Wedding Invite.. Plus one?

xanabela

I'm starting to write up the list of addresses for the wedding invites. One of my FI's cousin's wife passed away this week after a 14 year long battle with cancer.  We're not sending out the invites until May, which isn't too far away.  Should I put "and guest" on this family member's invite? or just leave his own name on it? (He has three sons who will all be getting separate invites with a guest). I'm so torn  TIA

calindi

I'd invite just him, because it might cause more hurt to see "and guest".

To be honest, if possible I'd hand deliver the invitation, if he doesn't live too far away or if you have family nearby that can do it.

Alternatively, you could call him up and ask him - let him know he's welcome to bring a guest, even just a friend, and you were wondering what name to put on the invitation.  That way he knows how the invitation is being addressed before you send it.  I think it is really thoughtful of you to offer him a guest, and I do think bringing a friend might make him more comfortable as I'm sure family events will be a bit bittersweet for awhile for him.

gymbugmj2k

first of all -- wait until at least late march to bring this up if you can. give him some time to process everything that happened this week.

if you're comfortable asking, just ask him.  if not, i'd invite just him -- especially since he is close family.  he'll know many other people at the wedding, and should be perfectly comfortable attending solo - especially if his sons attend as well.