]

I run. A lot! I've been taking out my stress on the treadmill, pavement, and weights. Let me tell you, it helps immensly, and I feel a lot better about things.

iriscarmendiaz

Watching endless hours of 30 Rock, Mad Men and Breaking Bad keeps me sane. That and ice cream. I may not be able to fit into my dress. Oh well.

KT020803

I'm in the same boat as you ladies. I've been laid back and calm planning our wedding in 8 months time.... until last night. I logged onto theknot.com and our countdown said 44 days. FULL anxiety attack. 50 days just the other day seems like a lifetime, and 44 days set me into a panic.  I paced the house for like an hour until the fiance told me to get ready to go watch fireworks, which was a welcome suprise. I got away from all the wedding stuff for a few hours and came back to it with an open mind again.
I have a list that I made in word, nothing fancy just columns. And it has a bunch of lists in one (crafts I still want to accomplish {pinterest is the devil }, things we still need to order, appointments to make, calls to make, where stuff is packed for the ceremony, where stuff is packed for the reception). Once I can see it all in front of me I think it helps me see the quantity of stuff left to do and it doesn't seem so bad. Also I don't know if you are a DIY bride but I gave myself a cut off. Ex: I can tackle 2000 more pinterest wedding crafts between now and July 25 but whatever isn't done by then, get scratched from the todo list and won't be used. I know I'll be the only person to miss those extra small details and I don't want to be a wreck any closer to the wedding.

Good luck to all!